5 Tips On How Not To Ruin Your Relationship When Planning A Wedding
Planning a wedding can be incredibly stressful. Even the most committed couples can find that the demands of putting it all together can take its toll. Arguments can arise about any number of issues from the amount time spent focusing on each other to money being spent on the wedding.
Here are five sure-fire ways to planning your big day without destroying your relationship in the process.
1. Always make your relationship your first priority
Your love for each other is the reason why you decided to get married in the first place. Realize that even if you are incredibly in love, the potential for disagreements will arise. This is especially true during times of stress. Make sure to discuss as much regarding your wedding and other aspects of your life after your marriage as possible. Make a point of scheduling a date night at least once a week where you can focus only on each other rather than any other aspect of “The Event.” You will find that even a small mental break from wedding planning can make a huge difference.
2. Don’t sweat the small details
With the way that the wedding industry is set up, it can be all-too tempting to spend an inordinate amount of time fussing over every minute detail. How much does the the shade of the table cloths, the typeface on save the date cards, or whether or not your wedding bands are perfectly matched really affect you in the end? Take a step back and remind yourself that many of these things will work themselves out. For example, the wedding bands that you chose really don’t have to match. Choose the ring that suits your taste the best.
3. Compromise is a good thing
One of you might want to have a small, simple ceremony with the emphasis on the reception, while the other prefers a big wedding and a reception to match. Remember that the two of you are on the same side and sometimes the best answer can be found somewhere in the middle. Look at your wedding budget then outline the pros and cons of each choice in how it will affect the budget. This is the kind of exercise that ends up being great practice for other issues that will inevitably come up during the course of your marriage.
4. Engage the services of a professional wedding planner
Even if you are super organized, entrusting at least some of the aspects of planning your upcoming nuptials to a wedding planner can be a godsend! Many brides-to-be have tons of ideas in terms of magazine clippings and even Pinterest pages that they want to possibly incorporate into their wedding day. You can take these same ideas to a professional wedding planner along with your budget and put together a spectacular, one-of-a-kind event either for the ceremony, the reception or both. The services of a wedding planner are often quite affordable. What’s more is that they can also alleviate pre-wedding stress by making arrangements and making sure that nothing is overlooked.
5. Think of your wedding reception as an after party!
You and your beloved are the stars of the show. A successful production like this one deserves a great big sigh of relief! What better way to relax among family and friends than at your wedding reception? Let your friends or relatives help you put it together.
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