Nuggets of Wisdom for Married Couples
Happily married is more than a mere phrase! It takes whole lot of efforts to maintain happiness and harmony in any marriage. One should not simply jump into marriage without knowing what to expect and how to handle its many surprises. You need some guidance from those who have been there and done that. Don’t just take your single friends’ word for it! To help you out, we have here some words of wisdom from famous people and characters who know what it’s like to be a spouse.
“By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”- Socrates
Marriage can be your best teacher when it comes to love and life. When the finances are getting crazy or there is a nonstop fight for the time between your wife and your job, you might as well start writing a journal and be another Socrates in these modern times. If you are a mature and rational adult, you will know how to handle disagreements with your partner and with every fight, you will learn more about your partner, yourself and how you two can handle your married life.
“If you want your wife to listen to you, then talk to another woman: she will be all ears.”- Sigmund Freud
The message that the phallic king is trying to send here is that most married couples do not know how to listen to each other. Some married couples do not know how to communicate at all. If you want to say something to your partner, say it! Communication is the key to all successful relationships.
“Marriage is like a game of chess, except the board is flowing water, the pieces are made of smoke and no move you make will have any effect on the outcome.”- Jerry Seinfeld
You have read every book on how to be a perfect husband or wife. You paid attention when your aunt and uncles shared their stories and life hacks on how to handle married life but somehow, you are now here. Marriage is a circus. It’s just crazy! Learn to sit back, find humor and enjoyment in whatever is in front of you and just simply wait for it to end. Your kids will get over their teenage angst and your partner will soon realize that he or she is acting like one of your kids. When things like these happen and you have no control over it, stay silent until all the chaos is over and calmly talk to everyone in the family.
“No! Please don’t eat me! I have a wife and kids – eat them!”- Homer Simpson
Isn’t the Simpsons just the perfect poster family for a healthy life? Seriously, finding something to smile and laugh about in the midst of chaos is a good and advisable coping mechanism for couples, for anyone generally. There will be times when you would fantasize about having one day, one single day, to sit quietly at home with no one screaming or setting the house on fire. But then you snap back to reality because you know that you cannot make it through even one single day without your family.
“I love being married. It’s so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.”- Rita Rudner
Remember how grossed out you used to be whenever you saw your parents in their fifties goofing around in the kitchen and randomly kissing in front of you? That is true love. Married life will get boring. One day you will catch yourself on the same routine. The kids will grow up and move out and before you know it, you are waking up to a wrinkly face beside you and you smile because you know that this is the best decision you ever made. Through the storms and fire of marriage, you came out alive because you have the best teammate.
To be honest, marriage is not always rainbows and butterflies. It’s compromise! (Take it from Marron 5!) Talk about the values you want your marriage to be based on and everything will be alright. This rollercoaster ride won’t be as scary. In fact, you will learn to enjoy the ride despite the twists and bumps. Here’s hoping that you have a wonderful marriage!
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