Esther Lerman

Esther Lerman, MFT
Counselor

Esther Lerman is a Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in couples and individual therapy. She has been in private practice in the Rockridge area of Oakland, California for over 27 years....
6239 College Ave., Suite #302, Oakland, California, 94618
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My Contributions

The Communication Toolbox For Your Marriage

Jane and Carl are having the same old argument about the dishes. Jane says to Carl, You are just so untrustworthy ...

Working on the Unconscious Dynamics of your Marriage With Couples Therapy

There are many reasons for our choice of partners. There may be strong physical or intellectual attraction, ...
John A Lundin

John A Lundin, Psy D
Psychotherapist

John is an experienced therapist, who helps people from all age groups to overcome all the challenges associated with anxiety and depression. He also teaches therapy as a subject in The Wright Institute of Berkeley and the…...
445 Bellevue Ave, Suite 202, Oakland, California, 94610
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5 Warning Signs your Spouse is Depressed And What to Do About It

Many people are living with a spouse who is depressed and are suffering because of it. Depression can ...
Michael Gelbart

Michael Gelbart, LCSW
Psychotherapist

Incorporating and building on 30 years of Integrative Intimacy, Relationship, Self-Development and Psychotherapeutic training and service, Michael's purpose is providing presence, resources, guidance, insight and support to people…...
2615 Ashby Avenue (near College Ave), Berkeley, California, 94705
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Navigating Triggers: Creating a Culture of Candor Through Conflict

It is said in Genesis that Adam and Eve are Ezer K Negdo helpmates that are also opponents opposites. ...
Rulik Perla

Rulik Perla, MFT
Marriage and Family Therapist

Rulik Perla brings to the therapy relationship a soulful dimension and a wealth of diverse life experiences that enables him to meet you where you are with a profound depth of being. He is a trained ...
1600 Shattuck Ave, Suite 200, Berkeley, California, 94709

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Finding the Middle Ground Between Need for Privacy and Intimacy

Of the terrible doubt of appearances, Of the uncertainty after all, that we may be deluded, That may ...
Kira Asatryan

Kira Asatryan, CPC, CRC
Relationship Coach, Couples Therapy

Kira is a certified relationship coach, author, blogger, loneliness expert, and speaker. She has a unique passion for helping those who feel lonely in this world. Kira maintains a private coaching practice in San Francisco where…...
SoMa, San Francisco, California, 94123
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How to Build Deep Connections & Stay Happy. Interview with Author Kira Asatryan

Kira Asatryan is a certified relationship coach and author of Stop Being Lonely Three Simple Steps to ...
Kavitha Goldowitz

Kavitha Goldowitz, MA, LMFT
Psychotherapist

Kavitha Goldowitz Marriage is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and she offers therapy in two convenient offices in the bay area. She adopts a primarily strength-based approach to psychotherapy and draws from various…...
220 Montgomery Street, Suite 400, San Francisco, California, 94954
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My Contributions

Practical Tools to Grow your Love Bank

What do relationships and financial planning have in common? Both need constant monitoring, attention ...

Useful Tips for a Mindful Marital Separation

Separation from your spouse, whether it is after two years or 20 years of marriage, is an experience ...
Susi Ferrarello

Susi Ferrarello, PhD
Philosophical Consultant

Susi is a philosophical consultant with a rich experience of 10 years in consulting and teaching. She has a doctorate in Philosophy from Sorbonne University and an M.A in human rights and political science from University of…...
842 California St, San Francisco, California, 94108
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“Marriage is Dead, Long Live Marriage!”

This is the title of a book written by Jungian psychotherapist Guggenb hl Craig he s also the author ...
Lindsay Goodlin

Lindsay Goodlin, LCSW
Therapist

Lindsay Goodlin, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, completed a post-masters Fellowship at UC Berkeley and has over ten years of experience in the Clinical Social Work field. Lindsay has provided individual and group therapy to a…...
Lindsay Goodlin, LCSW, San Francisco, California, 94108

My Contributions

4 Tips to Set the Foundation for a Lasting Relationship

The butterflies, flirty exchanges and romantic dates are an exciting and wonderful part of the dating ...
Joree Rose

Joree Rose, LMFT, #93545
Marriage and Family Therapist

Joree Rose, founder of the Bay Area Mindfulness and Therapy Center, has a Master's in Counseling Psychology and is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Through her extensive training in mindfulness, Joree guides her clients…...
Bay Area Mindfulness and Therapy Center, 50 Oak Ct. Suite 105, Danville, California, 94526
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Why Love Isn’t Enough Always and What to Do Then?

This summer, my boyfriend and I traveled to Europe. We had 5 glorious, romantic days in Paris, and then ...
Michelle  Joy

Michelle Joy, MFT
Psychotherapist

Michelle Joy has been with The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, CA, since 2002, and currently a therapist on staff. She teaches advanced classes to therapists and is a local and national speaker for professional associations on…...
3705 Haven Ave, Suite #125, Menlo Park, California, 94025

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Ways to Say “I Love You”

My partner should just know I love them. I m with them, aren t I? In my private practice with couples, ...

It's Not the Dishwasher: Tips to Emotionally Connect with your Spouse Better!

Couples often come into my office reporting, we had a heated argument over the silliest, most minor thing. ...

Find the Perfect Therapist in Oakland

There’s nothing wrong in seeking help. You sometimes just need someone to talk to, to share your problems with and get to the roots in a secure, confident environment. Therapists are all ears to you!

Life’s all about taking the next step forward. A new relationship, a new career, relocation, finances or family, at times, can be a bit unnerving and challenging, so, it’s absolutely normal to seek assistance.

Therapy is incredibly effective for people with mental health conditions and it’s worth it even if you don’t have any medical issue.

Therapy is a magnificently versatile tool, it isn’t just the answer to impregnable relationships troubles. It is also the answer to trivial, seemingly inconsequential issues encountered in a relationship. Therapy shouldn’t be the last resort to salvage a bond but the stepping stone to nip surfacing issues in the bud.

Though therapy offers the required assistance to sail through miniscule issues to deeper marital hiccups, resolving tiffs before they fester into graver problems can save you from the forthcoming pain and heartbreak.

However, even if you’re facing serious personal conflict or mental health issues in your life, you don’t have to feel hopeless! Remember, this too shall pass.

All you need to do is talk to a licensed therapist. Finding a therapist can be overwhelming, but not here. We help you find the right therapist for you, in your city.

How can I tell if a therapist is right for me?

It’s easy to tell if your therapist:

  • Is located in your area.
  • Specializes in your issue.
  • Behaves ethically, shows professional and empathic behavior.
  • Talks about confidentiality and emergency protocol.
  • Recommends therapy that never conflicts your values and beliefs.
  • Never overshares and knows boundaries.
  • Listens you, remembers key facts and concerns.
  • Is trustworthy and likeable.
  • makes you feel everything is ‘right’.

Not sure what questions to ask a therapist

These sample questions may help you.

  • My problem is [Your Problem]. How would you go about treating that?
  • How will my confidentiality be assured?
  • How available are you, even beyond the sessions?
  • What are your fees?
  • Do you accept insurance?
  • How long do you typically work with clients?
  • Does your therapy more focused on past or present?

How can I set goals for therapy?

Now that you are here seeking help, you have passed the first hurdle. Congratulations! But therapists do not have magic wands, they can’t make our problems vanish in thin air. Don’t let ungrounded expectations make your therapy sessions fruitless. Be objective about what it is that your desire from therapy. For that, you need to set to goals. Goal setting is important because it equips you to make a smooth transition from a messy headspace to a clearer state of mind.

Here are some things to consider when setting SMART goals for therapy-

Specific- Set specific goals. Chalk out the specific pain points of your relationship and aim to resolve them through therapy.

Measurable- Make sure that the goals are measurable. For instance, if you are not spending enough time with each other, you can set goals like going out on a date at least once a week.

Attainable- Be realistic when setting goals, they should be attainable. Talk to your therapist and get a fair idea of what you should be able to achieve through therapy. Then, set goals accordingly.

Relevant- The goals should be relevant. Say for an example, if you and your partner have pent up resentment, then setting goals like going on date nights is not going to help. You have to set relevant goals that will help to resolve the existing resentment Again, talk to your therapist about the kind of goals you should have.

Time frame- Set a realistic time frame when setting a goal. Keep in mind your current relationship dynamics. Years of accumulated damage in a relationship can’t be repaired overnight.

What can be my treatment options?

Ask your therapist about your treatment options, like medication, dietary changes, lifestyle changes or alternative healing therapies. You therapist will discuss each treatment option in detail, along with their pros and cons.