How to Move on from a Bad Relationship and Make a Fresh Start
Breaking up with a toxic partner is one thing, but moving on from a toxic relationship is something else. Getting rid of a toxic person out of your life is just the first step of getting over a relationship that damaged you, in one way or another. It is believed that when a toxic relationship ends, especially when one of the partners was physically or emotionally abusive, people can experiment something very similar to PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder).
They leave scars
Toxic relationships leave long-lasting wounds on a person’s self-worth, self-confidence and on their mindset, wounds that can heal very hard. Although these wounds will eventually heal, they will nevertheless leave scars.
After you have been in an abusive or a bad relationship of any kind for a long period of time, you will learn to not tolerate emotional or physical mistreatment anymore.
You have to understand that if you’re able to take care of your mind, body, and soul, even the deepest of scars will disappear if you have patience and the right mindset to let them heal.
There is no such thing as a general magic recipe on getting over a bad relationship. Traumas may vary, but there are certain things that will improve the state of mind of almost any person who is going through a bad relationship.
First of all, you have to understand that your personal well-being is the most important thing that you owe to yourself and that it is your full responsibility and duty to achieve it.
Give yourself time
One of the most important things that you have to take into account when you want to move on from a bad relationship is that you have to offer yourself time to understand what actually happened and what you can do to never experience it again.
You don’t have to condemn yourself, you just have to understand that you need to take better care of yourself in the future.
Start by taking long walks in the park, a proven stress reliever. Spend as much time as you can in nature, enjoy the sunshine and exercise or jog daily if possible. Physical exercises are a great way to spend your time and are also effective in relieving stress.
Take up a hobby, something artistic like painting, photography, writing or music. Choose something that you like to do, something that keeps your mind busy but also in an open connection with your soul.
Connect with your loved ones as much as possible, because your friends and family will provide you all the support that you need in the process of getting back on your feet again.
Take your friends and go to events, concerts, theatre plays, stand-up comedy shows or to the cinema. Read books that captivate you. There are a multitude of ways to distract yourself and find something that is both fun and productive for you to escape your thoughts post breaking off a bad relationship.
Stay healthy and socialize
Another very important thing is to catch up on your sleep and to stick to a healthy diet. If your schedule allows it, book yourself a trip to a place you always wanted to visit.
Traveling feeds your soul and enriches your spiritual growth, and also allows you to meet people and make new friends.
Make new memories with your friends and let them help you. Don’t isolate yourself from the world, even if this is the first decision that springs in your mind after the misfortunate relationship through which you went.
Although time heals almost every wound, if you feel too much pressure or if you feel that sadness or other negative emotions are too much for you and are overwhelming and you can’t control them, you should consider seeing a therapist. Remember that having a healthy mind is just as important as having a healthy body.
If you want to move on from a bad relationship, you should spend more quality time with yourself, engage in activities that empower you, connect with your friends and family, travel as much as possible and just be yourself.
Be optimistic and remember that one bad relationship doesn’t define you as a person or the choices that you’ll be making in the future. See the bright side of life and smile as much as you can.
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