7 Bits of Bad Relationship Advice You Should Completely Ignore
Being in any relationship usually comes with all sorts of advice from all sorts of people. A lot of times, these people have very little, if any, the experience of being in a similar relationship. Consequently, most of the advice coming, in such cases, is simply bad, bad advice. So here’s a list of 7 bad relationship advice, that you should never follow.
1. “Don’t talk about it until they do”
Out of all bad relationship advice, this one has to be the worst. No relationship can work without good communication. If they can’t come to talk to you about something, then you initiate it. Most of the major arguments that happen can be resolved or avoided in the first place, by simply addressing minor issues, and talking them out, instead of letting things slide.
With time, things only build up, and it’s better to clear things before they become an issue. So remember, big or small, talk it out.
2. “Don’t do that, they won’t like it”
Unless being said for a gift that you’re getting for the other person or being unfaithful to them, this advice is straight up wrong. A relationship should not inhibit you from being who you are and doing what you want. In fact, it should the very opposite.
A person that you plan on spending a better part of your life with should encourage you to be yourself, and the best of yourself that you can be.
If you are being told anything else, it is completely unacceptable, and also completely okay to walk away.
3. “It’s okay, you’ll get used to it”
A relationship is not the traffic noise when you’ve moved into a busy city. It is not something you can do absolutely nothing about, and if it is, it is definitely not the right one. You should not simply get used to something you do not like in a relationship.
In a good relationship, you are in for the long run, and it is, therefore, important to be comfortable, in every aspect.
So if there is something that bothers you, you need to get it across the other person. Working together, to make each other comfortable is how a relationship should work. If you try to implement this advice, it will go for everything that you do not like. Soon you will find yourself agitated almost all the time because there is only so much that you can bear and get used to. All of this is definitely not good for a healthy relationship.
4. “You have to play hard to get”
If there was a list of immature and stupid relationship advice, this one would be on top. Playing hard to get is good only if you’re trying to end up alone because, in most of the cases, that is what it’ll lead to.
In order to maintain a healthy and long relationship, it is important to express all your emotions, including those of love, happiness, and appreciation.
Playing hard to get will not only hinder the complete expression of feelings but can often be frustrating for the person on the receiving end.
5. “Wait for the perfect one”
Let’s get this straight first; the perfect one doesn’t exist.
You can’t sit with a checklist and expect someone to pass by that exactly fits your needs.
There, however, does exist “the one.” The difference between the two is, the perfect one is a person that is a 100% match for you (and also doesn’t exist), while the one will not be a 100% match, but will always be ready to sort out differences and find common grounds where you two see eye to eye. Waiting for the perfect one is synonymous with waiting your entire life.
6. “They don’t need to know that”
Any advice that does not encourage you to be a 100% honest to someone you are in a relationship with is the key. And it is the small details that always matter.
The importance of telling small details lies not only in avoiding bigger arguments and misunderstandings later on, but it is also what builds trust in a relationship.
Even if you think it is something they won’t understand, confide in them. A little talk goes a long way.
7. “A little distance makes everything better”
A little distance only makes space for more distance. So it while it is the perfect advice for someone who wants distance for good, it is extremely bad relationship advice.
What can be thought and figured with some distance, can also be done without it.
Clarity of mind and reasoning are not dependent on distance. Communicate your thoughts, and that will be the best insight, and the only one you’ll need.
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