How to Not Fall for an Already Married Man
Human emotions, if left untamed, can lead to disasters that can haunt us all our lives. Being humans, we completely understand the consequences of our far-fetched dreams but still choose to pursue them. Unlike other species, we have the potential to think a hundred things that mock practicality. Unfortunately, it is not different when we cannot stop loving an already married man.
It is not that we don’t understand the consequences of our wishes, but still, we religiously follow our compulsive instincts. However, there are ways to tame our passions and restrict ourselves from falling for an already married man.
Try to be rational in the face of feelings
First and foremost, rationally consider the implications of marrying and loving an already married man. Try to think hard that the beautiful love with an already married man will lose its shine within days, and soon you will face more practical problems in the shape of different challenges.
Think that you will always be an ‘’other woman’’ for a married man and it is possible that you might never get enough importance and space in your already married partner’s life. It is also possible that in future, your mate might get drawn to someone else .
Think of the consequence
Second, you will have to face the isolation as your partner will have to give time to his wife and children. There is no worst feeling for a woman than sharing her man with another woman.
With the passage of time, the feeling of jealousy will grow inside you and you would not be able to do anything and rue the decision of loving an already married man. Suddenly, you will start wondering if he loves you and this is the time when you might start sinking into depression. Trust me; you would never be able to taste the true contentment of a committed relationship.
You are more likely to wreak havoc on his first wife by breaking their marriage. Think that your whims will potentially break a woman’s marriage who has nothing to do with you. Isn’t it harsh?
Think compassionately for a second; you might change your mind. Even if your partner decides to marry you, he will have the responsibility of his children from his former wife. Like any other women, you will be consistently outraged by outflow of money towards his children direction.
Don’t romanticize the situation
Don’t let your thoughts be overwhelmed by your feelings? Don’t unnecessarily romanticize the situation, and create a utopia in your mind. Remember, your actions will follow the story you will install in your mind.
Instead, use your feeling somewhere else. Pack up and move to another city for a couple of days, give yourself time to divert your thoughts.
It is a hard decision to make, but make a decision that your heart, mind, and conscience can deal with. If you choose against loving an already married person, your heart will heal with time, and you will reap the rewards of your decision in life to come.
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