

{"id":85575,"date":"2023-04-19T07:27:13","date_gmt":"2023-04-19T07:27:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=85575"},"modified":"2026-01-06T10:34:13","modified_gmt":"2026-01-06T10:34:13","slug":"how-career-affects-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-career-affects-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"How Career Can Affect Your Marriage &#8211; 8 Tips to Prioritize Your Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-85579\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/6441666664.jpg\" alt=\"Happy couple working on laptop together \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Prioritizing your relationship is hard enough on its own, especially with adding family obligations, school situations, or caregiving responsibilities. When you throw two careers in the mix, you could be well on your way to a crumbling relationship. Do you even know how career can affect your marriage?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research shows that <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.zippia.com\/advice\/average-work-hours-per-week\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">married individuals work more<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> than their single counterparts, with men clocking 3.9 more hours per week and women 1.7 more hours.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We already know that it&rsquo;s tough to keep up with a relationship while balancing your career. Early mornings, late nights, overtime, and an &ldquo;always-on&rdquo; mentality can cause your relationship to quickly shut off.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-can-a-career-consume-your-marriage\"><\/span><b>How can a career consume your marriage?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/EkNYDXMMIpY?si=jsin4Q7Wit7cdBWM\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The world is all about winning these days, and maintaining a good career with a peaceful relationship is as crucial as possible. However, it can be balanced with the right approach.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don&rsquo;t realize how your career consumes most of your life and starts affecting your relationships.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might feel that you don&rsquo;t have time to talk, face more conflicts, constantly have a difference of opinion, and heated arguments may increase all of this, and, of course, bringing the office to home is already happening.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No matter how much we try to identify the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/red-flags-in-women\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">red flags<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> unless it starts impacting your marriage, however, it&rsquo;s always possible to make changes. Below are some tips that will help you identify the issues and be the answer to the question, how career affects your marriage?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here is a video that will help you in making better career decisions:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/NcKLNP8x_QA\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-prioritize-your-relationship-again\"><\/span><b>How to prioritize your relationship again?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These tips will help you prioritize your relationship again when the only thing on your mind is your next paycheck.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Establish a clear work-life boundary<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once 5 pm hits and you walk in the front door, work turns off. Whether you have an empty email&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">inbox or a to-do list a mile long, your spouse should be the first one to get your attention.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having that clear boundary will make <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/effective-relationship-communication-skills\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> a lot easier.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your spouse won&rsquo;t have to wonder if they get your attention because it&rsquo;s already being shown that they will.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This should be a non-negotiable boundary in your marriage and one that simply becomes a habit over time. Small steps can allow you and your spouse to prioritize each other over the intense demands of a 9-5. These include:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A hug &amp; kiss as soon as your spouse walks in the door<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Turning off notifications on all devices (phone, email, work computer)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Banning any work-related conversation during set times (weekends, after hours)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is important to develop your own boundaries that work best for you and your spouse (and not waver on them). Consistency will create habits that will ultimately <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-renew-a-relationship-after-a-breakup\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">renew your relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> over the demands of your career.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Shift your mindset<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, the main barrier between a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/struggling-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">struggling relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and a prioritized one is a mindset shift. Don&rsquo;t believe it? Watch how small changes in perspective, mindset, mood, or thoughts can make a big difference in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead of always thinking your relationship is &ldquo;<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/knowledge.insead.edu\/career\/what-happiest-two-career-couples-are-doing-differently\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">you vs. me<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">,&rdquo; partners in thriving relationships understand that their own career success and their spouse&rsquo;s success are equally important. Both spouses contribute equally to the overall goal &ndash; a healthy, prioritized marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Undoubtedly, your career affects your life, but you don&rsquo;t have to let it rule your relationship. Dual-career couples with healthy relationships <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/knowledge.insead.edu\/career\/what-happiest-two-career-couples-are-doing-differently\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">quickly noticed benefits<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> once they shifted their mindset. These benefits included:&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intertwined professional identities<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Deep and regular conversation<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Increased communication<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Inspiration from seeing their spouse succeed<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you&rsquo;re dragged down with a project or deadlines loom, it can be easy to put the blame on your partner. Instead of thinking it&rsquo;s you against your spouse, change your mindset.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take a deep breath, and commit to conquering your career and relationship together. That quick shift will result in a healthier relationship that is a priority for both of you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Emphasize quality time<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quality time is important in a marriage, whether it&rsquo;s your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/different-love-languages\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">love language<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&reg; or not (more on that in the next section!). You may not realize that your career can affect your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">According to <\/span><a class=\"editor-rtfLink\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/christiana-njoku\" target=\"_blank\"><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Christiana Njoku<\/span><\/a><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">, LPC<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Spending quality time with your partner has a way of <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">enhancing<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> the intimacy between you <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">and your partne<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">r<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Making time for your spouse is just one way to show them they are important. By <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/marriage-fitness\/ways-to-prioritize-your-spouse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">prioritizing your spouse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you are taking the necessary steps to make your relationship a priority again. Careers take up a lot of our time &ndash; over 2,000 hours per year. If you&rsquo;re an overachiever and like overtime, double that amount.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think about all of the hours that could be spent with your spouse instead. Chatting over dinner, watching a movie, spending quality time together &ndash; no phones allowed.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your work still gets done, and you still reach success in your career, but your relationship with your spouse is so much stronger because of your decision to spend quality time together.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/relationships-need-quality-time\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">15 Reasons Why Quality Time Is So Important in a Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-85578\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/565646566.jpg\" alt=\"Happy man feeding his women in kitchen \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Show appreciation<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, it&rsquo;s the little things that go a long way. Whether it&rsquo;s:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Picking up their favorite candy at the gas station&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Filling up their gas tank<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Washing the dishes because you know they hate it<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Each seemingly small act of appreciation will add up with your spouse. When both spouses work toward consistently showing appreciation to the other, the relationship thrives. If words of affirmation are more their speed, a simple &ldquo;thank you,&rdquo; &ldquo;I love you,&rdquo; or &ldquo;I appreciate you&rdquo; can work wonders.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Knowing your spouse&rsquo;s love language&reg; is critical in understanding how they give and receive love. That knowledge will help you better show appreciation for them and help you both&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">prioritize your relationship again.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/8-ways-to-show-appreciation-to-the-love-of-your-life\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">8 Ways to Show Appreciation to the Love of Your Life<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>5. Communicate consistently<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communication is an important aspect of any relationship, but consistent communication can revitalize a relationship that was put on the back burner. Often, relationship satisfaction can be observed through the couple&rsquo;s current communication skills.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you aren&rsquo;t communicating well or enough, it&rsquo;s time to prioritize that so you can prioritize your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Several benefits happen when a couple <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/324680369_Marital_Satisfaction_and_Communication_Skills_among_Married_Couples\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">chooses to prioritize communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for the sake of their marriage. These can include:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/4-essential-tips-to-improve-physical-intimacy-in-a-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">More intimacy<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Reduced levels of conflict<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feel closer to each other<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Freely share thoughts and feelings<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communication in a relationship needs to happen consistently, but it also needs to be honest, open, and transparent. Marriage is not a place for deception, lies, manipulation, or confusion.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead, there should be clear expectations and open communication that blocks assumptions. By prioritizing consistent and genuine conversation with your spouse, you have the opportunity to revitalize your relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Focus on your relationship first<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your career is important, but your spouse is who you come home to every day. The 9-5 grind will always be there, but your spouse needs to know that your marriage matters. If you do not prioritize your spouse, your career can affect your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By establishing a clear boundary, shifting your mindset, emphasizing quality time, showing appreciation, and communicating consistently, you can prioritize your relationship when it feels consumed by your career.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-85577\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/04\/464665565.jpg\" alt=\"Man playing guitar while laying on floor with his girlfriend \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/things-you-wish-you-knew-before-first-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">25 Things You Wish You Knew Before First Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>7. Have tech-free time&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As much as you believe that your laptops and phones have made life easier for you, it is a no-brainer that around our loved ones, these devices can be a reason for conflict. Avoiding a laptop or phone when spending time with your partner is better.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Christiana Njoku, LPC, highlights that:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>As much as you can, give your spouse your undivided attention and avoid any form of distraction when you are with your significant other.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Receiving messages or emails while you try to spend some quality time with your partner can ruin the mood. If not, the constant notifications from different social media accounts can divide the attention.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This will not be convenient for your partner, and they will not appreciate it at all. So it will better to put away your work device and phone when you spend alone time with your partner to make the most of it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be mentally present with them and let them know that they have your undivided attention so they don&rsquo;t feel disconnected.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Understand the value of quality communication&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When we are so occupied and swamped with work, we do not realize that we communicate only to inform, and slowly, the attention your partner demands starts to deplete.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is very important to make sure when you communicate with your partner, you are completely aware of what they say and mean. Be mindfully present and understand the value of communication in your relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Takeaway\"><\/span><b>Takeaway<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A prioritized relationship can actually help you grow in your career since you have a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/knowledge.insead.edu\/career\/connections-between-love-and-work\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fully supportive life partner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> by your side.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As you navigate your dreams and goals, you want your spouse to be your best support system and not your biggest burden.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With both spouses prioritizing the relationship, your career doesn&rsquo;t have a chance of consuming your marriage anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Prioritizing your relationship is hard enough on its own, especially with adding family obligations, school situations, or caregiving responsibilities. When you throw two careers in the mix, you could be well on your way to a crumbling relationship. Do you even know how career can affect your marriage? Research shows that married individuals work more than their single counterparts, with men clocking 3.9 more hours per week and women 1.7 more hours.&nbsp; We already know that it&rsquo;s tough to keep up with a relationship while balancing your career. Early mornings, late nights, overtime, and an &ldquo;always-on&rdquo; mentality can cause your <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1386,"featured_media":85579,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2502],"tags":[2609],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85575"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1386"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=85575"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85575\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":116178,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85575\/revisions\/116178"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/85579"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=85575"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=85575"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=85575"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}