{"id":83967,"date":"2023-03-14T08:12:34","date_gmt":"2023-03-14T08:12:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=83967"},"modified":"2024-04-09T12:14:13","modified_gmt":"2024-04-09T12:14:13","slug":"how-does-a-narcissist-handle-rejection-and-no-contact","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/how-does-a-narcissist-handle-rejection-and-no-contact\/","title":{"rendered":"How Does a Narcissist Handle Rejection and No-Contact"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-83974\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Shutterstock_2159105393.jpg\" alt=\"Depressed sad man sitting alone \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Narcissistic love is riding on the rollercoaster of disaster filled with a heart full of tears.&rdquo; Author Sheree Griffin knows the <\/span><b>heartache that comes from loving and rejecting a narcissist<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. And yet, how does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact when they&rsquo;re also deep in pain and fear?&nbsp;<\/span><b><\/b><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/BGTRan0rYiA?si=PKuFiUlEHdDwrEbg\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We all carry painful burdens throughout our lives and the only choice any of us have is how we respond to that pain. No matter what happens though, the most important part is to be safe physically and mentally.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>While it can feel daunting to attempt narcissist rejection, it&rsquo;s often necessary to rediscover yourself and your own self-worth. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sadly, narcissists can erode our belief in ourselves, so we no longer know who we are.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you have no contact with a narcissist, you&rsquo;re also triggering a lifetime of pain and fear. Due to their own journey of trauma, they&rsquo;ve lost their sense of self and need others&rsquo; approval to find it. Without it, they can do anything from being aggressive to completely withdrawing.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, how does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact? They go from rage to denial to projection and back again. And does it hurt them? <\/span><b>If you consider the fear and the trigger of old childhood memories of rejection then, yes, it hurts.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nevertheless, it&rsquo;s worth remembering that we are all responsible for our stories and the events that happen to us.<\/span><b> It isn&rsquo;t your job to fix a narcissist, but your right to take care of your well-being for your own good and those around you.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-to-expect-when-you-reject-a-narcissist\"><\/span><b>What to expect when you reject a narcissist<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><b>As mentioned, the consequences of rejecting a narcissist can be extreme aggression, even violence. Alternatively, you&rsquo;ll see denial and withdrawal.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, how does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact? It all depends on the type of narcissist you&rsquo;re dealing with.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most things you read will tell you that narcissism is about being self-centered and selfish with a heightened sense of importance. The reality is far more complex.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>We are all narcissists at heart, including you and me. If we didn&rsquo;t have this natural desire to feel special, we wouldn&rsquo;t do half the things we achieve.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-83973\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Shutterstock_529081600-2.jpg\" alt=\"Couple sitting back to back not talking with each other \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If that sounds surprising, consider the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1177\/0146167211432763\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">study<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> conducted by psychologist Jonathan Brown that shows that most people view themselves as better than average regardless of reality.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The study also shows that the &ldquo;better-than-average&rdquo; effect amplifies if our self-worth is threatened. Essentially, we experience a narcissistic reaction.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All this doesn&rsquo;t negate the fact that 5% of the population suffers from Narcissist Personality Disorder, according to the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/my.clevelandclinic.org\/health\/diseases\/9742-narcissistic-personality-disorder#:~:text=Experts%20estimate%20that%20up%20to,teen%20years%20and%20early%20adulthood.\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cleveland Clinic<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. <\/span><b>It tells us that there&rsquo;s a spectrum of narcissist behaviors and reactions.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With all this in mind, what can you expect when implementing the no-contact rule with a narcissist?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think of it like wounded pride or a rejected sense of self. <\/span><b>On the one hand, the narcissist in your life might pretend your rejection didn&rsquo;t happen. They might also try to project their fear and blame you or even gaslight you and make you think you&rsquo;re making it all up.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On top of that, rejecting a narcissist sexually can lead to emotional outbursts because they simply can&rsquo;t deal with the pain of rejection. It&rsquo;s a raw wound from childhood that never healed.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/do-narcissists-come-back-after-no-contact\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do Narcissists Come Back After No Contact?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Things-that-happen-when-you-ignore-a-narcissist\"><\/span><b>Things that happen when you ignore a narcissist&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want more details to help you answer the question, &ldquo;How does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact&rdquo; more precisely, review the 15 behaviors you might experience listed in this article on <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/what-happens-when-you-ignore-a-narcissist\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ignoring a narcissist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-83972\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Shutterstock_1397569940.jpg\" alt=\"Couple having argument \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-does-a-narcissist-handle-rejection-and-no-contact\"><\/span><b>How does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist and rejection don&rsquo;t go well together. Nevertheless, when you reject a narcissist, you&rsquo;ll get different reactions according to their type.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As this Talkspace article on the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.talkspace.com\/mental-health\/conditions\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/types\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">types of Narcissistic Personality Disorder<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> explains, you can have the grandiose narcissist, the covert, the seductive, and others. <\/span><b>Where one might be charming and flamboyant, another might be more introverted.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As you can perhaps imagine, <\/span><b>the grandiose or overt narcissist is usually loud or aggressive in their reactions. On the flip side, a covert narcissist tends to play the victim.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In short, how does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact? They don&rsquo;t take responsibility for their emotions, but instead, they let themselves get overwhelmed by fear and anger.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Alternatively, as with the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/covert-narcissist\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">covert narcissist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, they&rsquo;ll be more manipulative in projecting their pain and blame onto you. Either way, you&rsquo;ll be made to feel like you&rsquo;re the worst person in the world.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Regardless, hold onto the big picture and remember that only they can help themselves, should they ever choose to. You can&rsquo;t change them or fix them, even if you can perhaps develop some empathy for their pain and past trauma.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-83971\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Shutterstock_1626446881.jpg\" alt=\"Mature couple not talking to each other \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><b>Sometimes, connecting with someone else&rsquo;s pain can help us accept them for who they are which, in turn, sets us free.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-does-a-narcissist-respond-to-rejection-or-no-contact\"><\/span><b>How does a narcissist respond to rejection or no contact<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Handling a situation refers to the responsibility someone takes for their feelings and behaviors. In contrast, a response is an actual behavior due to a trigger or event.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s also important to note the difference between a response and a narcissist rejection. A response is generally when someone pauses and then evaluates their options and emotions such that they can choose their behavior wisely.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By definition, a narcissist doesn&rsquo;t understand their emotions and doesn&rsquo;t know how to deal with them. So,<\/span><b> a no-contact narcissist tends to respond with knee-jerk reactions. These could involve yelling, stalking, badmouthing, and lashing out at you.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In summary, how does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact? <\/span><b>Not very well and they become victims of their emotions.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Remember that deep down, they&rsquo;re highly insecure because they were often abandoned or rejected as children.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This doesn&rsquo;t excuse the behavior, but it helps to understand it.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/revenge-tactics-of-a-narcissist\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What Revenge Tactics You Can Expect from a Narcissist<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-are-the-main-consequences-of-rejecting-a-narcissist\"><\/span><b>What are the main consequences of rejecting a narcissist?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In his book <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/books.google.co.in\/books\/about\/Rethinking_Narcissism.html?id=ewPNBAAAQBAJ&amp;redir_esc=y\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Rethinking Narcissism<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, Harvard psychologist Craig Malkin takes the idea that narcissists were once children who were overly admired one step further. He explains that those children only got praise for their actions rather than for who they were.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>They never experienced true empathy and understanding. They, therefore, grow up to be adults who crave love and nurture, but they don&rsquo;t have the tools to find it in healthy ways. This creates a huge amount of insecurity that can turn them into monsters.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In essence, the no-contact effect on a narcissist can be terrifying. As they never got the chance to develop <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/low-self-esteem-in-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">self-esteem<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> because of a lack of secure love when growing up, they become desperate when they feel the old emotions tied to rejection.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-83970\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Shutterstock_2176705907.jpg\" alt=\"couple having relationship problem \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another way to think of the question &ldquo;How does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact&rdquo; is to <\/span><b>imagine a flood of insecurity followed by a knee-jerk reaction to do anything to get you back.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The saddest part is that most narcissists aren&rsquo;t aware of how they cause their pain. Very few ever make it to therapy. If they do, it&rsquo;s usually because they&rsquo;re pushed by family rather than through their own will.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Regardless, if you&rsquo;re dealing with a narcissist that you can&rsquo;t cut out, it can help to reach out to a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> relationship therapist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. They&rsquo;ll guide you to understand your case and how to approach it. This includes dealing with the behaviors that come out as a consequence of your rejection.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Some-commonly-asked-questions\"><\/span><b>Some commonly asked questions<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some questions that can help you get further clarity about narcissists and their handling of rejection:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Can a narcissist accept rejection?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a narcissist is rejected, a mountain of pain from their past comes to life again. It&rsquo;s almost as if they were that neglected child all over again.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In sum, how does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact? <\/span><b>The reactions can range from aggression to withdrawal and even pitching your friends and family against you. This is the very opposite of acceptance.<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Are narcissists scared of rejection?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissists live in fear but try to mask it by doing anything to get approval and validation from others. It&rsquo;s a misguided attempt to create their self-image, but it fails because self-love comes from inside, not other people.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, yes, rejecting a narcissist sexually is a terrifying experience for them. <\/span><b>They&rsquo;ll feel out of control and inadequate. This can trigger unhealthy reactions in a confused attempt to hide their shame and loneliness.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact? They can stop feeling emotions by doing anything. This means the no-contact rule with a narcissist can throw them off the edge, almost into a tantrum.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How does a narcissist react when they can&rsquo;t control you?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you reject a narcissist, it reminds them, often unconsciously, of the lack of healthy love in their childhood. As a consequence, they learned to never depend on anyone because, in a sense, their caregivers weren&rsquo;t there for them.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, to answer the question, &ldquo;How does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact&rdquo; <\/span><b>you have to understand that they make up for this past trauma by always appearing to be in charge. This helps them feel independent and, therefore, safe.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>When you remove that control, they lash out in various ways to coerce you back.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Does no contact work on narcissists?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As mentioned, narcissism and rejection don&rsquo;t go well together, but that doesn&rsquo;t mean it won&rsquo;t work for you. In fact, <\/span><b>a no-contact narcissist is the best way to experience them, although sometimes it leaves you feeling guilty.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nevertheless, we are not responsible for other people&rsquo;s misfortunes, and we cannot change a narcissist. Instead,<\/span><b> the only thing we can do is to either cut them out or learn to manage our response to them.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The question &ldquo;How does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact&rdquo; might be relatively simple to answer. Nonetheless, only you can answer for yourself if you cut them out, including if they&rsquo;re a parent or sibling.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this TED talk if you want to reflect more on how acceptance can help you rather than getting caught up in remorse:&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/1uJ1n8iF4zs\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How does a narcissist feel during no contact?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a narcissist is rejected, they often become cruel and dismissive or aggressive and entitled. In some cases, the no-contact effect on a narcissist makes them feel that they&rsquo;re under attack.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In other cases, they&rsquo;ll quickly move on, believing they cut you off because you no longer serve them. Alternatively, they charm you so much that you start to doubt your decision. <\/span><b>This is all because they feel lost without your validation.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, how does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact? <\/span><b>With a mix of <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/self-sabotaging-in-relationships\/\"><b>self-sabotage<\/b><\/a><b>, manipulation, paranoia and vindictiveness.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How will a narcissist react to rejection?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dealing with the consequences of rejecting a narcissist means knowing they might talk badly about you behind your back to friends and family. Although, if your friends and family truly care about you, they&rsquo;ll see straight through this.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Rejecting a narcissist takes courage but is often the only way to reclaim your life<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. No one wants to deal with the aftermath of facing the question, &ldquo;How does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact&rdquo; but sometimes it&rsquo;s the only way.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Yes, you&rsquo;ll be facing rage, controlling behaviors, projection, and guilt trips, but whatever you do, focus on your needs and self-care<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. You can also remind yourself that sometimes a narcissist needs a wake-up call if they ever hope to find peace.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&rsquo;s how you keep moving forward after you have no contact with a narcissist.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"In-a-nutshell\"><\/span><b>In a nutshell<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><b>Living with a narcissist can sap you of your energy and self-esteem<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. After a while, you no longer know what&rsquo;s true or what you&rsquo;re feeling, as they discard everything as untrue. As you continue doubting yourself, it can be hard to know what to do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When considering the question, &ldquo;How does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact&rdquo; it&rsquo;s good to understand that there&rsquo;s a spectrum along which both covert and overt narcissists lie.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We all need a bit of healthy narcissism to function properly in life. Nevertheless, an overt narcissist might become aggressive, but a covert one might become malicious and deceitful. Either way, <\/span><b>no one deserves such toxicity in their life.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The way forward is to appreciate that the only thing you can change is you. Instead of hoping or wishing for them to go to therapy, you can also contact a relationship therapist. Together, you can explore specific strategies for your particular situation.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In essence, you&rsquo;ll learn to navigate your emotions as you implement no contact and move on with your life. <\/span><b>With courage, you too can move towards healthy relationships with people who value you for who you are rather than using you as a crutch.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&rsquo;s leave the narcissists to their own demons because we all have enough of our own.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&ldquo;Narcissistic love is riding on the rollercoaster of disaster filled with a heart full of tears.&rdquo; Author Sheree Griffin knows the heartache that comes from loving and rejecting a narcissist. 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