

{"id":81084,"date":"2022-11-02T16:53:52","date_gmt":"2022-11-02T16:53:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=81084"},"modified":"2022-11-29T12:06:43","modified_gmt":"2022-11-29T12:06:43","slug":"persistent-myths-about-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/marriage-fitness\/persistent-myths-about-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Top 10 Persistent Myths About Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-81087\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/New-Project-2022-11-02T221902.519.jpg\" alt=\"Newly married couple \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The internet, social media, and society are filled with many myths about marriage. Sometimes, these myths are borne out of the bad experiences people in marriages have had.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then again, some of these myths are handed down across generations; children learn them from their parents and move on to teach their children the same.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this article, we will uncover some of the common marriage myths. The idea behind this is to help you see what is true and what isn&rsquo;t.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then again, you will discover exactly what you must do when discovering these myths about marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Top-10-persistent-myths-about-marriage\"><\/span><b>Top 10 persistent myths about marriage&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-81086\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/New-Project-2022-11-02T221920.727.jpg\" alt=\"Man holding a cup beside woman \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some marriage myths that seem to have dragged on for years.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Healthy marriages come naturally&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is probably one of the most common myths about marriage. The truth is that marriage (and relationships, by extension) is hard work. It takes a lot of discipline, courage, and consistency to make a marriage work.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The gift called &lsquo;a healthy marriage&rsquo; is given to nobody. If you want a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/how-to-maintain-a-healthy-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">healthy marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you must work for it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Having a conflict is a sign that your marriage has crashed&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One thing research has proven many times is that <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tandfonline.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1080\/1041794X.2015.1023826\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">conflict can be resolved in marriages<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. The fact that you are going through a rough patch with your spouse doesn&rsquo;t automatically mean that your marriage is doomed to hit the rocks.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There&rsquo;s no healthy marriage that is devoid of conflict. You are both humans &ndash; with different opinions and concepts about life. At some point, a conflict is bound to come up. What matters is how you&rsquo;re committed to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/improve-communication-during-a-conflict\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">resolving conflicts<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> when they arise.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Being married will automatically bring happiness to a sad life<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here&rsquo;s one of the biggest secrets of marriage. Here is no voodoo to marriage that will bring happiness to a sad life.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/lessons-for-a-happy-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">happy marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is the product of two happy people committed to having a union.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To have a happy marriage, you must first be a single happy person. This way, you bring your positive energy into the relationship, and there&rsquo;s every chance that things will only get better when you meet someone happy just as you are.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How can you create happiness in your life? Watch this video to know more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/pRynMDAKrvI\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Your sex life will automatically get boring once you get married&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This isn&rsquo;t completely true. Your sex life will only get boring when you are with someone you are no longer attracted to, you have stopped putting in the required effort to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/healthy-sex-life\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">enjoy your sex life<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, or other responsibilities are vying for your attention.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Apart from these, your sex life can remain satisfying even after many years. Here are many older couples who still report having satisfying sex lives and young couples who can&rsquo;t get their sexual groove on again.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Your spouse should be able to accept all of you without any need to change&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is another common myth of marriage that you may want to reassess.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While your spouse needs to love and appreciate you for who you are, there&rsquo;s no rule that they have to indefinitely keep up with your excesses &ndash; especially when you aren&rsquo;t making any conscious efforts to turn over a new leaf.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Put yourself in your partner&rsquo;s shoes for one minute. If you were them, would you be comfortable with someone acting as you do? If your answer is no, you need to make conscious <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-be-a-good-spouse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">efforts to become a better person<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your spouse will accept you. However, they should also be able to challenge you to grow as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Your marriage gives you a sense of purpose and fulfillment&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If this is your idea of marriage, you may want to take a break and reassess what you have believed. You won&rsquo;t find fulfillment and purpose in marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As a single person, you must be able to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-purpose-of-life-is-to-be-in-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">find your purpose<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and be fulfilled with whatever you&rsquo;ve been doing. Believing that you&rsquo;ll automatically be fulfilled once you say &ldquo;I do&rdquo; is not the most practical thought.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Find fulfillment and purpose by yourself before getting married.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Living together before marriage guarantees a better experience after the wedding&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is one of the most common myths about marriage that you may want to rethink (if you currently think that way). Surprisingly, there are no statistics to prove this myth.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research has shown that c<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/onlinelibrary.wiley.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1111\/j.1741-3737.2002.00180.x\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ouples who cohabit before marriage have greater marriage instability<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> than couples who do not cohabit. This study revealed that couples who cohabitate before marriage demonstrated more negative and less positive problem-solving skills than those who didn&rsquo;t cohabit.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, this is not to say that cohabiting (or not) is now the gold standard. It is to bring to your notice that it is up to you to decide the type of post-wedding experience you want. Cohabiting or not is not the guarantee that you&rsquo;ll be fine once you get married.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Your true love will know what to do and say to make you happy&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The concept of true love has been misunderstood for a while. Most people believe that meeting their true love will be like a fairytale. They believe their true love will know all the right things to say, what they must do to keep them happy, and will always be on standby to make them happy.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The challenge is that your true love is not psychic. Just like you, they&rsquo;re human and need your cooperation to make you happy. Being satisfied in a relationship results from many factors, including the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/communication-habits\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">health of your communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want something, you&rsquo;ve got to open your mouth and say it. Also, bear in mind that your true love is a human too. They&rsquo;ll be coming with their demands.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Getting married automatically means having kids&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the facts about marriage that you must keep in mind is that it is up to you to decide if you want kids or not. You can be happily married and decide that you don&rsquo;t want to have kids.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thankfully, many medical procedures can help you accomplish this in today&rsquo;s world.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage doesn&rsquo;t always mean that you&rsquo;ll soon be getting a whole swarm of children in your life. You can take your time, have them when you feel ready, or decide not to have them. In all, make sure your partner is on the same page as you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/family\/ready-to-start-a-family\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Know If You Are Ready to Start a Family?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>10. Happy couples do everything together&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some people believe that the classic <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/15-key-secrets-to-a-successful-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sign of a happy marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is that both partners do everything together. They eat together, bathe, work in the same place, watch movies, and even go on vacation together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While spending quality time with your partner is an important part of every successful marriage, please do not let go of your interests, hobbies, and ambitions along the line.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is okay to want what your partner doesn&rsquo;t want (As long as it doesn&rsquo;t harm the relationship or either of you). It is okay to want some &ldquo;<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-have-alone-time-when-you-live-with-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">me time<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&rdquo; every time. It is also fine to have a life and friends outside your marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All these elements come together to make you a happy, healthy human who can satisfy your spouse in marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"FAQs\"><\/span><strong>FAQs&nbsp;<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some of the important frequently asked questions regarding myths about marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-81085\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/New-Project-2022-11-02T221953.637.jpg\" alt=\"Smiling man laying on grass \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. What is the hardest year of marriage?&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The hardest year of marriage is the first year. Most times, there are many reasons for this. Some of them include that you have to move in with a new person, learn their tastes and preferences, adjust your lifestyle to suit them, and understand their habits.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then again, if you have always been in love with your company, the first year of marriage can be the most frustrating because, at this point, you&rsquo;d be opening your otherwise-secluded life to another. This cannot be very comforting.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.strongmarriagenow.com\/new-study-shows-marriage-in-danger-at-10-years\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> also suggests that the first decade of the marriage can be tricky to deal with.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. What are the secrets of marriage?&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are many secrets to marriage. Some of them include keeping the peace, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/forgiveness\/5-things-you-need-to-know-about-forgiveness-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">forgiveness<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and compromise, constant deep communication, the decision to enjoy the time you spend with your spouse, and many other secrets that will keep your marriage healthy.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. What is the most common marriage problem?&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ans: one of the most common problems that many married couples (especially those that have been married for a while) tend to face is lack of communication.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This slowly eats away at their marriage until they are left alone and bitter. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/lack-of-communication-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lack of communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> must be addressed immediately if you intend to enjoy a healthy marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The-takeaway\"><\/span><b>The takeaway&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are many common myths about marriage that you must let go of if you intend to enjoy a happy relationship with your spouse. We have covered 20 of the most common ones in this article.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take all the time you need for them to sink in and commit to having a happy marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The internet, social media, and society are filled with many myths about marriage. Sometimes, these myths are borne out of the bad experiences people in marriages have had.&nbsp; Then again, some of these myths are handed down across generations; children learn them from their parents and move on to teach their children the same.&nbsp; In this article, we will uncover some of the common marriage myths. The idea behind this is to help you see what is true and what isn&rsquo;t.&nbsp; Then again, you will discover exactly what you must do when discovering these myths about marriage.&nbsp; Top 10 persistent <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1363,"featured_media":81087,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[21],"tags":[2625],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81084"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1363"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=81084"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81084\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":81088,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81084\/revisions\/81088"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/81087"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=81084"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=81084"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=81084"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}