What to Do When My Anniversary Lands on Yom Kippur?
All members of the Jewish community are well aware of Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement. It is the holiest day of the year. Yom Kippur which is September 22–23, 2015 this year is the day in which those who practice Judaism are closest to God and is the day that He will cleanse, purify and forgive. The day is an important one that is taken very seriously. The tone is often solemn with underlying joy and involves 5 prayer services. Although a significant holiday, some couples are faced with the dilemma of their wedding anniversary landing on Yom Kippur. What do you do? How should this situation be handled? Here’s how.
Have a conversation
People practice their faith differently. Some have a more relaxed approach while others take a more serious stance on the topic. If your anniversary happens to fall on Yom Kippur, have a conversation with your spouse concerning how the day will be handled. Perhaps you want to integrate some celebration while your spouse rather postpone or celebrate a little early. In some cases, you and your spouse may be on the same page. Whatever the situation may be, both sides must be heard in order to get the ball rolling on deciding what to do.
Always be considerate
Since this discussion involves religion, always display some consideration. Do not allow the conversation to turn into an argument and avoid coming across as disrespectful. In addition to being considerate, be open to compromise. Yom Kippur is an extremely important holiday so be sure to show respect for the day whether you are Jewish or not.
Make a decision
After taking the time to talk it out and hear what both sides have to say and make a decision. There are a lot of options in this situation. Couples can plan a wonderful celebration before or after Yom Kippur, make sure to attend the synagogue for prayer or something in between that suits the situation best. Marriage is about being able to discuss more serious topics and come up with a solution that works for both parties.
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