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If you have been a victim of abuse, you may feel uncomfortable with physical affection. This is because past traumatizing experiences can leave you with a burning question on your mind. <\/span><\/p>\n

“Why do I hate being touched?”<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

The truth is this. Many people who have gone through these ugly experiences tend to shy away from physical and emotional intimacy for a long time. Past episodes of abuse can leave bitter experiences in your memory and cause you to push back against every form of intimacy, even if the person is your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, don’t feel bad if you don’t like to be touched sexually (and it is because of a past terrible experience). This article will show you why you may dislike being touched (even if you haven’t been sexually abused in the past). <\/span><\/p>\n

You will also discover effective solutions that will help you to <\/span>improve intimacy in your relationship<\/span><\/a>.  <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>What is the impact of past trauma on sexual intimacy? <\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

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Over the years, the <\/span>impact of sexual violence on partner intimacy<\/span><\/a> has been a major subject of study. Irrespective of how these studies are conducted, one thing always comes up as a constant.<\/span><\/p>\n

If past sexual abuse is not adequately addressed, it can prevent a healthy adult from getting sexually and emotionally intimate with their partner. This sexual and emotional indifference can take its toll on a relationship as the other partner begins to wonder exactly what could be going wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n

Surprisingly, the number of people who have undergone sexual violence seems alarming. Recent statistics show that every year, there are <\/span>over 463,634 victims of sexual assault<\/span><\/a> in America. Out of these numbers, the most affected are young people. <\/span><\/p>\n

This implies that if something isn’t done about it, many people might end up scarred for the rest of their lives because they have undergone these experiences that leave bitter memories in their minds.<\/span><\/p>\n

Past trauma can keep you away from your partner for a long time. For one, you may be attacked by a flood of negative experiences you had each time your partner tries to initiate sexual activity with you. When you don’t like physical affection with your partner, there’s every possibility that they’ll start withdrawing from you, especially when they don’t know what you are going through.<\/span><\/p>\n

As a result, trauma does not only haunt its victim. If unattended,<\/span> trauma can negatively impact<\/span><\/a> the victim’s relationship and every other aspect of their lives. <\/span><\/p>\n

Licensed Mental Health Counselor Kimberly Smith<\/a> states that,<\/p>\n

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It is important to seek professional help from a therapist to help you identify what triggers remind you of your trauma, identify trauma responses that negatively impact your relationships and other areas in your life. Further, therapy helps you learn how to separate your trauma from the life you are building for yourself in the present so you can heal and move forward.<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n

<\/span>5 reasons why you don’t like being touched anymore <\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

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Here are the top 5 reasons why you don’t like being touched anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. It could be the result of past trauma <\/b><\/h3>\n

We have already pointed out the impact of <\/span>past trauma on relationships<\/span><\/a> and intimacy among partners. <\/span><\/p>\n

When the residue of past trauma is buried somewhere in your mind, you may experience challenges connecting with your partner and experiencing emotional intimacy with them.<\/span><\/p>\n

One of the brain’s default reactions to past trauma is moving on quickly and behaving as if nothing happened. So, you may see someone who has just suffered abuse jumping into a new relationship or occupying themselves with new career goals. While these can help, the only solution to abuse is to admit that something has happened and address issues squarely.  <\/span><\/p>\n

If you hate being touched by your partner (and it isn’t something that just started recently), please take a break and think about your past. Have you ever been at the receiving end of sexual abuse?<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Postpartum Disorder <\/b><\/h3>\n

Did you just have a baby? If you desire to be left alone because you just put to bed, you may want to cut yourself some slack.<\/span><\/p>\n

Postpartum disorder is when a woman who has just been put to bed falls into a depressed state. In this state, it might appear that she has lost the will to live. Some women with <\/span>postpartum depression<\/span><\/a> may even get to a point where they may find it difficult to carry out their maternal duties toward their children.<\/span><\/p>\n

Regardless of its mysteriousness, statistics have shown that <\/span>about 1 in 8 women will experience postpartum depression<\/span><\/a>. This implies that the condition is real and more common than you may have imagined.<\/span><\/p>\n

The good news is that postpartum depression can be clinically managed. When you discover the <\/span>signs of depression<\/span><\/a>, please encourage your partner to see a doctor. Then again, one way to support her is to go with her (if she wants you to).<\/span><\/p>\n

If she doesn’t like being touched anymore (shortly after putting to bed), she might be dealing with postpartum depression.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Stress <\/b><\/h3>\n

Stress can be another reason why you don’t like to be touched by your partner. If you are always under duress, spend long days at work, and always have something else to worry about, you may find it difficult to <\/span>experience emotional intimacy with your partner<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Imagine your boss is on your neck to meet your next major career milestone. At the same time, you’ve got the kids’ bills and a house you need to pay the mortgage on. There’s every possibility that you may not be keen on jumping into bed with your partner when their invitation comes knocking.<\/span><\/p>\n

Stress has a way of dampening your sexual drive. The solution is to talk to your partner and let them understand exactly what is happening with you.<\/span><\/p>\n

How to cope with stress and anxiety? Watch this video to know more.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n