

{"id":92566,"date":"2023-12-11T11:18:22","date_gmt":"2023-12-11T11:18:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=92566"},"modified":"2023-12-11T11:19:09","modified_gmt":"2023-12-11T11:19:09","slug":"if-you-love-something-set-it-free-meaning-how-it-works","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/if-you-love-something-set-it-free-meaning-how-it-works\/","title":{"rendered":"If You Love Something, You Set It Free: Meaning &#038; Ways to Practice"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-92574\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/12\/2177147507.jpg\" alt=\"Happy business woman \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They say if you love something, let it go. However, it is not as easy as it sounds. If you loved someone or something, and you have to part ways, it might be a challenging phase for you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, letting go proves that you love them and you are willing to allow them to make their decisions. In this article, you will learn more about the saying, &ldquo;If you love something, you set it free.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-the-meaning-of-%E2%80%9CIf-you-love-something-set-it-free%E2%80%9D\"><\/span><b>What is the meaning of &ldquo;If you love something, set it free&rdquo;?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have heard of the phrase &ldquo;if you love something, you set it free,&rdquo; it is used to express the idea that <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/signs-of-true-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">true love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> involves giving an individual the freedom to make their decisions.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This means that they can choose to stay or go their way. The statement emphasizes that true love should not be restraining or possessive. When you set someone free, you are wishing them the best as they make plans to flourish and progress on their terms.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC9598947\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">study<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> by Alain Morin and other authors, you will see a more holistic view of letting go and how it affects your well-being.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-is-it-important-to-be-able-to-let-go-of-things-we-love\"><\/span><b>Why is it important to be able to let go of things we love?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the reasons why it is important to let go of things we love is that it allows for personal growth. You will be able to leverage this opportunity to learn more about yourself.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, when you hold on to something too much, it can cause emotional stress, which could affect your well-being. Letting go improves your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/emotional-self-care\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional wellness<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and overall health.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Concerning the statement, if you love something, you set it free. It could also help you build new and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/benefits-of-healthy-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">healthy relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> because you will be focused on meeting new people.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-is-it-difficult-for-people-to-let-go\"><\/span><b>Why is it difficult for people to let go?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-92573\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/12\/453635980.jpg\" alt=\"Woman freeing bird \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The process of letting go is often not an easy one due to various factors. Here are some of the reasons why it is difficult for people to let go.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Emotional attachment<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Regarding the common saying if you love something, you set it free, it might be difficult for those with strong emotional attachments. Some people may find it hard to let go of an idea, a person, a relationship, or a possession.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Fear of the unknown<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When it comes to letting someone go that you love, many people are reluctant because they don&rsquo;t know what to expect. Some people are afraid of the uncertainty of letting go when they love something because they don&rsquo;t know what their lives will look like afterward.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/forcing-yourself-to-love-someone\/\" title=\"21 Telling Signs You Are Forcing Yourself to Love Someone\">21 Telling Signs You Are Forcing Yourself to Love Someone<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Identity attachment<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another reason why the statement &lsquo;If you love something, you set it free&rsquo; might not work for some people is because their identity is attached to that entity. For some people in relationships, they might find it hard to let go because their identity is attached to that person.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Cultural or Social Pressure<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some people may be influenced by society or their culture to let go of something they want. They might be disappointed in themselves that they are unable to meet up with societal demands, so they prefer to hold on to what they love.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/prove-you-love-your-partner\/\" title=\"How to Prove You Love Someone: 20 Honest Things Every Lover Must Do\">How to Prove You Love Someone: 20 Honest Things Every Lover Must Do<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-can-we-set-things-free-with-love\"><\/span><b>How can we set things free with love<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The statement &lsquo;If you love something, you set it free&rsquo; can be actualized with the right strategies in place. Here are some tips on letting go of something you love.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Open and Honest Communication<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you want to let go, ensure you express how you sincerely feel. Establish clear communication with the other party so that they can understand your viewpoint. Also, ensure you listen to the other person and understand their perspective. Empathize with them so that you can make the process less painful.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Volunteer to offer support<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Regarding the saying, if you love something, you set it free; you can achieve this when you volunteer to render support. If the other party finds it difficult to cope with the transition process, try to be there for them.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Prioritize self-care<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While you work on letting go of someone you love, ensure you don&rsquo;t neglect your well-being. Pay good attention to your emotional health, focus on your hobbies, spend more time with family and friends, and do other things that make you happy.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s easy to put ourselves aside when consumed by love but continuing to practice self-care is a crucial habit that we need to keep up with when falling in love. Watch this video on how to practice self-love in a relationship:&nbsp;<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Tr-smjMPc_c?si=WbdOYg6uWBDjIXuk\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Establish boundaries<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After applying this saying, &ldquo;If you love something, you set it free,&rdquo; ensure you set and maintain <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/marriage-fitness\/examples-of-healthy-boundaries-in-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">healthy boundaries<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. This is important for both parties to grow and evolve without the influence of each other. It also gives room for mutual respect between both parties.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this research <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/307555880_It_Hurts_to_Let_You_Go_Characteristics_of_Romantic_Relationships_Breakups_and_the_Aftermath_Among_Emerging_Adults\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">study<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> by Charlene Belu and other authors, you will learn what happens in romantic relationships when people let go.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/is-love-a-choice\/\" title=\"Is Love a Choice or an Uncontrollable Feeling?\">Is Love a Choice or an Uncontrollable Feeling?<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Does-letting-go-allow-them-to-come-back\"><\/span><b>Does letting go allow them to come back?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you let someone go, there is no guarantee that they will come back. The decision to come back or not depends on them. And since you are letting them go without holding back, they won&rsquo;t make any choice that you influence.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you let go, you respect the person&rsquo;s autonomy to do what is best for them, including deciding whether to come back.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-are-the-benefits-of-letting-go-of-a-person-you-love\"><\/span><b>What are the benefits of letting go of a person you love?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-92572\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/12\/2059082510.jpg\" alt=\"Man breathing fresh air \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before you apply the saying, &ldquo;If you love someone, set them free,&rdquo; it is important to mention that it is not an easy process except if you are not emotionally connected to them. However, here are some benefits to expect when you let someone you love go.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Emotional freedom<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you let go, the emotional burden on the relationship is released. You will feel a sense of relief from the anxiety and emotional rollercoaster that rocked the relationship. Also, you will experience a sense of freedom that brings clarity and relief.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Personal growth<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the benefits you will enjoy is the personal growth you will experience. You can leverage this opportunity to know more about yourself, chase your goals, and establish crucial boundaries.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>New opportunities<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Concerning the saying, if you love something, you set it free, you will likely get new opportunities. You will be more open to new opportunities and experiences that will positively impact your life.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Clarity and perspective<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you let go of something you love, you will have a clearer view of the state of the relationship. You may be able to identify your faults and good deeds, which will help you make better-informed choices in the future.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"FAQs\"><\/span><b>FAQs<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some additional helpful questions stressing over the concept of letting go of things we love. Have a read!<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How to know if I&rsquo;m setting someone free with love<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the ways to tell if you are setting someone free with love is when you allow them to make their choices, even if they don&rsquo;t choose you. Another way to tell is if you are empathetic towards their needs and feelings.&nbsp;<\/span><b><\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>What if I set someone free and they don&rsquo;t return?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you let someone go, there is no guarantee that they will return. You need to be prepared for the possibility that they may not return. Therefore, pay more attention to your well-being and growth and open yourself up to new opportunities.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How to deal with the guilt of setting someone free<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you let someone go, you might feel guilt, which is a normal part of the process. You can manage the guilt by seeking support from family, friends, or a therapist. Also, ensure you focus on self-love and self-compassion to reduce the feelings of guilt.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How to set myself free with love<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to set yourself free with love, don&rsquo;t ignore your desires and needs. Ensure you set healthy boundaries that protect your health and well-being. You can practice self-forgiveness and learn to let go of self-talk or blame.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How to know if I&rsquo;m ready to set something free<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the ways to know if you are ready to set something free is when you have evaluated the situation and its effect on your well-being. Another way to tell is if you have had open and honest communication with the other party and you are ready to move on.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Letting-go-to-learn-and-grow\"><\/span><b>Letting go to learn and grow<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When people say if you love something, you set it free, it might seem difficult to do, but sometimes, it might be the ideal solution for you in the long run. Therefore, when you set someone free, don&rsquo;t force them to come back.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Rather, wish them well and try to focus on your life. Consider seeking help from your support system and engaging in productive activities. If you need more help on how to let go, see a professional therapist or counselor.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this thoughtful <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/books.google.com.ng\/books\/about\/Letting_Go_with_Love.html?id=pPRWAAAAYAAJ&amp;redir_esc=y\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">book<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> by Nancy O&rsquo;Connor titled Letting Go With Love, you will learn more about the grieving process when you let go of someone you love.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>They say if you love something, let it go. However, it is not as easy as it sounds. If you loved someone or something, and you have to part ways, it might be a challenging phase for you.&nbsp; Sometimes, letting go proves that you love them and you are willing to allow them to make their decisions. In this article, you will learn more about the saying, &ldquo;If you love something, you set it free.&rdquo; What is the meaning of &ldquo;If you love something, set it free&rdquo;? 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