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Have you ever been involved in an argument where a third party is suddenly introduced, and you end up being on the losing side even though you were right? Or have you experienced being compared to another person just because your partner wants you to please them?<\/span><\/p>\n These are some of the signs of narcissistic triangulation you should know about. <\/span><\/p>\n In this article, you will learn more about narcissist triangulation, how to identify the situation and the right way to respond.<\/span><\/p>\n What is narcissistic triangulation? <\/span><\/i>Narcissistic triangulation is an<\/span> emotional manipulation<\/span><\/a> strategy a narcissist uses to push things in their favor. <\/span><\/p>\n They introduce a third party into the picture so that the conversation or argument goes their way. If the third person is physically present, narcissists use triangulation to cause division. Hence, the third party ends up being on their side.<\/span><\/p>\n In this research study by Nicholas J.S. Day and other authors, you will learn more about the personality trait of narcissism and how it affects their relationships. This study is titled<\/span> Living with pathological narcissism<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n On why do narcissists triangulate, one of the main reasons is because they want to show their superiority status over the other person. <\/span><\/p>\n They also want to shift the burden of an argument to the third person so they won’t be alone. Narcissists also use triangulation to distract the other person from the main point or argument.<\/span><\/p>\n Narcissists do not get tired of wanting things to go their way; this is why they triangulate. One of the ways to identify narcissistic triangulation in a relationship is when the narcissist keeps talking about the good deeds of their ex. <\/span><\/p>\n The goal is to let their current partner feel jealous and do their bidding. Another way is to reach out to a third party to report their partner to them. They do this often for the third party to take their side in an argument.<\/span><\/p>\n Fidelma Rafferty’s <\/span>book<\/span><\/a> titled Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Relationships helps you identify who a narcissist is and how to help them become better. <\/span><\/p>\n Narcissist always wants to control those around them; this is why the narcissistic triangulation syndrome exists. Here are some of the common narcissistic triangulation examples<\/span><\/p>\n It is common thing to witness narcissistic triangulation in romantic relationships. Narcissists use triangulation to assure themselves that their partner will always be there for them. <\/span><\/p>\n They can tell you that their ex-partner is still on their neck and doesn’t know what to do. They might also involve a third party in your arguments and convince them to choose their side.<\/span><\/p>\n A narcissistic employer or boss can also use triangulation to influence your productivity in the workplace. For example, they can compare a performing team member to someone struggling to meet milestones. Your boss could also confide in you about another team member, which can change how you see your boss.<\/span><\/p>\n Additionally, your co-worker can gossip to you about how another co-worker treated them. This is to seek your support when anything happens in the future. Also, if you disagree with a coworker, they can triangulate the boss to take their side.<\/span><\/p>\n When there is conflict in marriage, a narcissistic partner will focus on pouring love on their children so they can take their side.<\/span><\/p>\n According to <\/span>Grady Shumwa<\/span><\/a>y, a licensed mental health counselor:<\/span><\/p>\n In a marriage conflict, a narcissistic partner may try to manipulate their children by showering them with attention and using them to take sides. They often avoid direct communication with their spouse, instead using their children as intermediaries for passing messages or expressing frustrations.<\/span><\/p>\n This behavior not only puts undue pressure on the children but also disrupts healthy family dynamics, as the children are drawn into the conflict and may struggle with divided loyalties.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n They will not communicate with their spouse, but they will use their child as a medium to pass on any information. Also, they will vent and<\/span> express their feelings<\/span><\/a> to the children instead of their partners.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>What does narcissistic triangulation mean?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Why do many narcissists triangulate?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
RELATED READING : <\/span>How to Respond to Triangulation in Relationships: 6 Ways<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<\/span>What does narcissistic triangulation look like in a relationship?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
RELATED READING : <\/span>12 Games People With Narcissistic Personality Disorder Play<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<\/span>Examples of narcissistic triangulation<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
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