5 Ways to Kiss Mom Guilt Goodbye Today
Every mom out there knows what it’s like to experience mom guilt. It creeps up on you at the most random times, pushing you down and making you feel horrible.
What is mom guilt? Is it real?
Mom guilt is nothing but the cumulative feelings of guilt, doubt, anxiousness or uncertainty experienced by most mothers, particularly new, working or single ones.
The whole drama of overstressing yourself about your child’s welfare and the continuous fear of failing as a mother or falling short of their expectations in some way or the other is what defines mom guilt.
We all love our kids, so why is it that we compare ourselves to other parents and then claim to be the worst mom in the world? It happens to us all, and if you’re experiencing mom guilt today, you’re not alone.
Instead of going down that spiral of despair, do something about the mom guilt you’re feeling. It’s funny how just one or two actions can change your day from a “guilty” one to a happy one. None of us deserve to feel bad for doing our best.
Check out these tips to kiss your mom guilt goodbye –
1. Take five minutes
Whether you’ve been so busy that you hardly can interact with your kids or you’ve just been distracted and not had the best quality time, one of the best ways to push aside the guilt is to take five minutes.
Drop your phone, turn off the TV and music, and focus for five minutes on your children. Play with them! Talk to them about their day, ask what they’d like to do, and do it. It doesn’t have to be fancy.
Most days, you’ll find yourself spending more than five minutes with them and really enjoying the time. But, if it’s one of those days where you don’t have a moment to spare, take five minutes doing something fun and silly, then go back to your list of to-dos.
2. Get a babysitter
It might seem strange to try and get rid of mom guilt by getting a babysitter, but sometimes, we just need alone time.
As the saying goes, you can’t fill up someone else’s cup if your own is empty. Too often, us moms have empty cups! We give and we give, then we’re left drained and stressed out.
Grabbing a babysitter for the kids and having an hour or two to yourself can help you realize you’re actually an amazing mom.
3. Invite them to help
This works for both toddlers and teens (though your teens may be a bit more sassy about it).
If the day is busy and everything looks like a roadrunner came through, don’t feel guilty! Instead, spend some time with your kids by inviting them to help.
News flash: They live there too! Your toddlers can start with simple things like putting away dishes or picking up their toys. With older kids, wash dishes together, fold laundry, and spend some time without electronics.
4. Remind yourself
Anytime you feel guilty, stop! Remind yourself that you’re doing the best that you can—and it’s more than enough.
Say it with me: I am a great mom. Seriously, you are.
Sometimes, we just need to remind ourselves that there are no perfect moms, but we all come pretty close to being one.
5. Find some solidarity
You feel bad. Guess what? We’ve all been there. Another great way to get rid of that mom guilt is to reach out to your friends that are also moms. They will understand.
Maybe you don’t need to be told that you’re doing your best and that you’re awesome. Perhaps you just need some validation. The best people to validate you are the ones who know how hard being a mom is.
Mom guilt can stick around for a while, but with just a few simple tricks, it doesn’t have to ruin your day. Every mom is a superhero, and your kids love you even when you’re busy. You’ve got this!
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