

{"id":80626,"date":"2022-09-28T10:10:50","date_gmt":"2022-09-28T10:10:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=80626"},"modified":"2022-09-28T10:11:20","modified_gmt":"2022-09-28T10:11:20","slug":"sound-relationship-house","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/sound-relationship-house\/","title":{"rendered":"15 Ways To Inculcate Sound Relationship House Theory In Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-80630\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/New-Project-2022-09-28T153259.752.jpg\" alt=\"Senior couple out for a walk \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning how to build a sound relationship house will be a game-changer in your marriage, and you don&rsquo;t even have to step onto a construction site.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-Sound-Relationship-House-Theory\"><\/span><b>What is Sound Relationship House Theory?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Developed and introduced by <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/blog\/what-is-the-sound-relationship-house\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dr. John Gottman<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, the sound relationship house theory compares marriage to the construction of a house.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It may sound kind of funny but stay with it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A house is built on pillars and a strong foundation. These cornerstones keep the house strong and secure when storms and unexpected issues creep up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Similar to the house&rsquo;s concrete foundation, marriage is built on a foundation of trust and commitment. When issues and the general stresses of life attack a marriage, this foundation will help keep it strong.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is the sound relationship house theory.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-the-foundation-of-the-sound-relationship-house\"><\/span><b>What is the foundation of the sound relationship house?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/nurturing-happy-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">pillars of the relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in the house theory are trust and commitment, but that isn&rsquo;t all there is in this marital construction. The floors of this romantic home consist of:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Shared meaning<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Making life dreams come true<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Managing conflict<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The positive perspective<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Turning towards instead of away<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sharing fondness and admiration<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Building love maps<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The foundation of relationships can be made to last when couples conquer these marital reinforcements.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>How effective is the Sound Relationship House Theory?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-80629\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/New-Project-2022-09-28T153331.382.jpg\" alt=\"Happy couple embracing outdoor \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Throughout various control studies, Dr. Gottman has been able to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/about\/research\/faq\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">predict<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with up to 94% accuracy which couples in his groups would stay together and which would get a divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This insight into relationships gives him credentials to help couples <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/pre-marriage\/foundations-of-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">build a strong foundation<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for a happy, lasting marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As for the sound relationship house theory itself, it is only effective if both partners are willing to put in the work to make changes toward:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Effective communication<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Building trust<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Committing to their marriage completely<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"15-ways-to-practice-Sound-Relationship-House-Theory-in-marriage\"><\/span><b>15 ways to practice Sound Relationship House Theory in marriage<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-80609\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/New-Project-2022-09-28T135118.925.jpg\" alt=\"Happy couple embracing at home\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check out these effective ways to inculcate Sound Relationship House Theory in marriage:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Understand what your spouse values<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think of this act as a healthy relationship pyramid. You have to get to know your partner before you understand what is at the bottom of their pyramid (less important issues) and what is at the very top (think trust, commitment, and physical attraction.)<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Every pyramid is different, so get excited about finding out what your spouse values.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Build a love map with your spouse<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is a love map?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is a guide to your partner&rsquo;s personality, in a sense. According to the sound relationship house theory, partners <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/love-maps\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">build love maps<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> by getting to know each other.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What were they like growing up?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What kind of relationship do they have with their family?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are their likes and dislikes?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is their romantic past like?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is their idea of a perfect day together?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By getting to know each other on a deeper level, couples become each other&rsquo;s best friends.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check out how to build love maps to keep your relationship healthy and strong:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/rmYZL7xGrN0\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Continue working on communication<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research on why couples end up getting divorced found that<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tandfonline.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1080\/10502556.2012.682898?journalCode=wjdr20\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">53% of couples<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> surveyed listed poor communication as a major cause of ending the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/8-essential-tips-to-communicate-and-connect-with-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communicate with your partner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you strengthen the pillars of a relationship house. You get to know each other better, identify triggers, and learn how to navigate problems in a way that is productive and respectful.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Keep turning toward each other<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to the sound relationship house theory, the need for attention, comfort, or support from your partner is called a &ldquo;bid.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, your spouse asking for a date night is a bid for your emotional and physical attention.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead of turning away from your spouse, turn toward them by accepting their bid.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To keep successfully turning toward each other, you must get to know how each partner expresses their bids.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Make trust a cornerstone in your marriage<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is no surprise that trust is one of the pillars of the sound relationship house.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Trust is what allows couples to feel comfortable and safe in their marriage. It allows vulnerability to flow easily and draws them closer together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you put effort into being a trustworthy partner, your relationship will grow.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/7-important-tips-to-build-trust-in-relationships\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">15 Ways on How to Build Trust in a Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>6. Keep it positive<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The way you speak to your partner can be a game changer when it comes to building a sound relationship house.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Always look at your relationship as if you and your spouse are on the same team. Think positively about them and give them the benefit of the doubt.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By doing so, you&rsquo;ll strengthen your marriage and train your brain to think the best of your spouse, always believing that they would never purposely hurt you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Commit to each other fully<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Commitment is one of the pillars of relationship theory. It&rsquo;s how couples stay strong and conquer challenges in the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One study found that a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/ifstudies.org\/blog\/reasons-people-give-for-divorce\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">lack of commitment<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and too much conflict were both common reasons for couples to consider divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So how can you deepen your commitment to your partner? Wasn&rsquo;t getting married the biggest commitment you could ever make?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To commit is to bind yourself intellectually and emotionally to a course of action. It&rsquo;s a sincere and steadfast purpose, namely, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/14-ways-to-keep-your-relationship-strong-healthy-and-happy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">keeping your marriage healthy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to commit to your marriage, you need to make it your number one priority.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Learn how to manage conflict<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-80628\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/New-Project-2022-09-28T153409.898.jpg\" alt=\"Couple talking in cafe \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Couples can build a sound marital house by learning <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/steps-to-resolve-conflict-with-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">how to manage conflict<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. According to the sound relationship house theory, that means:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol><li><b> Have empathy<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Acknowledge your partner&rsquo;s feelings and desires and take them into account. This leads to more cooperation and compromise.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol><li><b> Talk about your problems&nbsp;<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t just let things fester.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol><li><b> Self-soothe when you feel things getting out of control<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead of saying something you regret, excuse yourself from the conversation and go for a walk or take deep breaths.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When differences come up, approach them as a team. Instead of fighting each other, tackle the problem as a unit.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Improve your partner&rsquo;s well-being<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Looking for little ways to be helpful and loving can be a game changer in a marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Doing something as simple as making your spouse coffee in the morning or clearing snow off their car in the morning can go a long way to building a higher level of relationship satisfaction.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Try Now -<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/whats-the-satisfaction-level-in-your-relationship-quiz\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What&rsquo;s the Satisfaction Level in Your Relationship?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>10. Don&rsquo;t be afraid to admire each other<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you ever get lost looking at your partner? Do you find yourself adoring them and their amazing qualities? If so, don&rsquo;t keep it to yourself. Spread that love around!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research shows that<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/psycnet.apa.org:443\/record\/2017-15232-001\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">partners who express gratitude<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and admiration regularly experience an increase in:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationship satisfaction<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Commitment<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intimacy<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Self-expansion, and<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Support for goal pursuits<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Partners who showed gratitude were also more motivated to<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/21670220\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">engage in relationship maintenance<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>11. Get on the same page about important issues<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Opposites may attract, but it&rsquo;s much easier to be married to someone who shares your outlook on life than it is to be constantly bickering about your thoughts and feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Part of managing conflict is getting on the same page about where you stand on important issues such as religion, starting a family, and where you want to ultimately live.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you don&rsquo;t agree on important topics, find a way to compromise so that both partners are happy.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>12. Start a romantic ritual<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-80627\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/New-Project-2022-09-28T153430.681.jpg\" alt=\"Couple enjoying date in restaurant \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Floor 7 of the sound relationship house theory is all about creating shared meaning. This is all about creating that special world as a couple that nobody else understands but the two of you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having your own inside jokes and romantic rituals (such as a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/importance-of-date-night-in-a-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">regular date night<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, sharing a favorite takeout place, or having a song that reminds you of each other) makes the relationship feel more special and worth fighting for.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. Build emotional intimacy<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional intimacy is just as important to marriage -if not more- as physical intimacy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Studies show that the longer couples are together, the more likely they are to<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC3418692\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">value emotional intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> over sexual passion.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you take a step back, this makes a lot of sense.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional intimacy helps couples weather storms that shake their marriage. Sexual passions ebb and flow the longer you are married. During times when sexual intimacy isn&rsquo;t taking center stage in your relationship, it is the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that will keep you feeling close to one another.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>14. Share and strive toward your dreams<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the last floors of the house of relationships is about making life&rsquo;s dreams come true.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being supportive of a spouse means being secure enough in your relationship that you can encourage your partner to reach their goals. Not only will you be their biggest cheerleader as they strive toward something amazing, but you will help them do it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This could mean:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Supporting your spouse financially and helping them to pay off debts<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Supporting your spouse&rsquo;s decision to stop working and stay home to raise children<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Supporting your spouse to go back to school and change their career<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whatever your spouse&rsquo;s goal is, you will help them reach it because you want the very best for them.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-be-a-good-spouse\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Be a Better Spouse: 25 Ways to Help<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>15. Create goals together<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Supporting your spouse&rsquo;s endeavors is amazing, but so is creating shared goals. This might mean:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Saving money for a special vacation<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Planning a big move across the country<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Starting a family together<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Buying a house<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning a new language<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Goals are different for every couple, but sharing a goal is an amazing relationship booster. It helps you think as teammates. It&rsquo;s something exciting to talk about and plan with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Making goals as a couple brings you closer together and strengthens your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Takeaway\"><\/span><b>Takeaway<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A sound relationship house is all about building the foundation of relationships based on commitment and trust.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dr. Gottman&rsquo;s relationship theory involves managing conflict, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/growing-old-with-you\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">building dreams together<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, expressing admiration for one another, and building love maps.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once you have these tools in your belt, you will be able to navigate the waves of marriage with success.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Learning how to build a sound relationship house will be a game-changer in your marriage, and you don&rsquo;t even have to step onto a construction site. What is Sound Relationship House Theory? Developed and introduced by Dr. John Gottman, the sound relationship house theory compares marriage to the construction of a house. It may sound kind of funny but stay with it. A house is built on pillars and a strong foundation. These cornerstones keep the house strong and secure when storms and unexpected issues creep up. 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