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Esther Lerman, Counselor

Esther Lerman
Counselor

Esther Lerman is a Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in couples and individual therapy. She has been in private practice in the Rockridge area of Oakland,…... Read more
6239 College Ave., Suite #302, Oakland, California, 94618
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The Communication Toolbox For Your Marriage

The Communication Toolbox For Your Marriage

Jane and Carl are having the same old argument about the dishes. Jane says to Carl, You are just so untrustworthy ...
Working on the Unconscious Dynamics of your Marriage With Couples Therapy

Working on the Unconscious Dynamics of your Marriage With Couples Therapy

There are many reasons for our choice of partners. There may be strong physical or intellectual attraction, ...
John A Lundin, Psychotherapist

John A Lundin
Psychotherapist

John is an experienced therapist, who helps people from all age groups to overcome all the challenges associated with anxiety and depression. He also teaches therapy as a…... Read more
445 Bellevue Ave, Suite 202, Oakland, California, 94610
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4 Things Not to Say to Your Depressed Husband

4 Things Not to Say to Your Depressed Husband

In order for a marriage to have a fighting chance when one member is suffering from depression, it is ...
5 Warning Signs your Spouse is Depressed And What to Do About It

5 Warning Signs your Spouse is Depressed And What to Do About It

Many people are living with a spouse who is depressed and are suffering because of it. Depression can ...
Dr. Rachel Greenberg, Psychologist

Dr. Rachel Greenberg
Psychologist

For over a decade, I’ve been supporting people to deepen and sharpen their ability to transform their lives. I help you learn how to eliminate self-doubt, ... Read more
89 Moraga Way Ste B, Oakland, California, 94610
Michael Gelbart, Psychotherapist

Michael Gelbart
Psychotherapist

Incorporating and building on 30 years of Integrative Intimacy, Relationship, Self-Development and Psychotherapeutic training and service, Michael's purpose is providing…... Read more
2615 Ashby Avenue (near College Ave), Berkeley, California, 94705
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Navigating Triggers: Creating a Culture of Candor Through Conflict

Navigating Triggers: Creating a Culture of Candor Through Conflict

It is said in Genesis that Adam and Eve are Ezer K Negdo helpmates that are also opponents opposites. ...
Rulik Perla, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist

Rulik Perla, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist

Rulik Perla brings to the therapy relationship a soulful dimension and a wealth of diverse life experiences that enables him to meet you where you are with a ... Read more
1600 Shattuck Ave, Suite 200 , Berkeley, California, 94709

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Finding the Middle Ground Between Need for Privacy and Intimacy

Finding the Middle Ground Between Need for Privacy and Intimacy

Of the terrible doubt of appearances, Of the uncertainty after all, that we may be deluded, That may ...
Ryan Crochiere, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist

Ryan Crochiere, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist

Residing underneath the deepest misunderstandings lies a desire to connect and be understood.  For those of us up to the challenge marriage and ... Read more
3001 Dana Street, Berkeley, California, 94705
Hans Stahlschmidt, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist

Hans Stahlschmidt, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist

Developing and maintaining a vital and fulfilling long-term relationship is one of the most difficult challenges we face in our lifetimes. I see impasses and ... Read more
921 The Alamed, Berkeley, California, 94707
Jami Grich, Psychologist

Jami Grich
Psychologist

Jami is a clinical psychologist and has a couples only private practice in San Francisco, CA where you can find her happily in love with her husband, daughter and dog.…... Read more
San Francisco, California, San Francisco, California, 94110

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Is Your Spouse Defensive? Read this!

Is Your Spouse Defensive? Read this!

Me You never take the garbage out! Husband That s not true. Me You re not listening to me! Husband Yes ...
To Fight or Not to Fight? Individual Therapy Can Help

To Fight or Not to Fight? Individual Therapy Can Help

At some point in my late twenties, it became clear to me that the men I was most attracted to were the ...
Is there An Upside to Infidelity? Can An Affair Strengthen Your Marriage?

Is there An Upside to Infidelity? Can An Affair Strengthen Your Marriage?

Let me clarify right away that I never condone affairs. However, if an affair has happened, and you re ...
Why You Should Hold Hands When You Fight

Why You Should Hold Hands When You Fight

If you re anything like I used to be, the last thing you want is to be touched by your partner when you ...
Is Your Marriage Alive or Dead?

Is Your Marriage Alive or Dead?

I have tried and failed twice to read Martin Buber s timeless text, I and Thou. The first time, recommended ...
Kira Asatryan, Relationship Coach, Couples Therapy

Kira Asatryan
Relationship Coach, Couples Therapy

Kira is a certified relationship coach, author, blogger, loneliness expert, and speaker. She has a unique passion for helping those who feel lonely in this world. Kira…... Read more
SoMa, San Francisco, California, 94123
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How to Build Deep Connections & Stay Happy. Interview with Author Kira Asatryan

How to Build Deep Connections & Stay Happy. Interview with Author Kira Asatryan

Kira Asatryan is a certified relationship coach and author of Stop Being Lonely Three Simple Steps to ...
Kavitha Goldowitz, Psychotherapist

Kavitha Goldowitz
Psychotherapist

Kavitha Goldowitz Marriage is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and she offers therapy in two convenient offices in the bay area. She adopts a primarily…... Read more
220 Montgomery Street, Suite 400, San Francisco, California, 94104
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Meditate Your Way to a Happier Marriage

Meditate Your Way to a Happier Marriage

In recent years, meditation has become a very familiar buzzword in our popular culture. You might have ...
Practical Tools to Grow your Love Bank

Practical Tools to Grow your Love Bank

What do relationships and financial planning have in common? Both need constant monitoring, attention ...
Susi Ferrarello, Philosophical Consultant

Susi Ferrarello
Philosophical Consultant

Susi is a philosophical consultant with a rich experience of 10 years in consulting and teaching. She has a doctorate in Philosophy from Sorbonne University and an M.A in…... Read more
842 California St, San Francisco, California, 94108
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“Marriage is Dead, Long Live Marriage!”

“Marriage is Dead, Long Live Marriage!”

This is the title of a book written by Jungian psychotherapist Guggenb hl Craig he s also the author ...
Lindsay Goodlin, Therapist

Lindsay Goodlin
Therapist

Lindsay Goodlin, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, completed a post-masters Fellowship at UC Berkeley and has over ten years of experience in the Clinical Social Work…... Read more
Lindsay Goodlin, LCSW, San Francisco, California, 94108

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4 Tips to Set the Foundation for a Lasting Relationship

4 Tips to Set the Foundation for a Lasting Relationship

The butterflies, flirty exchanges and romantic dates are an exciting and wonderful part of the dating ...
Shana Ree Gann, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist

Shana Ree Gann, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist

Specializing in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Sex Therapy.... Read more
155 Montgomery Street Suite 1010, San Francisco, California, 94104
Sarah Korda, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist

Sarah Korda, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist

I help perfectionists find joy and freedom in not being perfect. I work to release the anxiety, depression, and grief that can be caused by attempting to ... Read more
4216 18th Street, San Francisco, California, 94114
Felicia Keller Boyle, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist

Felicia Keller Boyle, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist

As a somatic therapist, I help couples connect with their deep desires and voice their fears. These unspoken fears are often what have us missing each other. I ... Read more
2148A Market Street, San Francisco, California, 94114
Sara Alexander, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist

Sara Alexander, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist

I've been helping couples navigate the ups and downs of relationships/marriage for 38 years.  I like to focus the therapy conversation as much as possible ... Read more
3923a Sacramento Street, San Francisco, California, 94118
Seth Ambrose, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist

Seth Ambrose, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist

Many couples live with the myth that a loving relationship should be easy, effortless -- and if it isn't, something is seriously wrong and perhaps the ... Read more
1317 18th Street, San Francisco, California, 94107
Joree Rose, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist

Joree Rose, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist

Joree Rose, founder of the Bay Area Mindfulness and Therapy Center, has a Master's in Counseling Psychology and is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Through her…... Read more
Bay Area Mindfulness and Therapy Center, 50 Oak Ct. Suite 105, Danville, California, 94526
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Why Love Isn’t Enough Always and What to Do Then?

Why Love Isn’t Enough Always and What to Do Then?

This summer, my boyfriend and I traveled to Europe. We had 5 glorious, romantic days in Paris, and then ...
Surina Mazzola, Psychologist

Surina Mazzola
Psychologist

Dr. Mazzola has extensive experience working with individuals, couples, and families. All of her therapeutic services are steeped in a strength-based approach. With ... Read more
3860 Blackhawk Road Suite 140, Danville, California, 94506
Michelle  Joy, Psychotherapist

Michelle Joy
Psychotherapist

Michelle Joy has been with The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, CA, since 2002, and currently a therapist on staff. She teaches advanced classes to therapists and is a…... Read more
3705 Haven Ave, Suite #125, Menlo Park, California, 94025

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Ways to Say “I Love You”

Ways to Say “I Love You”

My partner should just know I love them. I m with them, aren t I? In my private practice with couples, ...
It's Not the Dishwasher: Tips to Emotionally Connect with your Spouse Better!

It's Not the Dishwasher: Tips to Emotionally Connect with your Spouse Better!

Couples often come into my office reporting, we had a heated argument over the silliest, most minor thing. ...

Find the Perfect Therapist in Oakland

There’s nothing wrong in seeking help. You sometimes just need someone to talk to, to share your problems with and get to the roots in a secure, confident environment. Therapists are all ears to you!

Life’s all about taking the next step forward. A new relationship, a new career, relocation, finances or family, at times, can be a bit unnerving and challenging, so, it’s absolutely normal to seek assistance.

Therapy is incredibly effective for people with mental health conditions and it’s worth it even if you don’t have any medical issue.

Therapy is a magnificently versatile tool, it isn’t just the answer to impregnable relationships troubles. It is also the answer to trivial, seemingly inconsequential issues encountered in a relationship. Therapy shouldn’t be the last resort to salvage a bond but the stepping stone to nip surfacing issues in the bud.

How can I set goals for therapy?

Now that you are here seeking help, you have passed the first hurdle. Congratulations! But therapists do not have magic wands, they can’t make our problems vanish in thin air. Don’t let ungrounded expectations make your therapy sessions fruitless. Be objective about what it is that your desire from therapy. For that, you need to set to goals. Goal setting is important because it equips you to make a smooth transition from a messy headspace to a clearer state of mind.

Here are some things to consider when setting SMART goals for therapy-

Specific- Set specific goals. Chalk out the specific pain points of your relationship and aim to resolve them through therapy.

Measurable- Make sure that the goals are measurable. For instance, if you are not spending enough time with each other, you can set goals like going out on a date at least once a week.

Attainable- Be realistic when setting goals, they should be attainable. Talk to your therapist and get a fair idea of what you should be able to achieve through therapy. Then, set goals accordingly.

Relevant- The goals should be relevant. Say for an example, if you and your partner have pent up resentment, then setting goals like going on date nights is not going to help. You have to set relevant goals that will help to resolve the existing resentment Again, talk to your therapist about the kind of goals you should have.

Time frame- Set a realistic time frame when setting a goal. Keep in mind your current relationship dynamics. Years of accumulated damage in a relationship can’t be repaired overnight.

Though therapy offers the required assistance to sail through miniscule issues to deeper marital hiccups, resolving tiffs before they fester into graver problems can save you from the forthcoming pain and heartbreak.

However, even if you’re facing serious personal conflict or mental health issues in your life, you don’t have to feel hopeless! Remember, this too shall pass.

All you need to do is talk to a licensed therapist. Finding a therapist can be overwhelming, but not here. We help you find the right therapist for you, in your city.

How can I tell if a therapist is right for me?

It’s easy to tell if your therapist:

  • Is located in your area.
  • Specializes in your issue.
  • Behaves ethically, shows professional and empathic behavior.
  • Talks about confidentiality and emergency protocol.
  • Recommends therapy that never conflicts your values and beliefs.
  • Never overshares and knows boundaries.
  • Listens you, remembers key facts and concerns.
  • Is trustworthy and likeable.
  • makes you feel everything is ‘right’.

Not sure what questions to ask a therapist

These sample questions may help you.

  • My problem is [Your Problem]. How would you go about treating that?
  • How will my confidentiality be assured?
  • How available are you, even beyond the sessions?
  • What are your fees?
  • Do you accept insurance?
  • How long do you typically work with clients?
  • Does your therapy more focused on past or present?

What can be my treatment options?

Ask your therapist about your treatment options, like medication, dietary changes, lifestyle changes or alternative healing therapies. You therapist will discuss each treatment option in detail, along with their pros and cons.