How to Get Your First Casual Hookup In 5 Steps
A few years ago, getting hookups required effort. You did it live, either alone, or with a friend’s help.
Today, you can get a hookup in no-time. You can do it by online dating. And you can do so from the comfort of your bedroom. However, if you’re doing it online, understand that it differs a lot from the real world. And this means that traditional pickup advice doesn’t work (for the most part).
So, What do I do? Keep reading, and we’ll help you out.
Below are 5 basic steps on how to find casual hookup online (even if it’s your first time)!
1. Define what you want
Oddly enough, not all people define hookups the same way. However, it’s understood to involve some sort of physicality. So kissing, sex, etc. Before venturing online, define your limits (especially important for women).
Understand why you’re hooking up, and how you define it. For example, are you doing it to find someone to talk to? Or are you doing it for a “friend with benefits?”
2. Understand the internet’s diversity
Yes, there isn’t just one type hookup site. You also have “niche hookup sites,” designed for different interests. For example, you can try interracial dating sites. After all, your tastes may be somewhat exotic, or, you can try BDSM sites (if that’s your thing).
No Shame – It’s an Open Buffet. And that’s one of the beauties of the internet.
When learning how to find casual hookup online, you don’t have to hide anything. Just find the right websites, and speak who you are. And immediately, you’ll find people who share your tastes.
And speaking of finding websites…
3. Understand the “website’s culture”
Not all sites are made for hookups. Some are for long-term relationships and marriage. Others are even specialized (serving communities like LGBTQ).
So pick the right sites. You don’t want to waste weeks trying to get a hookup at the wrong place.
You have a website like Tinder. It isn’t a website for a long-term relationship. If anything, it’s a like a “fast-food” vendor for dating. So it’s known in the online dating world as a hookup network.
Search Locally! You shouldn’t have to travel interstate for a hookup. Make sure that when searching, it’s within a close-by address. You’ll save yourself unnecessary money and hours in transport systems.
4. Learn how to present yourself online
That’s key to getting matches. If you look sloppy and dispassionate, no one will want to be with you. But if you’re interesting, people will hook up with you.
What if I’m not interesting? Then work on yourself before looking for online hookups. If you’re out of shape, work on that. Or, if you feel that you lack interesting hobbies, work on that too.
The point is, when hooking up, you’re doing so due to 1 of 2 things –
- Your looks
- Your lifestyle
If you weren’t blessed with celebrity looks, then know that your lifestyle is your resume. And lacking an interesting lifestyle will repel most hookup you try to find.
5. Learn to text
Yes, texting (just like body language) is a skill to perfect. There’s timing, how you write, and the tone behind your texts. Below are a few simple rules to keep in mind when texting…
Don’t be desperate
Don’t reply within seconds of getting messaged. You’re not a customer service employee. Instead, give it some time. A few minutes (or an hour) before a response is good. Vary your response time. And in the process, imply that you have a schedule, where you’re online at specific times.
Be direct “But not mean”
Just be straightforward. Be honest, and speak in clear statements. It gains you more respect from prospects. Being direct sets clear expectations between you and the other party. So it’s easier to understand each other’s needs and set dates.
No pickup lines (for men)
First, they don’t work in chat. They only work live (if ever).
Second, they’re corny and childish. Pickup is an old tactic used many years ago and has been a dying trend for years.
It won’t help you get a hookup, unless the other side is just as desperate.
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