How Orthodox Jews Raise Their Children?
Our topic is how to raise happy and successful children. We want here to describe two sets of children –
One is the vast majority of Americans who are not Orthodox Jews, and the other are people like myself, who are deeply Orthodox Jews.
How the Orthodox Jews train children?
The deeply Orthodox Jews train their children to master the Torah from heaven and its teachings. And the Talmud is filled with instructions to see to it that before marriage a child must achieve some wealth.
For years this bothered me very much.
Great in Tora, huge in wealth
The great rabbis were often very wealthy.
How was this possible if they were the greatest rabbis and had time not only to be great in Torah but in wealth? I never had an answer for that, until one day, I had an answer.
Soon I will supply it, but first, since I am writing not only for the small number of deeply Orthodox Jews, but for all Americans, people of all religions and beliefs, I want to first touch on the great problems.
I have heard from friends who are professional teachers of children. It seems that even in Orthodox Jewish schools, many children fail.
Why do many children fail in Orthodox Jewish schools?
One reason is the terrifying problem of drugs.
I know of a situation whereby some students would stand around a basement and suggest to other students to come in and enjoy themselves a bit, an enjoyment that ended in drugs.
In one cemetery not far from my home there are two young boys who died in an overdose.
Who is responsible for deaths due to drug overdoses?
One problem is that our schools are based on age.
Children of one age are put in one class, or maybe two classes.
The very bright students are bored silly by everyone else. The very weak students are destroyed by the other students, and the middle students suffer from the top and bottom of the class.
Is there any wonder that the school system itself is at fault? Why don’t we realize that forcing all ages in one class is destruction? But is there an alternative without breaking the back of the fiscal process?
When I realized the problem above that I mentioned, how great rabbis become Torah scholars of the highest order and yet become wealthy, which seems impossible, I began to think a lot about how to raise children that would become, if Orthodox Jewish, great in biblical teaching as well as wealthy, and if not Orthodox Jewish or of another religion or belief, could achieve their learning and wealth together.
Solution for everyone
I finally came up with the solution, for everyone.
We know that all people in America spend a lot of time on television, movies, golf, etc. and etc. Children surely do this.
What do they gain from television, movies, etc.? Fun? Is that educational or just plain fun?
Well, there is often some level of education, but basically, it is for fun. Much time of the day is spent on fun.
Children grow up, the classroom is crowded with people who drain the interest from a lot of the children, and we don’t really have to wonder why some turn to drugs. Well, what about using fire to fight fire? I mean, what if we could create fun for kids that were really worthwhile for them, I mean, if it could make them rich, honestly?
Shimi – a fictional Jewish story
I wrote a fictional story about a Jewish kid named Shimi whose father was a farmer.
The father and mother began training Shimi at a tender age to spend a few hours a day in Hebrew school learning Torah, but he also began, with the encouragement of his father and mother, to take fruits from the farm to school and trade them with goods that other kids brought to school.
As time went on, his father began to urge him to learn how to rap on doors and sell things.
The first stop was at the home of his father’s best friend, and when the friend saw who was waiting across the street from the little boy who rapped on his door, he realized immediately what the score was, and immediately purchased and made the child very happy.
Shimi walked home with a few coins, and it really lifted his spirits. He wanted more coins, and gradually, his father turned him into a polished salesman and then began training him in buying property.
As time went on, not too much time, Shimi was really happy about Hebrew school and selling, and the money piled up.
When Shimi turned to the age of Bar Mitzvah, thirteen years of age, he had already learned how to seek out and find the property that the owner is desperate to sell at a ridiculous price, and he bought a very nice property.
As time went on, he sold that property for a good sum and began buying other properties.
Shimi- The businessman
Shimi maintained his Torah studies, and some of his days was devoted to business. He had money, plenty of it, and purchased a vineyard and other properties, for his own use, and eventual sale.
Furthermore, as time went on, Shimi began encouraging people to buy land near his properties, or land on his properties, and when they arrived, he began guiding them in finding the right schools to raise happy children, learned in Torah and in business.
Parents heard about this, and more and more people moved to Shimi’s estates.
Shimi found his wife
One day, a very wealthy man came to Shimi’s parents, and they had a long talk and emerged both very happy. Shimi had no idea who this person was or why he came to speak to his parents. Then the man came back, this time, he wanted to talk to Shimi.
He told Shimi that he had a daughter, and Shimi’s parents knew about it and approved her as a potential wife for Shimi. He also said that his father was the local rabbi, but was getting along in age, and was about to retire.
When he did, his synagogue would go to Shimi. The very wealthy man did not discuss how much Shimi would be paid, because he knew already that Shimi was himself wealthy. But he did tell Shimi that the choice of his salary was up to him if he wanted it.
Shimi wanted the job, but not the salary since he had no need for it. The wedding went through, and what a wedding it was. Shimi’s parents and their friends, Shimi’s friends who sent their children to his schools and moved into his estates, and many others came and rejoiced greatly.
Here was a family that knew how to raise children, happy children, wealthy children, great in Torah learning.
Many people who came to this wedding decided that they would consider for their own children, and maybe for themselves, a life with less television and more learning and more happiness.
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