First Impressions in Gay Dating
Men are visual and it’s key to go into first dates with your best foot forward. As humans, we all think we are pretty good at getting a general sense of someone within a few minutes of talking to them.
However, although putting your best foot forward is always a good idea, jumping to conclusions upon meeting someone isn’t recommended.
Our snap judgment is a blunt instrument and cannot predict real long-term compatibility in relationships, whether gay or straight.
First impressions are rarely right
The fact is only a few first impressions are right. We’re wrong the other times. A psychologist from Northwestern University was interviewed and said that the longer that we know someone before we begin a romantic relationship, the less outward characteristics we share.
In what sounds like a bit of a cruel experiment, he made classmates rate each other on “mate potential” and everyone was able to agree (give or take) on who was the most attractive to who was the least. However, at the end of the quarter, no one agreed anymore.
The way we relate to one another, and the way that we form bonds outside of dating, is more important than jaw size or washboard abs.
We’re also very easily swayed by our surroundings
If we hold a hot drink when we meet someone we will think they have a warm personality. If we sit on a wobbly chair we might see them as unreliable. Information like this is important to consider when going on a first date.
Looks matter but not too much
When it comes to dating, men especially are aware of physical looks and rate them as more important. People judge each other on the first date. Contrary to popular belief, if you don’t spark right away, it’s very possible you might do on the second or third date, as you get to know each other better.
First impressions are not the be-all and end-all of dating. Use the first date as a chance to have fun, if you don’t get it perfect in the first two seconds, that’s OK. He doesn’t have to be perfect in the next two seconds either. Drink a warm drink and give each other a chance.
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