How to Move With Your Spouse Without Driving Each Other Crazy
Moving is a big change in life, whether you’re doing it alone or with the help of your friends and family. You might think that moving with somebody will make things easier, but if that somebody is your partner, you could also end up driving each other crazy.
The thing is, as exciting as it all is, it’s also very stressful, and you need to be careful not to let that stress affect your marriage.
So, to help you make your move as stress-free as possible, here are a few tips on how to move as a couple without driving each other crazy.
When moving, in general, you should start planning early and do as much as you can in advance.
When moving with your spouse, it can help you ease some pressure later, as you will have fewer boxes to pack and physically move.
Moreover, it’s less likely that you’ll forget something if you start packing early. For example, you can pack your camping gear, spare bedding, books, seasonal shoes, and all the other things that you know you won’t need any time soon.
Plus, this also gives you time to do some decluttering and sell or donate all the things you no longer use.
Assign different tasks
One way to prevent – or at least reduce – conflicts is to divide labor. For instance, one of you can be in charge of contacting all the people and services that need to be informed about your move. One can be in charge of food and drinks for your helpers during the move.
One of you can be in charge of decluttering and the other donating and selling things. This way, your paths shouldn’t cross unless one of you does something wrong or forgets to do something that was a part of their assignments.
However, starting everything on time also means that you’ll have more time to fix any mistakes, so try not to argue if mistakes do happen.
Invite friends and family to help
Moving is a perfect opportunity to call in some favors and use the benefit of having family members that can’t say no to you. Having some additional help can speed up the process and make all the physical work much easier and perhaps even fun.
Most importantly, though, having your friends and family around can actually encourage you to behave better – and give you fewer reasons to misbehave.
The fact is that we usually behave better in front of others, and you don’t really want to argue with your partner in front of their friends and family members.
Moreover, if you don’t really have who to call, for one reason or another, you can always hire experienced movers to help instead.
Talk about the change
Sometimes, all the stress comes not from moving but from the change itself. No matter the reason, there are still many things you’re leaving behind.
After all, everybody reacts to changes differently, and sometimes, thinking about all the things you’re losing, especially if you don’t really want to move, can make people resentful.
So, if one person in your relationship doesn’t like the idea as much as the other, it’s important that you talk about it because it can drive the other person crazy.
There are many decisions you’d have to make together, so it’s important to look beyond your doubts and focus on the positive. By adopting the right attitude, you can make this change much less overwhelming.
Accept that you will disagree
Nobody can agree on everything, no matter how much you love each other. So, accept that some disagreements will happen.
However, assuming this isn’t your first time living together, you probably already know the importance of making compromises.
You can always make some changes later, once you settle in, so don’t stress over little things when there are more important things to take care of at the moment.
Moving is an important decision and a big change for any mutual cohabitation, and some tension is completely normal. However, you should not let it affect your marriage to the point of driving each other crazy.
To prevent that from happening, think about the essential commandments of how to cohabit, keep them in mind during your move, and your relationship will be that much stronger when the dust settles down.
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