

{"id":85850,"date":"2023-05-05T16:11:59","date_gmt":"2023-05-05T16:11:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=85850"},"modified":"2024-07-15T02:01:11","modified_gmt":"2024-07-15T02:01:11","slug":"forbidden-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/forbidden-love\/","title":{"rendered":"What Is Forbidden Love? Everything You Need to Know"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-85854\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Shutterstock_1732931333.jpg\" alt=\"Couple having love outside \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Forbidden love is so strong and desirable in movies, books, or even in songs that it can make you want to be in one.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Romeo and Juliet are one of the most famous forbidden love examples. They loved each other, but their families were against it. It was a tragic love story, a forbidden love that caused pain, suffering, and, ultimately, death.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But what is it about forbidden love that makes it so appealing?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Somehow, the more challenges that come between you and the love of your life, the more you feel intense longing and love. It&rsquo;s like the pain intensifies your love for each other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this article, we&rsquo;ll discuss the forbidden love taboo and if it&rsquo;s worth fighting for.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-does-forbidden-love-mean\"><\/span><b>What does forbidden love mean?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you say forbidden love, it entails two people who are <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/how-to-love-someone\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">deeply in love with each other<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> but can&rsquo;t be together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There could be many reasons why their love couldn&rsquo;t be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Forbidden love refers to a love that is very strong, but due to external circumstances, it would be hard or even impossible for them to be together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For some, a love that couldn&rsquo;t be would be enough reason for them to fall apart, but for others, it&rsquo;s a fight they are willing to endure.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-an-example-of-forbidden-love\"><\/span><b>What is an example of forbidden love?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-85853\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Shutterstock_2260863393.jpg\" alt=\"Happy couple in the town \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Aside from the famous Romeo and Juliet, another example of forbidden love would be the forbidden love of Jay Gatsby and Daisy Buchanan.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The renowned novel, &ldquo;The Great Gatsby,&rdquo; by F. Scott Fitzgerald, tells a story about a mysterious but wealthy man, Jay Gatsby, who becomes obsessed with Daisy Buchanan.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The problem is that Daisy is already married, and even though they start to have an affair, their taboo relationship has tragic <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.reviewingresearch.com\/assessing-consequences-benefits-and-harms-of-research\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">consequences<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Much like in this novel, one form of forbidden love example is when a man and a woman fall in love, but both are already married or<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/tips-to-maintain-commitment-in-your-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> committed to one another.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When thinking about what is forbidden love, understand that it could also be love that you are in love with the ex of your sister or best friend.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These are just examples of love that is intoxicating but also condoned by society, a forbidden love.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-makes-love-forbidden\"><\/span><b>What makes love forbidden?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No one wants to experience the forbidden love that we&rsquo;re talking about, but life has a funny way of making us fall in love with the wrong person or the right person but in the wrong situation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The love between two people can be considered forbidden for several reasons. Here are some examples of why your love, no matter how strong, couldn&rsquo;t be:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ndash; One or both of you are already married<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ndash; You are in love with someone who doesn&rsquo;t love you back<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ndash; You are not from the same religion<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ndash;<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/is-it-normal-to-still-love-my-ex\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You are in love with the ex<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> of a family member<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ndash; You are in love with a family member or a relative<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ndash; You are not allowed to choose your partner because of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/academic.oup.com\/lawfam\/article\/35\/1\/ebab005\/6344842\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">arranged marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are other factors why some love affairs are considered taboo or unacceptable. Nonetheless, the idea of forbidden love only increases its appeal.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-a-person-may-feel-drawn-to-%E2%80%9Cforbidden-love%E2%80%9D\"><\/span><b>Why a person may feel drawn to &ldquo;forbidden love&rdquo;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why is the forbidden love taboo so addicting?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is it the &ldquo;you and me against the world&rdquo; thinking? Is it the length of challenges you must face just to be together?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The main reason why forbidden love is so appealing is that both parties think that their <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/love-will-never-be-enough-for-a-great-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">love is enough<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to test everything that goes their way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>According to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/maggie-martinez\">Maggie Martinez<\/a>, a licensed clinical social worker:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Usually, these lovers wear rose-colored glasses and often aren&rsquo;t realistic about the consequences.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They vow to do their best to achieve that happily-ever-after ending we all want.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While it&rsquo;s exciting, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.jstor.org\/stable\/1034667\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rebellious<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and challenging to pursue a love that is forbidden, it&rsquo;s important to realize that if you continue seeking this love could lead to consequences.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"When-can-the-pursuit-of-%E2%80%9Cforbidden-love%E2%80%9D-be-problematic\"><\/span><b>When can the pursuit of &ldquo;forbidden love&rdquo; be problematic?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-85852\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Shutterstock_2148499805.jpg\" alt=\"Couple happily looking at each other sitting outside \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you are involved in a forbidden love, sometimes, your judgment could become clouded.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The couple involved may decide to pursue the love they are fighting for, but in the process, they could experience problems.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This decision could harm familial and social consequences, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/he-keeps-hurting-me-emotionally\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional hurt<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and even legal consequences.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Just as Maggie Martinez suggests:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Due to the nature of what could happen, couples tend to ignore reality.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Forbidden love is not allowed for a reason, so it&rsquo;s essential to think about it before pursuing this relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Is-%E2%80%9Cforbidden-love%E2%80%9D-worth-it\"><\/span><b>Is &ldquo;forbidden love&rdquo; worth it?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Every love story is unique. This means that no one could tag your forbidden love as worth it because of your unique circumstances.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Only you and your loved one could analyze whether your fighting is worth it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s understandable that when you are deeply in love, whether it&rsquo;s forbidden or not, you want a happy ending, but what about the consequences of forbidden love?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are you ready to face the consequences?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are, and if you have thought about the social, familial, and legal impact of this decision, then maybe, it is worth it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ultimately, only you can answer this question.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-do-you-get-rid-of-forbidden-love\"><\/span><b>How do you get rid of forbidden love?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have decided to get rid of this forbidden love, then start with these steps:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Accept the attraction: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Know why you are in love and want to pursue this forbidden love.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Distant yourself: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The best way to move on is to create distance. This is not just physical distance but also emotional distance. Cut off all communication.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Seek professional help:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Professional help doesn&rsquo;t just work on <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">couples counseling<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. They could also help people who want to move on.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Love yourself:<\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-focus-on-yourself-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Focus on yourself<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and your growth. Find new hobbies, redirect your focus, and know you deserve better.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Clinical social worker Maggie Martinez further explains:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>You must process the loss of a relationship in order to progress in the next relationship.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-accept-and-move-on-from-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Moving on<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> from forbidden love can be challenging, but it&rsquo;s possible.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think that you&rsquo;re experiencing anxiety or depression. Don&rsquo;t worry; in this episode of Therapy in a Nutshell, Emma McAdam, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, tackles 6 proven ways to process your feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/7CcZ7gyFXv0\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Final-thoughts\"><\/span><b>Final thoughts<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Forbidden love hurts, but it&rsquo;s also addicting.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You want to fight for the person and your love story, but remember there is a reason why your love couldn&rsquo;t be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think about it, reflect, and before fighting for it, you have to be sure you&rsquo;re willing to accept the consequences.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If not, then there&rsquo;s only one option &ndash; to move on.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Forbidden love is so strong and desirable in movies, books, or even in songs that it can make you want to be in one. Romeo and Juliet are one of the most famous forbidden love examples. They loved each other, but their families were against it. It was a tragic love story, a forbidden love that caused pain, suffering, and, ultimately, death. But what is it about forbidden love that makes it so appealing? Somehow, the more challenges that come between you and the love of your life, the more you feel intense longing and love. It&rsquo;s like the pain <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":85854,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[9],"tags":[2570],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85850"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=85850"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85850\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":102946,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85850\/revisions\/102946"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/85854"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=85850"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=85850"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=85850"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}