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It’s been two weeks since my wedding, and I’m still feeling the <\/span>post-wedding blues.<\/span> Granted, I’m still in shock that it’s all over, and there are no more wedding-related things on my to-do list. But I’m usually someone who likes to stay busy, and my wedding definitely helped me with that! <\/span><\/p>\n

I’ve been tired, demotivated, and stressed since the wedding, and I’m pretty sure my partner is sick of hearing about it by now!<\/span><\/p>\n

I’m hoping these feelings will go away soon, but until then, I thought I’d give a little bit of an update about how I’m feeling and share my tips for dealing with those crazy feelings too.<\/span><\/p>\n

How I feel:<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

I wake up feeling like I’m waking up from the best sleep of my life- where did that come from? <\/span><\/p>\n

Did all of my worries and stress melt away while I was asleep? <\/span><\/p>\n

Was I dreaming??? <\/span><\/p>\n

But when I returned to work, I was groggy and tired all day. <\/span><\/p>\n

Usually, I’m back on my feet the next day, and I feel great. But not this time. I guess I’m just having a rough time adjusting to being married and “starting over” again. I know it’s only temporary, and I’ll feel better eventually, but for now, I don’t feel so great!<\/span><\/p>\n

Weddings have their own highs and lows but they always end the same way… with a day full of happiness and joy!<\/span><\/p>\n

I’m sure I’m not alone when I say that weddings can also be stressful and expensive. Planning a wedding takes months and can cost you a pretty penny! So, let’s discuss why you might be feeling blue after your wedding…<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>What are post-wedding blues?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

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Post-wedding blues are a common feeling after a wedding. They can be a combination of sadness, loneliness, and maybe even feeling like you didn’t really get to know your spouse-to-be well enough.<\/b><\/p>\n

Many people experience post-wedding blues at some point after the wedding. But for some people, these feelings can be extreme and last for weeks or months, or even years. Post-wedding blues can happen to anyone and are not limited to newlyweds. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes when a couple gets married, it can be very different from what they’ve been dreaming about. Sometimes the marriage is not quite as happy or exciting as they had thought it would be. And sometimes, they may find that their marriage is not what they had hoped it would be. Other times, they may not even love each other anymore. <\/span><\/p>\n

All of these things can lead to feelings of grief after the wedding is over.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Is post-wedding blues a thing?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Yes, there’s definitely a thing called the “post-wedding blues,” but <\/span>it’s not an official medical condition<\/b>. According to the <\/span>American Psychiatric Association<\/span><\/a>, it’s a short-term condition that affects about sixty percent of newlywed couples.<\/span><\/p>\n

It is normal to have some ups and downs during the weeks after the wedding or for you to feel a little bit sad when you look back on your big day and all the memories you have associated with it. <\/span><\/p>\n

And it is also perfectly normal for you to start missing your family and friends while you are adjusting to married life. So, you should let those feelings come and go instead of suppressing them.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>How can you tell if you’ve got the post-wedding blues?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

It’s easy for your wedding to become the center of your universe for weeks or months leading up to the big day. Here are some post-wedding blues symptoms to look out for:<\/span><\/p>\n

  • Feeling sad and\/or depressed – even a week after the wedding<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Feeling exhausted all the time<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Not sleeping well or getting enough rest<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Having a hard time concentrating at work<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Seeing <\/span>Stalking your ex every now and then, even though you’re supposed to be over them<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Other similar symptoms may be excessive crying and\/or anxiety<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>

    <\/span>Why do couples experience post-wedding blues?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

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    Many couples experience post-wedding blues after their big day. This feeling is usually caused by several factors, such as the extreme happiness and excitement of the wedding day slowly wearing off or general life changes that occur after the wedding. <\/span><\/p>\n

    Let’s look at the causes of post-wedding blues for couples:<\/span><\/p>\n

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      The sudden shift to the normal<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>

      The intensity of the emotions experienced on your wedding day can be overwhelming and lead to feelings of exhaustion and loneliness.<\/span><\/p>\n

      According to <\/span>Jennifer Jacobsen Schulz<\/span><\/a>, LCSW<\/span><\/p>\n

      There is significant buildup to the wedding day, with excitement over what <\/span>is to<\/span> come. After the wedding day, life returns to normal, and no longer having the wedding to look forward to can make daily life feel mundane.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

      If you experience intense emotions on your wedding day, <\/span>you may find it difficult to adjust to your new normal afterward.<\/b><\/p>\n

      You may feel overwhelmed by the magnitude of the event and may even feel lonely when you’re no longer surrounded by your loved ones on your special day, and such <\/span>feelings of loneliness need to be addressed<\/span><\/a> quickly.<\/span><\/p>\n

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        Expenses<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>

        Weddings are often an expensive affair, and there are often a lot of expenses that the bride and groom have to deal with not only for the wedding but after it as well. These costs include everything from buying new furniture for your home to planning out a party for your friends to welcome them to your new house. <\/span><\/p>\n

        Planning a wedding can be very exhausting, and if you’re feeling overwhelmed by financial stress<\/b>, it may lead to feelings of anxiety and depression.<\/span><\/p>\n

        A <\/span>study<\/span><\/a> also shows that women who spent $20,000 or more on their wedding were 3.5 times more likely to divorce than their counterparts who spent less than half that.<\/span><\/p>\n

        Check out this video to understand how you can combine finances after marriage and build a stronger and healthier marriage:<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n