Spending Thanksgiving with Your Family or Your Partner’s Family?
Sandwiched perfectly between Halloween and Christmas, Thanksgiving is integral to the festivities of fall. There is no way that anyone could not enjoy Thanksgiving. With its aromatic pumpkin desserts and puddings paired with turkey, casserole, mashed potato and gravy, the feast is sure to lure you in.
However, apart from all the hearty food made with love Thanksgiving is a time for family. It is the time when you get together with the ones you love and give thanks for and appreciate all the blessings in your life.
Nevertheless, if you are married or in a relationship, you will find it might be impossible to pick a side when it comes to gathering on the holiday.
You will be inevitably be faced with the choice of your family or the family of your significant other.
In a situation like this, it is natural to find yourself in a pinch. Of course, both sides are equally important. Choosing one over the other might cause dispute or hard feelings that could otherwise be avoided.
The question boils down to how to choose. Well, you need not to worry because we have some sound solutions prepared for you.
You don’t have to choose!
Believe it or not, it is as simple as that! Instead of looking up ways to be at two places in one night or waiting for a miracle just make your house the place to be.
This is the perfect, simplest solution. Just throw a party and invite both families.
There are many types of parties you can organize. If preparing the Thanksgiving feast seems like an unconquerable task to do alone, opt for a one-dish party. This way the work will be divided, and you can get the taste of home in more ways than one. Plus, you will probably get bonus leftovers! So, it is a win-win.
A rendezvous thanksgiving
If your residence does not allow for a decent party go for a rendezvous Thanksgiving. Yes, the prospect may seem daunting, but you never know until you try. Renting a cosy cabin in a scenic area can provide for an amazing experience.
Since you will have an entire portion to yourselves you can plan out your event to your liking and include everything you want.
Of course, a feast is mandatory but a place like a cabin or camping site hold so much potential for enjoyment, catching up and bonding.
Since the nights get colder in that time of the year you can even enjoy a bonfire!
Talk it over and plan it out
Communication is key. Always. No matter what you do it is essential to keep others posted and consider their opinions.
In case of Thanksgiving one solution could be to hold events on different days.
Naturally, the family that lives closer or maybe has the bigger event can hold the event on the holiday itself. The family that lives farther will the have to be visited the next day. However, it is absolutely necessary to discuss and sort things out.
It is also possible to alternate each year. So that one year you can spend Thanksgiving with your family on the holiday itself and the next you can spend it with your partners family.
Consider your options
Obviously, there are some factors that you can absolutely not ignore. The most serious one is the distance. Where do the families live?
If both are in town then perhaps you can somehow split the evening without much of a hassle.
However, if the families live in another city or another state then that is an entirely different story. Then you should go for the family that is easier to reach. Since the number of days off that you can get varies from person to person it can be risky to actually travel far.
Secondly, can you afford missing out on the event? if one party hosts an annual event with a considerable number of guests then your absence is sure to be noted. You can always leave early though. This way you will get the best of both worlds!
Do not miss out on the spirit of Thanksgiving
Whatever you choose to do, do not miss out on the spirit of Thanksgiving. This holiday is one filled with joy and happiness. It is a time to feel grateful for all that you have and that is what is really important.
Therefore, just make sure that your choice does not put a damper on your festive spirits and the essence of the holiday. Enjoy!
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