{"id":80637,"date":"2022-09-29T07:12:53","date_gmt":"2022-09-29T07:12:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=80637"},"modified":"2025-07-03T10:49:39","modified_gmt":"2025-07-03T10:49:39","slug":"loving-someone-with-avoidant-attachment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/loving-someone-with-avoidant-attachment\/","title":{"rendered":"Loving Someone With Avoidant Attachment Style : 10 ways"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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It’s hard enough to love someone with any kind of attachment style, but when the person you love has an avoidant attachment style, things can get even more complicated. Avoidant people tend to be very independent, self-sufficient, and private, which isn’t always easy for a partner or spouse. <\/span><\/p>\n

With this being said, there are tips for loving someone with an avoidant attachment style. Here are 10 ways you can do this, as well as how to be in a relationship with an avoidant attachment style. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Avoidant attachment in romantic relationships explained<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

If you’ve heard about the several types of attachment styles, you may have wondered about them. You may have even asked yourself, “What is an avoidant partner”? <\/span><\/p>\n

On this note, <\/span>the avoidant attachment<\/span><\/a> style in dating is a personality style in which people are uncomfortable with intimacy and have a low desire for closeness. They avoid being close to others and are often preoccupied with their own thoughts and feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n

According to psychologist Nedra Tewab:<\/p>\n

Loving someone who is avoidant is like trying to catch a wave with your hands. No matter how hard you try, you can’t grasp it. It’s about accepting that they may not be able to give you what you need and deciding if that’s enough for you.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

When dating avoidant attachment people, they are more likely to be self-reliant and independent, but they may also display signs of low self-esteem or social anxiety. They may feel uncomfortable when they’re alone or not busy with other people, so they tend to fill their free time with activities that involve other people.<\/span><\/p>\n

People with avoidant personalities in relationships may have also experienced neglect or abuse in childhood, which can make them fearful of getting close to others. But it also might be because they haven’t learned how to trust other people yet — perhaps because they don’t remember feeling safe as children.<\/span><\/p>\n