Amanda Chinchilla

Amanda Chinchilla,  LMFT, CSATC

Amanda is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist. She completed her Bachelor's of Science degree in Psychology from UCLA and her Master of Science degree in Counseling with an emphasis on…...
6695 E Pacific Coast Hwy Suite 135, Long Beach, California, 90803
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Six Stages of Paving the Way to Healing for the Spouse of a Sex Addict

Husbands or wives of sex addicts often ask, Where should I go from here? If you are the spouse of a sex ...

8 Signs Your Partner May Have a Porn or Sex Addiction

Many spouses of sex addicts have difficulty trusting their gut instincts that something is wrong in their ...
Tom Buckley

Tom Buckley, CASII
Psychotherapist

Tom is a CASII (certifed addiction specialist) with a bachelors degree in Social Work from California State University of Los Angeles. He is the Outreach Coordinator for NOVUS Mindful Life Institute, which helps individuals…...
6695 East Pacific Coast Highway, Suite 135, Long Beach, California, 90803
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Loving an Addict

Loving the addict can be one of the most difficult and gut wrenching experiences, especially for a husband ...
Duane Osterlind

Duane Osterlind, LMFT, CSAT
Marriage and Family Therapist

Duane is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist, and co-founder of NOVUS Mindful Life Institute, which helps individuals affected by sex addiction. His vision is to provide comprehensive…...
Novus Mindful Life Institute, 6695 E. Pacific Coast Highway, Suite 135, Long Beach, California, 90803
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Expert Advice for a Thriving Long Distance Relationship

It is no news that a lot of the times, long distance relationships are not expected to work. You might ...

How to Resolve Trust Issues in a Relationship

A loving relationship can be a beautiful union of two people. To achieve this goal, there are several ...
Gail Desilets

Gail Desilets, LMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist

Gail Desilets is an LMFT based in California, specializing in individual and couples therapy. She works as a private practitioner with many clients on cognitive behavioral therapy, adult issues like divorce and separation....
3780 Kilroy Airport Way, Suite 200, Long Beach, California, 90806
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How to be a More Loving and Caring Partner

I was recently told about someone who is a very practical and successful lady, not very romantic and ...

Pre-Marriage Tips and Advice for Couples

So you are thinking about getting married or are engaged? Congratulations! It can be a tremendous relief ...
Mary Kay Cocharo

Mary Kay Cocharo, LMFT
Marriage And Family Therapists

Mary Kay Cocharo, LMFT, "The Couples Therapist", has been working with couples and families for over 25 years through her private practice in West Los Angeles, California. Her work focuses on helping couples rediscover the joy of…...
11340 West Olympic Blvd. Suite 210, Los Angeles, California, 90064
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Should We Stay Married for the Sake of our Child?

Hard question, but an interesting one. There is no simple answer, but here are my thoughts Between you ...

8 Essential Tips to Communicate and Connect with Your Partner

All couples seem to want the same thing from their intimate relationships. They want to be inspired, ...
Jamey A Hecht

Jamey A Hecht, MA, PhD, MFTI
Psychotherapist

Jameyâ's main areas of work are depression, anxiety, blocked creativity, self-esteem, life-transition issues, and relationships. He came to psychotherapy with a PhD in Literature, which he had taught for 14 years. He has…...
The Relational Center 2717 South Robertson Blvd, Los Angeles, California, 90034
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Couples Therapy: What Is It For?

Couples generally come to therapy for one of three conscious or unconscious) reasons to find a way to ...
Jeffrey Chernin

Jeffrey Chernin, PhD, MFT
Counselor

Jeffrey Chernin is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a book on relationships and intimacy called Achieving Intimacy: How to Find a Loving Relationship that Lasts....
6310 San Vicente Blvd, Los Angeles, California, 90048
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How to get Past Emotional Distance and End the Endless Arguments

Brian and Maggie came into my office for couples counseling. It was the first session. They both initially ...
Marcie Scranton

Marcie Scranton, LMFT
Psychotherapist

Marcie Scranton is an LMFT who specializes in relationship conflicts, major life transitions, depression, anxiety, and issues arising from recovery. In addition, she is trained in Trauma-Focused CBT, Systematic Training for…...
11911 San Vicente Blvd., Suite 240, Los Angeles, California, 90049
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The Value of Conflict In Relationships

If there s one guarantee in any relationship, it s that sooner or later you and your partner are going ...

How to “Win” Every Argument

When couples disagree, it can often come down to a question of whose needs matter more. If one person ...
KHara McKinney

KHara McKinney, LMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist

K'Hara is an LMFT and works with families and individuals in addressing their intimacy issues related to sexuality. She began writing about issues that couples face throughout their relationship. K’Hara has worked with…...
2001 Barrington Ave, Los Angeles, California, 90025
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Fun Date Night Ideas You Can Enjoy After Marriage

Out of the beauty of marriage arises an ease and comfortability that you begin to develop with your spouse. ...
Dana Julian

Dana Julian, MFT
Therapist

Dana Julian is an MFT and has been certified as American Association of Couples and Sex Therapist (AACAST). She is an MA in Psychology and a BFA from New York university....
2904 Rowena Ave., Los Angeles, California, 90039
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The Importance of Friends After Marriage

Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by ...
Mary Speed

Dr. Mary Speed, PhD., LMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist

Growing up in Newfoundland, she and her friends spent many winters pondering what life is all about. Her friends went into teaching, and she went on listening. Though she has 7 formal degrees, her best teacher has been and…...
620 Oak Harbor Boulevard, Suite 101, Slidell, Los Angeles, California, 70458

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3 Secrets of Happy Relationships - Believe, Ask, Receive

To have the things we want, we go through the time tested process of believing, asking then receiving. ...

Adopted Fathers- Raising Others’ Kids as Your Own

When a single mom goes out on a date with somebody new, it always winds up feeling like a job interview. ...
Moushumi Ghose

Moushumi Ghose, LMFT
Sex Therapist

Moushumi Ghose is a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has been specializing in positive sexuality for over a decade.  She is the author of several books on sex and relationships, the creator of…...
10649 Riverside Dr., Toluca Lake, Los Angeles, California, 91602
Hilya Delband Tehrani

Hilya Delband Tehrani, 
Psychologist

Dr. Tehrani is a licensed clinical psychologist, child development specialist and behavior analyst who has been providing therapeutic services for children and adolescents for over 17 years. She specializes in working ...
Connected Strides, Los Angeles, California, 90017

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5 Things You Can Begin Doing Tomorrow to Save Your Marriage and Make It Strong

The famous idiom goes it takes two to tango, and in fact, much of the success of a marriage or any relationship ...
William Feuerborn

William Feuerborn, LCSW, CSATS
Psychotherapist

William is Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist - Supervisor, and is the Co-Founder and Clinical Director of NOVUS Mindful Life Institute, which helps individuals affected by sex addiction. He has…...
2900 South Harbor Blvd, Suite 220, Santa Ana, California, 92704
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What Really is True Love?

Is there someone you love so much that you would build a monument to last for eternity? Helen Fisher, ...

Six Days to Recovery from Addiction. Day 6 – Recover With Your Very Own Team

Many people for any of their own reasons attempt the path to recovery by themselves. Unfortunately, this ...
Andrea Brandt

Andrea Brandt, PhD, MFT
Therapist

Dr. Andrea Brandt is a marriage and family therapist located in Santa Monica California. Andrea brings over 35 years of clinical experience to the role of individual family therapist, couples counseling, group therapy and anger…...
1018 24th street, Santa Monica, California, 90403
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Tying the Knot After 50 - 5 Steps to Follow

When you were younger the traditional path of dating was straightforward fall in love, get married, have ...

Got Marriage Problems? Blame Hollywood

Growing up most of us had two models for what adult romantic relationships should look like. One, we had our parents or caregivers which for many of us ...
Darlene Lancer

Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT
Counselor

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an expert author on relationships and codependency. She’s counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally....
Darlene Lancer, Santa Monica, California, 90402

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Self-Esteem Makes Successful Relationships

Research has well established the link between good self esteem and relationship satisfaction. Self esteem ...
Kathalynn Davis

Kathalynn Davis, MSW
Life Coach

Kathalynn has studied both Eastern and Western philosophies and teachings. She has traveled across the globe to meet with many of the world's most renowned teachers, swamis, avatars and healers and have integrated their various…...
One with success, West Hollywood, California, 90069
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How to Truly Love & Be Loved?

As a psychotherapist and life coach, hundreds of clients come through my door. They have come to me for ...

Find the Perfect Therapist in Long Beach

There’s nothing wrong in seeking help. You sometimes just need someone to talk to, to share your problems with and get to the roots in a secure, confident environment. Therapists are all ears to you!

Life’s all about taking the next step forward. A new relationship, a new career, relocation, finances or family, at times, can be a bit unnerving and challenging, so, it’s absolutely normal to seek assistance.

Therapy is incredibly effective for people with mental health conditions and it’s worth it even if you don’t have any medical issue.

Therapy is a magnificently versatile tool, it isn’t just the answer to impregnable relationships troubles. It is also the answer to trivial, seemingly inconsequential issues encountered in a relationship. Therapy shouldn’t be the last resort to salvage a bond but the stepping stone to nip surfacing issues in the bud.

Though therapy offers the required assistance to sail through miniscule issues to deeper marital hiccups, resolving tiffs before they fester into graver problems can save you from the forthcoming pain and heartbreak.

However, even if you’re facing serious personal conflict or mental health issues in your life, you don’t have to feel hopeless! Remember, this too shall pass.

All you need to do is talk to a licensed therapist. Finding a therapist can be overwhelming, but not here. We help you find the right therapist for you, in your city.

How can I tell if a therapist is right for me?

It’s easy to tell if your therapist:

  • Is located in your area.
  • Specializes in your issue.
  • Behaves ethically, shows professional and empathic behavior.
  • Talks about confidentiality and emergency protocol.
  • Recommends therapy that never conflicts your values and beliefs.
  • Never overshares and knows boundaries.
  • Listens you, remembers key facts and concerns.
  • Is trustworthy and likeable.
  • makes you feel everything is ‘right’.

Not sure what questions to ask a therapist

These sample questions may help you.

  • My problem is [Your Problem]. How would you go about treating that?
  • How will my confidentiality be assured?
  • How available are you, even beyond the sessions?
  • What are your fees?
  • Do you accept insurance?
  • How long do you typically work with clients?
  • Does your therapy more focused on past or present?

How can I set goals for therapy?

Now that you are here seeking help, you have passed the first hurdle. Congratulations! But therapists do not have magic wands, they can’t make our problems vanish in thin air. Don’t let ungrounded expectations make your therapy sessions fruitless. Be objective about what it is that your desire from therapy. For that, you need to set to goals. Goal setting is important because it equips you to make a smooth transition from a messy headspace to a clearer state of mind.

Here are some things to consider when setting SMART goals for therapy-

Specific- Set specific goals. Chalk out the specific pain points of your relationship and aim to resolve them through therapy.

Measurable- Make sure that the goals are measurable. For instance, if you are not spending enough time with each other, you can set goals like going out on a date at least once a week.

Attainable- Be realistic when setting goals, they should be attainable. Talk to your therapist and get a fair idea of what you should be able to achieve through therapy. Then, set goals accordingly.

Relevant- The goals should be relevant. Say for an example, if you and your partner have pent up resentment, then setting goals like going on date nights is not going to help. You have to set relevant goals that will help to resolve the existing resentment Again, talk to your therapist about the kind of goals you should have.

Time frame- Set a realistic time frame when setting a goal. Keep in mind your current relationship dynamics. Years of accumulated damage in a relationship can’t be repaired overnight.

What can be my treatment options?

Ask your therapist about your treatment options, like medication, dietary changes, lifestyle changes or alternative healing therapies. You therapist will discuss each treatment option in detail, along with their pros and cons.