

{"id":89842,"date":"2023-10-04T15:30:12","date_gmt":"2023-10-04T15:30:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=89842"},"modified":"2023-10-04T15:31:48","modified_gmt":"2023-10-04T15:31:48","slug":"texts-after-first-date","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/texts-after-first-date\/","title":{"rendered":"Want to Text After a First Date? 27 Ideas to Keep Things Spicy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-89845\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/1401813236.jpg\" alt=\"Woman using smartphone \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So you&rsquo;ve just had a first date and you&rsquo;re wondering what to do next. The minutes and hours following that initial meeting can be filled with a mix of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/readiness\/ways-to-avoid-feeling-that-wedding-overwhelm\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">excitement and nerves<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What&rsquo;s the best way to follow up? A text can be a simple yet effective way to keep the momentum going. So, the thing is what to text after a first date.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We have texts to send after a first date, designed to suit a variety of situations and sentiments.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These suggestions are tailored for a range of reactions, moods, and intentions&mdash;whether you&rsquo;re keen on securing a second date, maintaining a casual connection, looking forward to something <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC8170361\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">intimate and long-term,<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or simply extending the dialogue.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At the end of the day, the time following a first date is crucial for establishing any <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/first-love-impacts-your-future-relationships-forever\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">future relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and a simple text can go a long way in setting the right tone.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"-27-texts-to-send-after-a-first-date\"><\/span><b>&nbsp;27 texts to send after a first date<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dealing with the post-first date scene can be tricky. You&rsquo;re interested but unsure of how to text after first date and leave the right impression.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To make it easier, we&rsquo;ve compiled 27 text ideas for various scenarios. Whether you&rsquo;re smitten or uncertain, these texts after a first date can help set the tone for what comes next.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-guys-text-when-they-like-you\/\" title=\"13 Ways Guys Hint They Like You Through Text\">13 Ways Guys Hint They Like You Through Text<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>For a great date<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your date was a home run, you&rsquo;ll want to see each other again. These texts to send after the first date make your enthusiasm clear while opening the door for future plans.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I had a really good time tonight. Would you be up for round two sometime?&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Thanks for a fun evening! How do you feel about doing it again?&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Tonight was great. When can we schedule the sequel?&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>For a so-so date<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If the date was okay but didn&rsquo;t light any fireworks, these texts express politeness without promising anything more. They&rsquo;re good for keeping your options open.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Had a nice time meeting you tonight. Take care!&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;It was good to meet you. Thanks for coming out!&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Nice meeting you! Have a great week ahead.&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>If you want to keep it light<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If the date was okay but didn&rsquo;t light any fireworks, these texts express politeness without promising anything more. They&rsquo;re good for keeping your options open.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I&rsquo;m still laughing about [insert funny moment]. Thanks for a fun time!&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;You&rsquo;re even more fun in person. Let&rsquo;s do this again!&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Tonight was a blast, wasn&rsquo;t it?&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>If you&rsquo;re unsure about a second date<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re on the fence about wanting a second date, these texts after a first date offer a way to express gratitude and keep the door open for further thought or discussion.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I had a good time tonight. It was different.&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I enjoyed our conversation. It really got me thinking.&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Thanks for tonight. I&rsquo;ll need some time to process it all, but it was nice meeting you.&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>If you&rsquo;re definitely interested<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you know you want to take things further, these texts are forwarded in a pleasant way. They make your intentions clear and ask for future engagement.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Can&rsquo;t wait to see you again. What&rsquo;s your schedule like next week?&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I had such a good time, I told my friends about you.&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Is it too soon to plan our second date? Because I&rsquo;m excited about the idea.&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check out this video if you want more ideas about how to text to set up the second date:<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/FkY0dV--48o?si=OthObl-AcmtaZS7L\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/sexy-texts-for-her\/\" title=\"100+ Sexy Texts for Her to Make Her Smile, Blush &#038; Want You More\">100+ Sexy Texts for Her to Make Her Smile, Blush &#038; Want You More<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>If you want to be honest but polite<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;ve concluded that you&rsquo;re not a match romantically but want to be respectful, these texts after a first date offer a polite but clear way to convey your feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I had a nice time, but I don&rsquo;t see this going further. Thanks for the evening!&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;It was good meeting you, but I didn&rsquo;t feel a romantic connection.&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Thanks for tonight. I think we&rsquo;re better off as friends if that&rsquo;s okay with you.&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>If you want to keep the conversation going<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether you&rsquo;re into them or just contemplating, these texts invite further discussion. They can offer valuable insights into whether a second date would be worthwhile.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;What did you think of [insert specific thing you discussed or did]?&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Did you get home safe?&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I&rsquo;m still thinking about [insert topic you discussed]. It&rsquo;s so fascinating!&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>For some light flirting<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These after-date texts are fun, flirty, and casual. Use them when you want to compliment your date and keep the mood light and intriguing.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;If all first dates are like this one, sign me up for more!&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;How did I get so lucky to meet someone like you?&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;You&rsquo;re as interesting as you are good-looking, and that&rsquo;s saying something!&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>If you&rsquo;re feeling brave<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re ready to put yourself out there, these first-date text message examples are for you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you&rsquo;re not sure what to say after a first date to convey attraction, try these. They&rsquo;re honest and can create a deeper connection by revealing vulnerability.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I&rsquo;m not great at this, but I&rsquo;d really like to see you again. What do you think?&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Can I be honest? I was really nervous tonight, but you made it easier. Thanks.&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I usually don&rsquo;t do this, but I had a great time and would love to see you again.&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-89844\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/1455947312.jpg\" alt=\"Man using smartphone \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/make-a-guy-fall-in-love-over-text\/\" title=\"How to Make a Guy Fall in Love With You Over Text Messages: 13 Ways\">How to Make a Guy Fall in Love With You Over Text Messages: 13 Ways<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Commonly-asked-questions\"><\/span><b>Commonly asked questions<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is it okay to text immediately after you say goodbye, or should you wait? When to text after a first date? And who should send that all-important first text? Below, we tackle some frequently asked questions about texting after a first date.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Is it okay to text after a first date?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Absolutely, it is okay to text after a first date. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/link.springer.com\/article\/10.1007\/s11042-018-6753-3\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Texting can be a great way<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to express your feelings about the date, whether they are positive or negative. It&rsquo;s a simple and direct way to show that you were engaged and appreciate the other person&rsquo;s time.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/abs\/pii\/S0747563215302181\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">timing and tone<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can vary greatly depending on how well the date went and what you want to happen next.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How often should you text after a first date?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There&rsquo;s no hard and fast rule, but moderation is key. If the date went well and both parties are open to each other, then a couple of texts spread out over the next few days can keep the momentum going. Bombarding someone with texts can appear desperate or pushy.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Conversely, not texting at all may signal a lack of interest. The key is to gauge the conversation and reciprocation from the other person. If they&rsquo;re engaged and responding well, then you&rsquo;re likely good to go for more text conversations.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Who should text first after a date?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The question of who should text first is often debated. Traditionally, it was considered more &ldquo;acceptable&rdquo; for men to initiate contact, but modern dating is all about equality and mutual interest. If you&rsquo;re a woman and you want to text first, go for it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re a man and you&rsquo;re wondering whether or not to take the lead, feel free. The main point is that if you had a good time and want to see the person again, it&rsquo;s entirely acceptable for either person to send the first text.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Should a guy text you after the first date?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The traditional perspective holds that a guy should text first, but we&rsquo;re in 2023, and times have changed. The question should be less about gender norms and more about mutual interest.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If the guy had a good time and wants to see you again, it&rsquo;s not only acceptable but often appreciated for him to send the first text. However, that doesn&rsquo;t mean a woman can&rsquo;t take the initiative.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gender should not be the deciding factor in who texts first; interests and feelings should be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-89843\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/1734170210-1.jpg\" alt=\"Woman using phone \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How do I keep him interested after the first date?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keeping someone interested after a first date involves a combination of genuine interest, good communication, and a sprinkle of mystery. Here are some tips:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It might sound obvious, but it&rsquo;s crucial. If you enjoyed the date and want to see him again, express that.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Authenticity tends to attract the same. Pretending to be someone you&rsquo;re not can often be sensed, and it&rsquo;s a turn-off.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t play the waiting game too long. If you had a good time, a message within 24 hours is a good idea.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Early on, keep conversations fun and engaging without delving too deep into serious topics. As things progress, you can open up more.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If the first date went well, don&rsquo;t hesitate to mention your interest in a second date. Keeping future plans on the horizon can help keep his interest.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While it&rsquo;s good to be open and share, leaving a little room for discovery can be intriguing and encourage him to want to know more about you.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If he texts or calls, respond in a timely manner. Reciprocity shows you&rsquo;re as interested as he is.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Enthusiasm is great, but over-texting can come across as needy or desperate.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A positive attitude can go a long way in attracting someone. People are generally more drawn to optimistic, upbeat individuals.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Acing-the-post-date-texting-game\"><\/span><b>Acing the post-date texting game<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The post-date texting is largely about balance. It&rsquo;s the art of expressing interest without appearing too eager and of showing enthusiasm without becoming overwhelming. Most importantly, it should be a genuine representation of you and what you&rsquo;re looking for in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So you&rsquo;ve just had a first date and you&rsquo;re wondering what to do next. The minutes and hours following that initial meeting can be filled with a mix of excitement and nerves.&nbsp; What&rsquo;s the best way to follow up? A text can be a simple yet effective way to keep the momentum going. So, the thing is what to text after a first date. We have texts to send after a first date, designed to suit a variety of situations and sentiments.&nbsp; These suggestions are tailored for a range of reactions, moods, and intentions&mdash;whether you&rsquo;re keen on securing a second <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":89845,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2498],"tags":[2580],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/89842"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=89842"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/89842\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":89846,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/89842\/revisions\/89846"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/89845"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=89842"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=89842"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=89842"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}