

{"id":83170,"date":"2023-02-17T09:03:41","date_gmt":"2023-02-17T09:03:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=83170"},"modified":"2026-02-27T11:36:26","modified_gmt":"2026-02-27T11:36:26","slug":"my-wife-never-initiates-intimacy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/my-wife-never-initiates-intimacy\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Things to Do if Your Wife Never Initiates Intimacy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-83173\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/New-Project-2023-02-17T142520.781.jpg\" alt=\"Man calming woman \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you feel &ldquo;my wife never initiates intimacy&rdquo;? No doubt you&rsquo;re frustrated. Especially if you once had a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/healthy-sex-life\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">healthy and active sex life<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are tired of initiating intimacy and are concerned that &ldquo;my wife won&rsquo;t touch me sexually,&rdquo; you&rsquo;re not alone.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The good news is: there are plenty of ways to banish problems in the bedroom and rekindle the fire with your wife.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What&rsquo;s more, you are not doomed to be in a sexless marriage! But you can&rsquo;t fix a problem if you don&rsquo;t know the cause. That&rsquo;s why we&rsquo;re looking at the most common reasons why your wife is never in the mood anymore and what you can do if your wife refuses to have sex.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8-reasons-why-your-wife-never-initiates-intimacy\"><\/span><b>8 reasons why your wife never initiates intimacy<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/VDK6kDAO7gk?si=oxG2GJ-c7GMJ_2CR\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some reasons that your wife might&nbsp; never initiate getting intimate with you in the bedroom.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. She is stressed out<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One reason your wife never initiates affection may be stress related. A study published by the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4199300\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Journal of Sexual Medicine<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> found that women had more difficulty staying focused during intimacy and lower arousal levels when under stress.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Illness, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/8-common-problems-in-married-life\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marital issues<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, motherhood, or work anxiety can cause your wife to feel too overwhelmed for intimacy.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. She is in mom-mode<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being a mom is a 24-7 job with a constant cycle of happiness, stress, and worry. If your wife doesn&rsquo;t want sex anymore, it may not be a low libido so much as a poor mom-life balance that&rsquo;s getting in the way of things.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your wife may not know how to put up her mom hat for the day and refocus on herself, which includes enjoying every aspect of her marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/mert-eker\">Psychologist Mert &#350;eker<\/a> points out,<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Getting out of &ldquo;mom mode&rdquo; to increase sexual desire requires a woman to practice self-care and relaxation. Regular self-care is important to strengthen physical health and increase energy levels. Additionally, strengethening emotional communication, reducing stress and resorting to relaxation techniques such as meditation and yoga can help increase sexual desire.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3><b>3. She doesn&rsquo;t feel connected to you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional intimacy is a big factor in a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/lessons-for-a-happy-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">happy marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and a satisfying sex life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While men often connect to their wives through physical intimacy, a wife needs a mix of physical arousal and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/repairing-emotional-intimacy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to feel connected to her partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your wife won&rsquo;t have sex, it could be that she just doesn&rsquo;t feel close to you anymore, and the idea of being intimate makes her feel too vulnerable.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. She&rsquo;s had some hormonal changes<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another reason &ldquo;my wife never initiates physical contact&rdquo; may be due to hormonal changes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your wife is pregnant or has had a baby in the last year, it could be a mix of pure exhaustion and wild hormones that are causing her libido to be off kilter.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, another reason your wife is never in the mood may be related to menopause.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Estrogen levels drop while a woman is transitioning into menopause, which can cause vaginal dryness and cause sex to be painful or just downright uncomfortable. Lowered estrogen can also cause her libido to lag.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading<\/i><\/b><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/science-of-love\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Love Hormones Unraveling the Veracity of the Science of Love<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>5. She&rsquo;s depressed<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does your wife deal with <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/mental-health-in-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">mental health<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> struggles or clinical depression? If so, it could be that the side effects of her depression, or even the medication she is on to treat it, are lowering her libido.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/mert-eker\">Psychologist Mert &#350;eker<\/a> shed more light on the situation by pointing out, <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Depression is a complex psychological condition that may involve a number of factors that cause a decrease in desire for sexual intercourse. These factors may include lack of energy, low self-esteem, decreased libido, and sexual dysfunction. Additionally, side effects of antidepressant medications can negatively affect sexual desire. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Depression can lead to negative thought patterns towards oneself, weakening body image and sexual self-confidence. Therefore, a multiple approach may be required to deal with decreased sexual desire due to depression.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3><b>6. She&rsquo;s interested in someone else<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the scariest reasons your wife won&rsquo;t have sex with you may be that she has feelings or is being intimate with someone else.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your wife won&rsquo;t have sex with you, try not to jump to accusations, as this usually only makes things worse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Please keep your eyes open <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/female-infidelity-signs\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">for signs she is interested in someone else<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, such as being secretive, avoiding you, or hitting the gym.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. She feels self-conscious<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does your wife struggle with self-love? The Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4555290\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">published a study<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that found low levels of self-esteem harmed a woman&rsquo;s sexual functions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your wife doesn&rsquo;t feel confident about her physical appearance, she may have inadvertently shut down your sex life.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. She isn&rsquo;t satisfied<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your wife never initiates physical contact, it could be that &ndash; horror of horrors &ndash; you may be bad in bed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/3-reasons-why-a-lack-of-communication-in-marriage-can-be-detrimental\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">lack of communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> may have led to years of unsatisfying sex, and the longer you&rsquo;re together, the more nervous she may be to bring it up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If she isn&rsquo;t satisfied in bed, it could be that she&rsquo;s tired of initiating intimacy only to be left wanting.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-things-to-do-if-your-wife-never-initiates-intimacy\"><\/span><b>5 things to do if your wife never initiates intimacy<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some reasons you can try if your wife doesn&rsquo;t initiate&nbsp; intimacy with you and you want her to be intimate.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Talk about it<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first and most important thing you should do if your wife is never in the mood is talk about it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be gentle and calm when you bring it up. If she senses you&rsquo;re blaming her for something, she&rsquo;ll go on the defensive.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead, tell her how much you love being intimate with her, not only because it feels great but because it makes you feel more connected to her.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ask if there is something you can do to make sex more enjoyable for her. Communication will go a long way in improving your sex life. Research shows that sexual communication was <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/onlinelibrary.wiley.com\/doi\/full\/10.1111\/jmft.12282\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">strongly associated<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with increased relationship satisfaction and heightened orgasm frequency in women.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Refocus on your marriage<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When was the last time you went out on a date together?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With kids and work schedules, it can unfortunately become easy to put date night on the back burner, but there are plenty of reasons to make it a priority in your week.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research published by the National Marriage Project found that couples who make time for date night experience benefits, such as <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">increased sexual satisfaction<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, improved communication skills, and injecting excitement and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/stoke-the-flame-5-secrets-to-keeping-passion-in-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">passion back into their relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Express concern for her mental health<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your wife is struggling with mental health concerns, anxiety, or depression that are not being handled professionally, gently encourage her to talk with someone about how she&rsquo;s feeling.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Seeing a therapist or speaking with her doctor about her mental health is a step in the right direction to help you recognize the woman you fell in love with.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here is a video explaining mental illness that might help.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/9B-wTp2PZH8\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Do a self-examination<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are many causes, physical and emotional, why your wife won&rsquo;t have sex with you anymore. While it&rsquo;s good to get to the root of the problem so you can resume a healthy, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/14-ways-to-keep-your-relationship-strong-healthy-and-happy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">happy relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, checking in with yourself is also good.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can I be more attentive to my wife?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is there any way I can help alleviate some of the stress she is feeling?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How can I let my wife know how sexy I find her?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What steps can I take to help my wife get in the mood?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Asking yourself such questions can help you on your way to a more active and satisfying sex life with your wife.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Go to marital counseling<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have gone through months or years of being patient with your wife and still aren&rsquo;t feeling physically connected, it may be time for <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marital counseling<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marital counseling can help couples identify underlying conflicts and improve their communication skills. It is a great resource for relationship help.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-83172\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/New-Project-2023-02-17T142545.325.jpg\" alt=\"Couple hugging each other \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"My-wife-never-wants-to-have-sex-%E2%80%93-8-ways-to-initiate-intimacy\"><\/span><b>My wife never wants to have sex &ndash; 8 ways to initiate intimacy<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some things that you can try if you want to get intimate with your spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Don&rsquo;t put pressure on it<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your wife never initiates affection, it&rsquo;s time to take the pressure off.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you build sex up to be a giant deal, you&rsquo;re putting pressure on both you and your wife. Not only may this put her off being intimate, but you may be setting yourself and your wife up for a stressful encounter.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Plan ahead<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Still, feeling like your wife doesn&rsquo;t want sex anymore?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Work and motherhood can be overwhelming, so instead of asking her for sex at the end of the day when you&rsquo;re both exhausted, start planning for it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make time when you are both relaxed. You can find a sitter and really focus on each other. This will make intimacy a million times more enjoyable for both partners.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Start dating again<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you search &ldquo;my wife won&rsquo;t touch me sexually,&rdquo; &ndash; it may be time to stop thinking about sex and start thinking about dating.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dating your wife, of course.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/mert-eker\">Psychologist Mert &#350;eker<\/a>,<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Planning a special evening also has different contributions to sexual intercourse. This type of planning can increase intimacy between couples and increase sexual desire by creating a romantic atmosphere. It also offers partners the opportunity to give each other more attention and care, which can strengthen the emotional bond. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In particular, planning a romantic evening can reduce stress and help couples relax, which can improve sexual performance and satisfaction.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your wife never initiates sex, it&rsquo;s time to bring out your inner charmer and start romancing your wife.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once you restore an <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/how-important-is-an-emotional-connection-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional connection<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, your physical one is sure to follow.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading<\/i><\/b><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/are-you-ready-to-start-dating-again\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are You Ready to Start Dating Again Ask Yourself These 5 Questions<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>4. Genuinely compliment your wife<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research shows that women who had a positive view of themselves <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC2707786\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">reported higher levels of intimate encounters<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and arousal.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your wife doesn&rsquo;t feel attractive anymore, she may shy away from undressing in front of you. Self-love is the answer, but you can help, too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Genuinely compliment your wife and make her feel sexy again.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Make your marriage a priority<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having a regular marriage check-in can help you keep an eye on your relationship and ensure you are satisfied with how much time you spend together in the bedroom.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Look for ways to help each other<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The less stressed she is, the more free space she has in her mind to devote to all things naughty.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Focus on foreplay<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tired of initiating intimacy? It&rsquo;s time to change your strategy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t jump straight to the finale.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take your time and show your wife you&rsquo;re not in a hurry. Focusing on her pleasure will make her banish any thought that &ldquo;my wife never wants to have sex.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading<\/i><\/b><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/foreplay-ideas-spice-up-your-life\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">30 Foreplay Ideas That Will Surely Spice up Your Sex Life<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>8. Never stop communicating<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This can be difficult since, statistically, couples are <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC3807599\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">not as willing<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to talk about sexual matters the same way they would other conflicts, such as children or finances. But keeping an open dialogue about your mutual wants and desires can <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/16-new-years-resolutions-to-improve-your-sex-life\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">improve your sex life<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> tremendously.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-83171\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/New-Project-2023-02-17T142605.030.jpg\" alt=\"Couple attending therapy session \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"FAQs\"><\/span><b>FAQs<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&rsquo;s discuss some of the most frequently asked questions related to what to do if your wife never initiates intimacy.&nbsp;<\/span><b><\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>My wife never initiates intimacy. What does it mean when your wife won&rsquo;t touch you?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your wife never initiates affection, it could be due to any of the reasons listed above in this article. However, another simple answer is that she isn&rsquo;t used to being the initiator.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have always been the one to initiate intimacy in your relationship, take a step back and tell her how sexy you think it would be for her to be the one to reach out.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>My wife is never in the mood. Can a marriage survive without intimacy?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you feel that &ldquo;my wife never initiates physical contact,&rdquo; you may be wondering if your marriage is doomed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can be in a marriage without sex. Some older couples and married partners with physical disabilities make it work every day and have a satisfying relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, if both partners are not okay with a sexless marriage, your relationship won&rsquo;t survive.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Takeaway\"><\/span><b>Takeaway&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling like &ldquo;my wife never initiates intimacy&rdquo; is incredibly frustrating. Not only are you missing out on some fun in the bedroom, but most importantly, you&rsquo;re missing that intimate connection it creates with your wife.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whatever your wife is going through that causes you to think, &ldquo;My wife never initiates intimacy,&rdquo; is probably just as worrisome to her as it is to you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be patient with her as she works on herself, and the two of you refocus on your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are tired of initiating intimacy and your wife doesn&rsquo;t want sex anymore, it may be time to consider marriage counseling.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Couples counseling can help the two of you get back on track in your marriage and the bedroom.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you feel &ldquo;my wife never initiates intimacy&rdquo;? No doubt you&rsquo;re frustrated. Especially if you once had a healthy and active sex life. If you are tired of initiating intimacy and are concerned that &ldquo;my wife won&rsquo;t touch me sexually,&rdquo; you&rsquo;re not alone. The good news is: there are plenty of ways to banish problems in the bedroom and rekindle the fire with your wife. What&rsquo;s more, you are not doomed to be in a sexless marriage! But you can&rsquo;t fix a problem if you don&rsquo;t know the cause. 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