How to Do Date Night Right
We’re excited to introduce our new relationship expert, Emma Merkas! Emma is an accomplished author, blogger, relationship and dating expert, as well as the owner of $30 Date Night. And now, we’re proud to have her as a Marriage.com expert! To begin, Emma offers some tips on how to set up a date night routine (that is anything but routine!) …
No matter how long you’ve been dating or married, having regular Date Nights should remain number one priority in your relationship.
Weekly date nights give you time to reconnect as a couple, forget all the stresses of the week and help keep the romance alive year after year between the two of you.
Importantly, you need to make sure you’re doing date night right. Doing the same thing week after week like dinner and the movies, or visiting the same restaurant time is boring. You may as well stay home on the couch watching TV for all the good it does you.
Seeking out new, novel experiences together as a couple will help recreate the same brain chemistry as when you first fell in love. It kick starts your endorphins and keeps you loved-up and happy.
And it needn’t be expensive either. For us, date night is cheap. In fact, we set a $30 budget every week. You’d be amazed at how many things there are to do for under $30 for two people, you just have to be a little more creative about it.
Here are our top tips for planning your date nights:
1. Set a regular weekly date night time.
Find one day every week that is yours and yours alone. Nothing should get in the way of your weekly date night if you can help it! We like to do our dates on Wednesday nights because it helps break up the week and sets us up for the weekend with a lovely night together to ensure we are in a good mood. Sometimes we negotiate and move our date night to the weekends, if there is something that comes up or if we want to do something that requires daylight.
2. Take it in turns to take responsibility for date night.
The same lovebird shouldn’t organize date night every week. Take it in turns to organize the night’s activities to keep things fresh! Try thinking about what your partner likes to do (after all, you are taking them out for the night) rather than what you would like to do.
NB: The cheesier and cheaper the date is, the more you will laugh. The more you laugh, the more happy hormones you get. The more happy hormones you get, the more in love you will feel!
3. Put some effort into your appearance!
You probably sit around in trackies most of the time, hair not done, slippers on. For one night a week at least, put in some effort! Do your hair, splash on some perfume/cologne and put a hint of make up on. Get into your nice clothes and make it a special night out.
4. Ban all distractions
Friends and children (however much we love them) do not belong on date night. Neither do mobile phones, Blackberries or anything else that will interrupt your time together. Even if you are staying in for your date night at home, make sure the computer is turned off and the mobile phones are put away. Just for a few hours, make your time together sacred. Your relationship will thank you for it.
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