It’s almost New Year’s Eve, and that means party hats, fizzy drinks and kisses at midnight. It also means inspirational quotes about New Year’s Eve abound. Why not take these inspirational quotes to heart and make their wisdom part of your relationship in the coming year?
“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
Couples who look for the best in their lives, their relationship, and each other, are happier than those who focus on the bad. Every relationship comes with its challenges. By looking for the good, you help mitigate the bad and bring a more positive energy to your life together. If you look for the good you’ll find more of it. It’s a positive cycle that builds healthy habits in your relationship and helps you appreciate each other. You and your partner are going to irritate each other from time to time. It’s only natural. Perhaps your home isn’t quite what you’d like it to be, or your finances aren’t in their best shape. Whatever is going on, you can tackle real issues in your relationship while still keeping a positive attitude and looking for what’s good instead of what’s bad.
“The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.” -Melody Beattie
New year’s resolutions aren’t just for individuals – take the time to make resolutions together as a couple, too. Making new year’s resolutions together is a fantastic way of taking stock of what’s great in your relationship and finding positive, practical ways to implement changes too. Spend some time on New Year’s Eve making resolutions together. Perhaps you want to spend more time together, take a trip, start a new hobby, implement a new household budget, or learn to communicate better. Whatever you decide, take time throughout the year to check in and see how your relationship goals are progressing.
“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things” -Neil Gaiman
Wait, are we saying you should make mistakes in your relationship? Well, not exactly. But mistakes are inevitable. You and your partner are both human; you’ll both have good days and bad days, get in a bad mood, or make errors in judgment. How you handle those times will make all the difference in your relationship. Do you react to your partner’s mood with sarcasm? Do you get angry and berate or nag them if they make a mistake? If they’re thoughtless, do you react as if they did it on purpose? Or do you take a moment to have empathy and understand that they’re doing their best? Treat each other with kindness and forgiveness, and try not to hold grudges or keep score. Your relationship will be much better for it.
“Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy.” -Helen Keller
A large part of happiness in relationships is teamwork – but there’s some individual work involved, too. It’s all too easy to make your partner responsible for your happiness, and get angry at them if they’re not living up to that expectation. But here’s the truth: You are the only one responsible for your own happiness. What does that mean in terms of your relationship? It means both of you taking time to do things that nourish you in mind and body. Take time for hobbies that you love, and support each other in making time for those. Spend time with good friends or family members who truly love and support you. Take good care of your own emotional health. When you take good care of yourself, you can give your partner the best of you instead of the rest of you.
“Let our new year’s resolution be this: We will be there for one another” -Goran Persson
It’s all too easy to get weighed down by work, family and social commitments and start taking your partner for granted. After all, they’re there every day. But taking your partner for granted only breeds resentment and damages your relationship. You’ve chosen to share your lives – that means your partner should be a priority in your life, not an afterthought. Make a commitment to become each other’s staunchest supporter and most vocal cheerleader. Take time to really connect with your partner and find out what’s going on for them, what concerns they have,and what their dreams are. Quality time to talk, connect, and relax without stress or interruptions will strengthen your relationship.
New Year’s quotes are a fantastic source of inspiration for couples. Make a commitment to taking these lovely words to heart and watch your relationship go from strength to strength. And if you need a reminder in a nutshell, keep in mind these wise words from Benjamin Franklin:
“Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better man (or woman, sorry Ben).”