Succeeding in Business While Keeping Your Marriage Strong
Wherever you choose to put your energy, you will get results.
If you’re focused on your career and spend many hours at the office, you’ll probably do well in business.
But what if you want to succeed in business and have a loving and fruitful marriage? Since you only have so much energy to go around, you’re going to have to be smart about how you play it. In order to make both areas of your life something you can be proud of, there are some things that you should be aware of.
Allow us to help you out. This article is dedicated to those that want their career and their marriage to not only work–but thrive. Follow through with the pieces of advice below and you’ll reach the level of success you wish for.
Spend time together–and be present
Date nights are commonplace in many marriages across the globe, but when you are working your butt off, it’s even more important that you carve out some time for you and your spouse a few times a week.
But more importantly, carve out time and spend it in the present moment. A couple hours of your focused attention is much more important than 5 hours of the scattered company, where you’re either checking your email or texting your coworkers. When you get to dinner, put your phone away, turn it off, and tune into the person sitting on the other side of the table.
Do this a minimum of two times a week and hold yourself accountable to the occasion. If something comes up at work and you truly can’t make it for dinner, make it up to your partner by doubling up the week after or planning a weekend getaway for the two of you.
This intentional time is super important, so start making time for these meaningful date nights today.
Support your partner in their interests
Let’s face it: in order for you to rise to a high level of success in business, you need the support of your partner to get there. Having that emotional and mental support is so important, even though you probably won’t find it listed in any book on business success. Going for it without that support may work in the short term, but knowing that you have someone you can fall back on when times get tough will make your success more sustainable.
With that said, if you want your partner to lift you up to your highest heights, you need to return the favor. They may not be as ambitious as you are, but they still have their own interests and passion projects.
Maybe they brew their own beer.
Maybe they enjoy painting.
Maybe they’re passionate about their role as a stay at home parent.
Whatever it is that gets their heart racing, support them with the same intensity that you would want it returned. Their interests are just as important as yours, even if it doesn’t bring in a heavy cash flow. Plus, when you support them, it’s more than likely that they’ll return the favor.
Keep the expectations of your marriage clear
Most marriage issues stem from two people getting lost in translation.
The language? Expectations.
It’s amazing how many married couples walk through life with assumed expectations for each other rather than something that’s clearly stated. When that happens, people step out of the unspoken boundaries and find themselves hurting their partner without even knowing it.
If your career calls you to travel, spend time with members of the opposite sex, or spend a lot of late nights at the office, clearly stated expectations are a must. By assuming that you are acting in your partner’s–and your relationship’s–best interest, you might end up doing something that you later regret.
Sit down with your spouse and make sure that you’re on the same page with all the important factors of a happily married couple.
Can you have a drink with someone else?
Can your personal assistant be the opposite sex?
Is it important that every day starts and ends with a call or text if you’re away on travel?
Ask the simple questions. Ask the hard questions. Have the awkward conversation now before you mess something up by assuming the expectations of your spouse.
If you are the breadwinner of your family, there’s a good chance that your partner has had to make some professional sacrifices to help keep the house clean or the kids fed. But just because they’re not bringing in the money, doesn’t mean you get to decide how to spend it all.
Once you get married, there needs to be a fairly equal share of the money that comes in. If your wife is a stay at home mom, she shouldn’t feel bad about going shopping or treating herself to a pedicure. If your husband works part-time so that he can coach your son’s baseball team, he shouldn’t feel guilty about going out for drinks with friends.
When you decide to get married, your finances become as entangled as anything else in your lives. What’s theirs is yours and what’s yours is theirs.
You get the idea. Share the wealth!
You can keep them both running smoothly
You can be successful in love and in business, but you just have to be more conscious of your efforts in both if you hope to keep them both running smoothly. Make sure that your partner is valued while you’re bringing value to the world and you will learn how to make money and love simultaneously.
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