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\"Relationship<\/p>\n

Relationships often emulate roller-coasters of emotions – soaring sparks of exhilaration and trepidation, punctuated by bliss and heartache.<\/span><\/p>\n

Commonly, we tend to shy away from conflict in our relationships<\/a>.  Somewhat impulsively, we secretly fear that even the slightest conflict in our relationship is somehow a warning siren of its looming demise – the cloudy sky just before the hurricane.  <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Sometimes relationships simply ache<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

The colorful narrative of two people becoming a unit often occurs with some growing pains. Growing together entails cultivating collective goals that will become driving forces of the relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

A very real yet uncomfortable facet of growing together is learning how to manage misunderstandings, pet peeves, boundaries, and unfulfilled expectations. Haphazardly attending to these things often feed the flame of relationship discord and lead to a painful relationship fraught with frustration.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>How do we deal with conflicts?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

\"How<\/p>\n

How we choose to engage in our respective conflict often sets the tone for an outcome of either peaceful resolution or scorching intensification.<\/span><\/p>\n

When someone you love hurts you deeply, choosing the stance of peace will essentially require us to slow down and respond from a place of patience with our mate. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s imperative to learn how to build tolerance for the difference of both perspective and choice within our relationships. <\/span><\/p>\n

Creating an open space for our mates to express their personal perspectives will require both parties to show validation and understanding, about the points of contention. <\/span><\/p>\n

On how to get over hurt feelings in a relationship, it is advantageous to view our mates as allies instead of adversaries at times of strife.   I know this sounds difficult however with practice and diligent intention the aforementioned approaches will become a natural pattern of how you navigate relationship<\/a> bumps together.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Interpersonal conflicts can be good <\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Although conflict feels uncomfortable and mentally taxing, it is not uncommon for conflict to show up within our relationships. Feeling hurt in a relationship is inevitable.<\/span><\/p>\n

Interpersonal conflict or relationship hurt is actually a universal aspect of any human relationship. Accepting this will empower us to move through relationship aches as a loving cohesive unit.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Solutions to lessen the relationship pain<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

\"Solutions<\/p>\n

When you are looking for an answer to “why does love hurt”, refer to my go-to recipe to soothe the sore spirit of relationship aches.<\/span><\/p>\n

Here’s how to heal a painful relationship.<\/p>\n