6 Modern Myths About Marriage
Marriage is a truly blissful arrangement in which two people commit to love, cherish and care for each other for the rest of their days. However, there are certain misconceptions and myths that are creating unrealistic expectations about marriage among the millennials!
Here are 6 modern myths about marriage-
1. Marriage is work
There are a lot of comments that are said about marriages being ‘work’. This makes it seem like a chore. While it’s easy to understand where this type of view came from, a marriage may be sometimes challenging but it is definitely not work.
Referring to a marriage as work isn’t the most appropriate metaphor.
Most people don’t enjoy going to work, with a lot of people even living for the weekend – a marriage should not be this.
You will have to work on elements of your marriage but it is not work; it’s a partnership, an adventure even.
2. Marriage will complete you
A person does not complete you, not even when you get married. The expectation that the other person will complete you is also unfair and puts pressure on the relationship.
Whilst a marriage is about coming together as a collective to become one – you are also an individual person that needs a strong sense of individuality.
We need the validation of self before someone else can complete us. If you do not feel complete as an individual, you shouldn’t rely on someone else to make you feel whole.
3. Intimacy is key to a happy marriage
Sex is not the key to a good marriage. It is part of many things that make a successful marriage. But there is often too much focus on this. Even if you’re happy within your sex life, it doesn’t automatically mean that you’re happy overall?
Sex is still important and it will often bring you closer if you have drifted apart. Sex puts you both in a place where you can be vulnerable and together.
Communication is far more important to a happy marriage, after all, that’s what we’re doing most.
4. You’ll live happily ever after
In fairy tales, the struggles happen before the romance. The princess is waiting for her price (to complete her) so they can live happily ever after. A marriage won’t mean that the struggles of life are over, but you’ll be both be there to get through them together.
5. Getting Married will change everything or nothing
Some people may want to get married for the security that nothing will change and some do it to change everything. You’ll have a honeymoon period where everything will feel brand new for you newlyweds.
You’ve made a beautiful commitment but things will always change.
Marriage means that despite the change, you’ll embrace it together and experience it together; the bad and the good.
6. Happily married people don’t argue
There are times when you should give in and times where you need to stand up for yourself. A marriage doesn’t mean you have to do everything the other person says just because you’ve become one.
Yes, there will be times that you will have to compromise but not always. This is often where arguments happen.
Going back to my previous point, you’re an individual person as well as a wife or husband – you should make the other person happy but not at the expense of your own.
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