

{"id":82014,"date":"2022-12-29T09:33:16","date_gmt":"2022-12-29T09:33:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=82014"},"modified":"2024-03-28T03:43:59","modified_gmt":"2024-03-28T03:43:59","slug":"feeling-worthless-in-your-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/feeling-worthless-in-your-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Things to Do if You Are Feeling Worthless in Your Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-82017\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/New-Project-2022-12-29T145341.465.jpg\" alt=\"Depressed frustrated teenage boy \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When someone feels worthless, they think they are not good enough and may not be worthy of who and what they have around them. If you often ask yourself, &ldquo;Why do I feel worthless,&rdquo; it is important to know the root cause of these feelings so that you can tackle them head-on.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this article, you will learn possible reasons why people feel worthless. Also, you will learn what to do when you feel worthless in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-reasons-why-you-might-be-feeling-worthless\"><\/span><b>5 reasons why you might be feeling worthless<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-82016\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/New-Project-2022-12-29T145358.194.jpg\" alt=\"Sad man leaning on wall \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have asked yourself, &ldquo;Why do I feel worthless,&rdquo; there are some reasons that you might be unaware of. When you recognize these feelings, it may become easier for you to tackle this issue. Here are some reasons why you might be feeling worthless.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Comparison<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When it comes to the popular inquiry, why do I feel worthless? It might be that the individual has repeatedly compared themselves to others. Some people could make the mistake of looking at other people&rsquo;s progress and using it to rate themselves if they are doing well or not.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is also likely to happen in relationships, where someone might feel dejected because their partner seems to be faring better than them. When you compare yourself to others, it may not be easy to see the rate at which you&rsquo;re advancing.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Therefore, you will likely lose track of your growth process because of the distraction that comes with comparison.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/never-compare-your-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10 Reasons You Should Never Compare Relationships or Your Partner<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>2. Negative statements from people<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is also possible to feel put down when someone tells you something that affects your confidence or self-esteem. If you don&rsquo;t notice these negative words from people, you might keep asking yourself, &ldquo;Why do I feel worthless?&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When someone makes you feel worthless with negative remarks, you may begin to accept that you&rsquo;re not good at anything.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It may be normal to care about what other people think about us, especially our loved ones, co-workers, employers, etc. The same applies in relationships, where partners speak ill of each other.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This can make them develop <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/low-self-esteem-in-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">low self-esteem<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and reduced confidence levels.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this video on how to deal with negative people:&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Q5DoDfAjIl0\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. When you don&rsquo;t believe in yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have asked yourself, &ldquo;Why I am so worthless,&rdquo; you may consider the words you&rsquo;ve been telling yourself. People who give themselves degrading comments may have grown up listening to negative things about themselves.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Therefore, speaking down on themselves might be second nature to them because they are used to it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you feel worthless, you need to start paying attention to your words and what you think about yourself. It would help to read out words of affirmation to yourself and stay around positively-minded people.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Childhood trauma<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People who experienced a rough childhood might ask, &ldquo;Why do I feel worthless?&rdquo; Most of the activities that happen during our childhood experience are likely to enhance or degrade our self-image.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Therefore, if you experienced abuse, parental abandonment, poverty, maltreatment, etc., you may wonder why you feel worthless. Some people who experience these feelings of worthlessness may carry them into adulthood, which could <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/negative-experiences-of-the-past-can-affect-your-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">affect their relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with lovers and friends.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. You give up quite easily<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understandably, not everyone would have the same grit and resilience level due to varying reasons. You may start feeling a sense of worthlessness when you give up easily. If you discover that someone doing something similar succeeds at it, you might feel dejected.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may need to figure out why you lack resilience and take some steps to be better at not giving up. Sometimes, we give up on things we want because resilience isn&rsquo;t in the picture. You can always get better and achieve more when you try not to give up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">According to&nbsp;<\/span><a class=\"editor-rtfLink\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/maggie-martinez\" target=\"_blank\"><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Maggie Martinez<\/span><\/a><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">, a licensed clinical social worker:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">We can practice becoming more resilient when we go through difficult situations and experiences.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To understand worthlessness, this research study by Roland Zahn and other authors is a must-read. The <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/pii\/S0165032715004309\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">study <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">is titled the role of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-stop-the-blame-game-in-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">self-blame<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and worthlessness in the psychopathology of major depressive disorder.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-can-someone-make-their-partner-feel-worthless-without-even-trying\"><\/span><b>How can someone make their partner feel worthless without even trying<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In relationships, some partners can feel worthless based on how their spouses treat them, and it can make some of them ask why do I feel worthless.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the ways that someone can make their partner feel worthless is when they don&rsquo;t practice mindfulness in their relationships. A good example is when a partner does not try to initiate romantic affection or ends up resisting it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you don&rsquo;t show your partner physical intimacy signs, they may start to feel worthless. Alternatively, if they show some romantic gestures, and you don&rsquo;t reciprocate as expected, it could make them unimportant.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another way people can make their partners feel worthless is when they don&rsquo;t communicate openly.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This means they might make plans without involving their partners at the initial stage, only to inform them much later.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some partners may find this painful because they will feel that their partner does not probably consider it important to involve them in their plans.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can learn more about worthlessness in this research titled <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC9160466\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Psychopathology of Worthlessness in Depression<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. This study, written by Phillippa Harrison and other authors, helps you understand how feelings of worthlessness and depression can creep in.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-things-you-can-do-if-you-feel-worthless-in-your-relationship\"><\/span><b>5 things you can do if you feel worthless in your relationship<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-82015\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/New-Project-2022-12-29T145410.721.jpg\" alt=\"Depressed woman sitting beside the wall \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you ask questions like &ldquo;Why do I feel worthless,&rdquo; it could mean that you don&rsquo;t feel valued or appreciated. If you are feeling worthless in a relationship, there are some things to do that will make you feel better in the long run.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Celebrate your little wins<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you usually ask, &ldquo;Why do I feel worthless and unwanted,&rdquo; it might be that you&rsquo;re not celebrating your little achievements.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In a relationship where one person is doing better than their spouse, the partner who feels worthless may think they are not successful. If you are in this position and need to stop feeling worthless, you must focus on your wins.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learn to celebrate the little milestones you&rsquo;ve conquered, and look forward to more wins. If you find it hard to smash big goals, you can break them down into little ones to make them easier to achieve. Additionally, you should take a record of your wins so that you can go through them when you feel less of yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/never-compare-your-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">15 Relationship Milestones That Are Worth Celebrating<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>2. Open up to your partner<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are in a relationship and are thinking about why they make you feel worthless, you may be comparing yourself instead of collaborating with them. When care is not taken, you might find yourself getting jealous because you&rsquo;re not achieving up to their standards.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can open up to your partner about how you feel so that they can help you get better. People with understanding partners might be lucky because they will be there for them to eliminate every feeling of worthlessness.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Learn to love yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You must learn to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/learning-to-love-yourself\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">love yourself<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to overcome feeling worthless in your relationship. Sometimes, when things don&rsquo;t go our way, we will likely be gloomy, sad, and not full of life. Hence, we might begin to doubt ourselves and become insecure about our identity.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Loving yourself is one of the suitable ways to reposition yourself to stop feeling worthless. Every human is special in their ways, and you need to realize that you may be doing better than you&rsquo;ve noticed.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you learn to love yourself, your partner may love and treat you with optimum respect to make you feel special.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Get better at what you do<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, people who ask, &ldquo;Why do I feel worthless?&rdquo; are not too good at what they do. Therefore, it might be advisable to improve and get better at your relationship, job, or draft.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For instance, if you&rsquo;ve been getting complaints from your partner about your role execution in the relationship, take an honest look to see where you can improve.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you don&rsquo;t have the resources needed to make a change, you can always seek help from trusted people. If you put in more effort, you may start noticing improvements in your performance which will boost your confidence and self-esteem.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. See a counselor\/therapist<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To avoid being worthless, especially in your relationship, you can consider seeing a counselor or therapist for help. When you go for counseling or therapy to address an issue, the professional conducts an in-depth evaluation to uncover the root cause of the problem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are feeling worthless in your romantic union, seeing a counselor or therapist will go a long way in helping you understand the situation. After getting a good perspective of the situation, the counselor helps outline solutions peculiar to your case to erase the feelings of worthlessness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>As Maggies Martinez explains:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Sometimes, we need help from an objective source. A therapist is a great place to start.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This book by Desiree Leigh Thompson is a good read to learn more about healing from worthlessness. The book is titled <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/books.google.com.ng\/books?id=T88izgEACAAJ&amp;dq=worthlessness&amp;hl=en&amp;sa=X&amp;redir_esc=y\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Healing Worthlessness<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, which contains an inspiring story on overcoming the worthlessness trauma and recovery.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The-takeaway\"><\/span><b>The takeaway<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People feel worthless from time to time, so it might be common to ask why I feel worthless. However, irrespective of the source of this feeling, it is often difficult to contend with. It would help if you first found out the root cause of this feeling before looking for a solution.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With the tips mentioned in this article, you can take a bold step to increase your positivity and boost your self-image. If you feel it might be overwhelming to handle this alone, you can seek the help of a professional counselor.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When someone feels worthless, they think they are not good enough and may not be worthy of who and what they have around them. If you often ask yourself, &ldquo;Why do I feel worthless,&rdquo; it is important to know the root cause of these feelings so that you can tackle them head-on. In this article, you will learn possible reasons why people feel worthless. 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