Physical intimacy is a crucial aspect of any relationship whether you’ve just begun dating each other or have spent an entire lifetime enjoying each other’s company! But then, out of embarrassment or shyness, women often back out of talking about their sexual health and well-being with their partners.
Remember, constant communication lays the foundation for a healthy sexual relationship. Open the communication channel by addressing some of the crucial sexual health topics with your partner, which include but are not limited to the following pointers:
1. Discuss your likes and dislikes
The first and the foremost rule of the game is talking about your sexual preferences.
Surely, there are activities you like and there are activities that make you cringe. Just because you’re in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean that you’ve to go with the flow only to please them and suffer in silence. Talking to your partner about your sexual habits, likes and dislikes is the first step to build trust and confidence. This is what makes lovemaking a joyful experience for both of you. It will also help you both bond together like never before.
2. Discuss contraception methods
Contraception and protected sex is the first topic you need to tackle as you can’t take any risks like STD/STI or pregnancy. Start by stating that you need to talk about safe sex or talk about what you think of this topic much before you take the leap! As the next step, you may visit a gynaecologist together for contraception options and find out which one will be the best fit. Remember, it is a shared responsibility and you need to explore it together.
With a number of contraception measures available, take your pick and select the one, which is the most effective for you and your partner.
3. Discuss sexual past
Your sexual history can come to haunt you if you’re not open about it or hide it from your current partner. At the same time, it is also important to learn their sexual history too so that you’re not at risk. There’s no “good” time to talk about it. Just find out a time when you can talk at length on the topic. Begin by casually mentioning your previous relationships and take it from there. This will help you take the burden off your chest and know what your partner has to say. This exercise will also make you trust each other more.
4. Discuss STDs/STIs
Sexually Transmitted Diseases and Sexually Transmitted Infections are red flags in any relationship and it’s a given to be clear about this topic beforehand to avoid the misconstrued opinions.
Also, it’s a good practice to get both of you checked for STDs and STIs before getting intimate. This can be a lifesaving advice because you both may be unaware of an underlying disease and transmit it to each other during physical intimacy.
Sample this, approximately 1 in 8 HIV-positive people have no clue that they have the infection. Also, in youngsters 13-24, around 44 percent of them infected with HIV didn’t know they were infected.
And let’s not forget that these diseases and infections also extend to people with same-sex partners because anyone can be affected by the disease. In fact, women are more susceptible to STDs and STIs than men. The reason being the thin lining of the vagina, which lets viruses and bacteria to pass through fairly easily as opposed to the tougher skin of the penis.
However, don’t be brash while approaching this topic as it may look like an invasion of the person’s privacy. Talk them into it so that they feel comfortable and inclined to take an informed decision like getting tested.
5. Discuss alternatives to vaginal surgery
It’s common for you lady parts to become loose after a certain period of time. While there are several methods to restore the elasticity, some permanent and some temporary, you should always select what is best for you instead of what you need to “impress” your partner!
Many women opt for vaginal surgery, which can have adverse effects. They are clearly unaware of alternatives like a vagina tightening stick. There’s no need to opt for surgery and cough up loads of money to pay for something that may not last forever!
6. Discuss pregnancy and intimacy
If you’ve just had a vaginal delivery, there are chances that you’ll have to refrain from sex for at least four weeks post giving birth. During this period, you can still be intimate with your partner by indulging in foreplay. This will give you time to recover from the pregnancy and delivery.
Also, this way, the vaginal dryness, tender breasts or slower arousal, which is quite common during these times, will not come between you and your partner! Talking about sexual health need not be difficult if you try and open up to your partner slowly. Just take one step at a time, and you’ll both come to know how to make each other comfortable. This will eventually help your relationship thrive!
When you want the relationship to work for you, the elephant in the room needs to be addressed immediately. There’s no other option!