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\"Couple<\/p>\n

When a guy has sincere feelings for you, he will try everything possible to convince you he is here to stay. For instance, he will be more detailed about his life when discussing with you, he will want to meet your loved ones, and vice-versa. He may also show genuine interest in different aspects of your life to prove his commitment. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, when a guy is playing with your emotions, you might get confused about his feelings for you. This article explains some signs that answer the question, “Is he playing me?”<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Why do guys play girls sometimes?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

If you are a lady and you’ve asked questions like, “Is he playing me?”, he might be doing this because he loves control. He probably wants to manipulate the situation and have you do what he wants before he leaves you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes, guys could play with girls because they don’t want to get intimate. Hence, they would rather play them to prevent getting hurt.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>How to be sure if a guy likes or is playing you<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

There is a thin line between when a guy likes you and he’s playing you. This is why knowing answers to questions like, “Am I being played?” is important to know if you’re being manipulated. If a guy likes you, he is likely to introduce you to his family and friends because he might want to build something special with you.<\/span><\/p>\n

On the other hand, if he’s playing you, he may be reluctant to let people know about you because his intentions for you are not genuine. Another way to know is when he doesn’t discuss the future with you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Rather, he probably prefers to dwell in the present instead of making some plans together with you.<\/span><\/p>\n

To understand more about Players, read this book by Heidi Fleiss, and Libby Keatinge titled <\/span>The Players Handbook<\/span><\/a>. This book contains the ultimate guide on <\/span>dating and relationships<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Related Reading<\/i><\/b>: <\/span><\/i>Dating vs. Relationships<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
<\/span>15 signs he’s playing you<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
\"Woman<\/p>\n
When a guy is playing you, some signs might be clear as crystal, while some might be confusing to detect. If you need clarification on how a guy feels towards you, here are some signs he’s playing you.<\/span><\/p>\n
1. He has not told his loved ones about you<\/b><\/h3>\n
If a guy has not told his family and friends about you, there is a probable chance that he is playing you. When a guy is in <\/span>love with someone<\/span><\/a>, he may find it hard to keep his feelings to himself. Hence, he is likely to share it with people he trusts.<\/span><\/p>\n
According to a Licensed Professional Counselor and Relationship Coach <\/span>Christiana Njoku,<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n
If a guy is really interested in having you in his future, he will ensure he introduces you to the people that matter to him.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Also, if you’ve asked questions like, “Is he playing me?”, and you discover that he has not told his loved ones about you, he may be playing you. If you nudge him to introduce you to his family and friends, and he keeps bringing up different excuses, it might be one of the signs a man is a player.<\/span><\/p>\n
2. He doesn’t want to meet your loved ones<\/b><\/h3>\n
When it comes to the question of “Is he playing me?”, one of the possible signs that he might be playing you is when he doesn’t want to meet your family and friends. If you discover that he keeps turning down every opportunity to get introduced to people who matter to you, then he could be playing you. <\/span><\/p>\n
On the other hand, if a man is serious with you, he may jump at every chance to meet the people you hold dear. Such men know the importance of being on talking terms with your <\/span>loved ones<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n
3. He has not posted the pictures of the two of you<\/b><\/h3>\n
These days, you can find out concerning questions like whether he is a player or not by his activities on <\/span>social media<\/span><\/a>. If you discover that he has not shared pictures of the two of you on his socials, he might be playing you.<\/span><\/p>\n
In some cases, he might not want people to know what is going on between the two of you. Some guys might also be in a <\/span>serious relationship<\/span><\/a> they don’t want to jeopardize, so they will keep your pictures from their social media accounts to prevent anyone from suspecting.<\/span><\/p>\n
Related Reading<\/i><\/b>: <\/span><\/i>4 Things to Avoid in Social Media if You Are in a Committed Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
4. He prefers to hang out with you in private<\/b><\/h3>\n
For people who ask questions like, “Is he playing me?”, one of the ways to know is when he wants to <\/span>spend time<\/span><\/a> with you in private rather than in public.<\/span><\/p>\n
He probably doesn’t want anyone to see you with him in public and start wondering if the two of you are together. Similarly, he will turn down any occasion to see you where other familiar faces will be. If you ask him for his reasons, he may not have any valid ones to give.<\/span><\/p>\n
5. He doesn’t talk about the future with you<\/b><\/h3>\n
In answer to the question, “Is he playing me?”, you can tell if a man is not serious about you when he avoids topics centered on the future. If you observe closely, you may see that he prefers to discuss the present and the past instead of the future.<\/span><\/p>\n
He might also be selective with his words when he talks about his plans because he probably doesn’t want you to know that you’re not involved. When a man is truly in love with someone, he may seize every opportunity to let them know that he is <\/span>planning a future<\/span><\/a> with them.<\/span><\/p>\n
6. He doesn’t allow you to touch his phone<\/b><\/h3>\n
If a man likes you, he might allow you unfettered access to some personal items like mobile phones. However, if he prevents you from handling his phone, he may hide something that he doesn’t want you to find out.<\/span><\/p>\n
Such men may not even press their phones when with you because they don’t want you to see what they’re doing. Overall, you’ll notice his disposition when he’s on his phone is weird and suspicious because he probably doesn’t want you to see his conversations or activities with other people.<\/span><\/p>\n
7. He isn’t interested in your crucial life activities<\/b><\/h3>\n
Another way to know if a guy is playing you is his disposition to important things in your life. A player can’t show genuine interest in some things in your life because they are just around for the short term.<\/span><\/p>\n
They are likely to treat most things that concern you with fun because they don’t have serious plans for you. He probably doesn’t have an important space for you in his life, which is why he doesn’t show interest in some of your activities.<\/span><\/p>\n
8. He gives empty promises<\/b><\/h3>\n
If you want to know how to recognize a player, one way to differentiate him from a sincere guy is if he keeps his promises or not.<\/span><\/p>\n
Since he knows what he wants from you, he will likely keep making promises so that you can do his bidding. If he wants to sleep with you, he might make huge promises to motivate you to give in. <\/span><\/p>\n
However, after he gets what he needs, you will discover that he made those promises to get you in bed.<\/span><\/p>\n
If you have a contrary opinion to what he wants, he might say things that will make you lose your confidence and accept his demands eventually. Such men may not care about your feelings, and they don’t respect your decisions.<\/span><\/p>\n
Watch this video on a narcissist\/manipulator’s empty promises: <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n