Should You Get Married to Him? Here Are 4 Questions That Will Help You Decide
There is nothing more magical than love and when you find the man you want to spend the rest of your life with you’ll just know it.
Okay, back to reality.
Knowing whether your partner is the one requires a lot of work and consideration.
It’s not something you will somehow innately know and the decision will require a lot of contemplation before you do.
Although every woman is different, I have found that there are four simple questions recommended by online dating experts that can serve as a springboard for a more in-depth deliberation.
If you treat this as a starting point, you will find yourself that much closer to the most important decision you will ever make.
Does he respect your life outside of your relationship?
One of the most important parts of a relationship is the time you spend outside of it.
That’s because it serves as a way to be separate from your boyfriend and indulge in you time.
These moments can help you refresh and, in fact, strengthen your partnership. As a great writer once said, absence makes the heart grow fonder — and that’s definitely true.
But sometimes the men in our lives are needy and don’t respect our need for separation. In these situations, it can be very hard to continue to foster a healthy bond.
If you find that this is a contentious point in your relationship, consider that marriage only amplifies this level of neediness.
Are you secure with him and the relationship?
A relationship is never worry-free, but some aspects of it should be.
Worrying about where your boyfriend is and wondering if he might be doing something that he should be doing are not hallmarks of a healthy relationship.
The man you are considering marrying should inspire confidence – not doubt – through his commitment to your relationship.
Another element of security is the actual feeling of safety.
If you feel safe when he is around, that is a good sign that he is fulfilling your need for physical and emotional protection.
Do your friends and family like him?
Aside from your partner, your friends and family are the constants in your life.
That is why it is important that they get along with the man you’re thinking of marrying.
Think about it…
He will be with you during every holiday, party, and event you go to. If he doesn’t get along with the people hosting and attending these things, it will ruin your experiences.
You’ve probably heard plenty of in-law jokes, but the truth is that most men get along with their partner’s family.
On that note, you should get along with his family as well. Although you might not see them as often, men usually have a particularly sensitive and sweet spot for their mother.
Does he help you grow?
People don’t begin a new relationship with the expectation of changing, but it often happens regardless.
The people we are close with have a profound effect on how we grow and improve.
If you find that the man you’re with not only helps, but promotes your own self-improvement, that can serve as one of the most important signs that he is the one.
There is something to the line “you complete me” and while you shouldn’t expect him to solve your problems, he should work with you to tackle them in the best way possible.
A partner who believes in you clearly sees a future together with you.
As much as his encouragement is done out of love, it is also a sign that he wants the best for your life with each other.
I hope these questions served to enlighten and inspire you. Simply thinking about whether he’s the one is often a good indication that he might be.
Of course, it’s up to you to decide, but once you do, you will have had enough introspection to be certain of your choice.
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