Resolve Relationship Problems to Pave Way for a Successful Marriage
You know this – marriage takes work and relationship problems are bound to occur somewhere along the line in a good marriage.
One of the things that keeps a successful marriage together is being able to resolve the relationship problems that crop up along the way.
The number and scope of problems that can occur in a marriage are vast and deep.
However, there are just two basic problems that are basic to almost every marital issue, and these two basic relationship problems have the innate ability to cause problems in your marriage.
One of the more common problems in marital relationships is selfishness.
It can take shape in many forms; infidelity, financial, social, a “me” attitude, and more.
Additionally, each of you might understand exactly what the other needs but are not willing to give it. You take a“lack of action”for and toward your spouse, resulting in anger and sometimes deception on the part of your spouse, which leads to other, more serious things that can corrupt your marriage.
Another very common relationship problem is the misinterpretation, which can lead to being judgmental, of each others’ feelings or simply not care.
Misunderstanding each other can lead to a whole mess of marriage issues and problems. Part of the problem of misunderstanding is not listening to each other, or not listening completely.
Ask yourself if you might be guilty of either of these.
Be honest with yourself, then approach your spouse and ask to sit down for a few minutes to let them know that you are willing to make the necessary changes in your behavior to try to eliminate selfishness and misunderstanding and ask your spouse if they are willing to do the same.
Then, make an appointment to spend some quiet time together to really talk about your relationship and be honest with each other. Talk about the great times you’ve had together and try to determine if it’s possible to rekindle your relationship and enjoy those moments again.
After all, misunderstanding is caused by a lack of quality or quantity in communication. Ironing out these issues with your spouse will help put you on the road to marriage recovery.
Does your partner understand, or even know what your expectations are?
Are you like the example of a bowler in the bowling alley trying to bowl a perfect score, only to find there is a sheet spread across the alley and wondering why you can’t hit the pins?
Remove the sheet! Open the door to communication with your spouse. Be willing to take a few hits and rebound with the loving attitude you had when you first married.
Know this, it isn’t easy or simple to mend a relationship or even get back on the right track for that matter, but it is very doable and you can do it with a little effort.
It might take weeks or months, but if you continue to work with your spouse on your relationship problems you will eventually be able to overcome the anger and resentment that may be present in your marriage.
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