Things Women Need to Remember When They Feel ‘Broken’ Inside
Everyone encounters hardships along the way. It might not seem like much, but you are not alone. There are people who’ve gone through similar situations and who can empathize with you. Their advice and support can sometimes be of much greater help than you could originally imagine. Do not shy away from family or friends even if you prefer solving most things on your own. Not only can they be of help, but they can also be a source of strength to tap into when the need arises.
Never give up!
It might be hard at first, but whatever you are considering that implies giving up on yourself is simply unfounded desperation. Try as hard as you can to distance yourself from the situation and to find things that still make you happy. When you put things into perspective you realize that it’s not the end of the world. Merely an obstacle you must overcome in order to find a new beginning. A better one.
There’s always a silver lining
Always! It might be hard to see it at first, but each day that you advance in a different direction will eventually make those horrible first moments fade into the past. You will ultimately notice the intensity lessening and you will rediscover yourself as a stronger and more assured person. Later on, you will be able to look back on these days and comprehend that, painfully as they might have been, they were of great use to the future you.
There’s nothing worse than death
At one point or another, every human being feels as if he or she would be better off dead. But, that’s the farthest thing from the truth. While you’re alive, opportunities still exist, moments of happiness and fulfillment are just around the corner and experiences you’ve been looking forward to can still come to fruition. However, death has no variables, it is simply the end. And, that is not an option!
Don’t lose sight of reality
Or the bigger picture for that matter. Many people tend to be engulfed by negative thoughts or feelings when disaster befalls them. Humans are as susceptible to bad feelings and experiences as they are to good ones. The tendency to over dramatize and exaggerate is always at hand when emotions rise high. Rarely can an individual detach himself from the problem at hand and observe the greater scheme at work. However, hard work and effort can do wonders in educating both your mind and soul in this regard.
Give yourself a second chance
Others may try to help you but you have to want to help yourself for it to be of any use. Love yourself enough to save yourself. Nobody else will.
One of the greatest things to achieve in life is not happiness, power or money, but acceptance. Adaptability, peace of mind and happiness rely heavily on one’s willingness to tolerate a difficult or unpleasant situation. Denial and posing opposition towards the reality of what you have to confront, merely because you find it unacceptable or hard to bare, will neither solve the problem, nor make it go away. You should understand that you must first accept that bad things happen, suffering is unavoidable and that life is not linear and full of roses, yet there is always a solution for every problem. You just have to face it first.
It’s all a matter of perspective
Have you never wondered how some people seem to be pleased with so little while others seem to hunger for more no matter how much they have? Some people can’t find peace or happiness not because they do not have the necessary tools to do so, but because they are constantly displeased with their lot in life. Being ambitious and wanting to achieve more can become a bad trait if one loses sight of reality. First of all, one must learn to be thankful for the good things that they have in life. If you only focus on the bad and the imperfect aspects of your existence it will be extremely hard to find anything left for you to enjoy. And while you might think that certain individuals are born with this ability, this is not always the case. Most people have to work hard to remind themselves that there is so much beauty surrounding them and you should do to.
Genetics, the surrounding environment, education, beliefs – they all heavily contribute in forming a person. What and how you think eventually influences what you do. While some find it easier to surpass life’s difficulties than others, that does not mean that you are forever bound to face the opposite. Choose who you want to be in life, mold yourself to become stronger and more flexible and you will eventually find the strength to overcome all obstacles and find happiness.
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