

{"id":80515,"date":"2022-09-22T10:36:38","date_gmt":"2022-09-22T10:36:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=80515"},"modified":"2026-03-23T12:12:57","modified_gmt":"2026-03-23T12:12:57","slug":"how-to-meet-new-people-after-break-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-meet-new-people-after-break-up\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Meet New People After a Break up in NYC"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-80518\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/New-Project-2022-09-22T155917.892.jpg\" alt=\"Happy young couple embracing outdoor \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What&rsquo;s even harder than the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/why-do-people-breakup\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">breaking up<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> part, arguably, is getting back out there. Getting over the loneliness and shock and finding solace in new friends, new worlds, and hopefully a new, even more powerful love.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t despair. This article is going to help you get back out there and how to meet new people after a break up!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Quick-tips-for-maintaining-a-peaceful-break-up\"><\/span><b>Quick tips for maintaining a peaceful break up<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-80517\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/New-Project-2022-09-22T155940.626.jpg\" alt=\"Couple out for a date \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before you understand how to meet new people after a break up, it&rsquo;s important that you move on from the past in a healthy way and know how to be <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/boundaries-for-being-friends-with-ex\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">friends after a break up<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. So, check out these tips on how you can maintain a peaceful break up:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>You are not alone<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And it&rsquo;s true, especially in New York City!&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Finding yourself after a relationship can be tough, but you are not alone, even on those Mean Streets.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/comptroller.nyc.gov\/reports\/the-pandemics-impact-on-nyc-migration-patterns\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">statistics<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that might bring you some comfort. Over two hundred sixty thousand people move to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/New_York_City\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">New York City<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> every year. Around two-thirds of that number are singles in the eighteen to thirty-four demographic, and over fifty percent are from the United States. Thirty-five percent come from abroad.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, if your ex has turned you off to Americans, or you really want to try something new and unknown, you have options. In any case, there are plenty of young single people out there, probably <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/single-looking-for-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">looking for love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> just like you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">New York City is a big place, and in this major metropolis, you also have the option of exploring diverse neighborhoods that are youthfully &ndash; skewing, which may ease your transition.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Trials and transitions<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">First, you will need to be certain you are fully recovered from the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.counselling-directory.org.uk\/memberarticles\/painful-breakup-what-are-the-5-stages-of-break-up-grief\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">painful break up<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Here are some tips on recognizing your recovery.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Face it. You will have to move on. One way to help this process is to reach out to old friends and try to make new friends. One of the most complicated parts of a break up is navigating who gets which mutual friend.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, it is best to rediscover who you were before the relationship and start exploring who you are now, in the &lsquo;after&rsquo; period.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take care of yourself. It is easy to get compulsive after a break up and look for distractions and cheap thrills. But you have to stay focused and not get lost. Learn to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/forgepress.org\/2022\/04\/07\/learning-to-love-yourself-after-a-breakup\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">love yourself<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Work on improving yourself. Practice conversation since you will eventually be meeting new people.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some people do want to remain friends with their exes. This is possible, despite most people&rsquo;s misgivings. Here are some quick tips for maintaining a peaceful dissolution.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Breaking up:<\/b><\/p>\n<ol><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Act civil, meaning resolves issues amicably without tormenting each other.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Stay away from each other for a while.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Focus on self-care while exploring your &lsquo;new normal.&rsquo;&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol><p><b>Dipping your toes back In the water:<\/b><\/p>\n<ol><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Leave the past behind.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/friendship-before-relationship-12-reasons-why-you-should-accept-being-his-friend\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Focus on your friendship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> before you become romantically linked. What initially drew you to each other?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Take it slow and be careful in considering your interactions.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Say no when it feels right, especially in <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/intimate-conversation\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">intimate conversations<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Don&rsquo;t let your family or friends influence you.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol><p><b>Maintaining:<\/b><\/p>\n<ol><li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/boundaries-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Respect boundaries<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Be certain the idea of getting back together has been properly extinguished.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/new-relationship-advice\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Prepare yourself for new relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, yours and theirs.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here&rsquo;s a video on how to keep your calm and maintain the connection (without blowing up the bridge):<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/7NpRB8lOGF0\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the end, the number one thing is to know what you want. Be clear on your values. For example, if you want someone fun and outgoing, practice being fun and enthusiastic yourself, so you attract this energy.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Finding help online<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Go on sites like Quora and ask questions like &lsquo;What was the first thing you did after a break up?&rdquo;, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/over-a-breakup\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;How can I get over a break up?&rdquo;<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or even &ldquo;If you had a five-year relationship break up, can you move on?&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You will be surprised at the honest, heartfelt replies and advice you receive from others who have felt your pain and want to offer their wise words.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/online-therapy-programs\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10 Best Online Therapy Programs of 2022<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Mindless distractions<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now that you have healed show yourself to the world! At your pace. Take it slow or announce it with a bang! Whatever suits your style. The most important thing is to BE YOU!!! Oh, and for the love of God, don&rsquo;t talk about your exes on dates. Or try to measure the new against the old.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-meet-new-people-after-a-break-up\"><\/span><b>How to meet new people after a break up<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-80516\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/New-Project-2022-09-22T160007.677.jpg\" alt=\"Young couple out for a date in city \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wondering how to start a new life after a break up? Well, you don&rsquo;t have to dive right back into the dating pool. If you feel more comfortable with baby steps, since a break-up is often like a rebirth, then you can explore non-dating options that will ease you back into social interactions. Especially in New York City.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/what-to-do-after-breakup\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What to Do After a Breakup?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here&rsquo;s a list:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ready, set, options!<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Fitness<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This ties in with the self-care aspect of recovery. Exercise builds your body and your mind. Plus, to meet someone new, join a gym, and get out of the house!<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/marriage-fitness\/working-out-with-your-partner\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">9 Benefits of Working out with Your Partner<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>2. Develop your hobbies&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Alone time is the perfect time to focus on interests that may have gone overlooked during your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/hobbies-to-strengthen-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">6 Hobbies That Will Strengthen Your Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>3. Join a community group&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As mentioned earlier, New York City is full of neighborhoods overflowing with young people.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, if you are wondering <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">how to make friends after a break up, <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">join some community groups and maybe your neighbors will make good company and make you feel more at home, especially if you are the one who had to find a new place when the relationship ended.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Try sports<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can try active sports like basketball or passive sports like golf.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But the important thing is the feeling of camaraderie and teamwork that may help fill the void of a missing relationship. Plus, a regular routine of meeting for games can help give you a reason to carry on and meet new people after the break up.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Learn a language<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maybe with one of those new New Yorkers that moved from abroad? In any case, broaden your horizons. This falls under self-care also.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Volunteer&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have a heart, even though yours may be broken. Helping and giving can give you a sense of self-worth that might be absent <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/post-breakup-advice\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">post-break up<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The best advice: Try new things!!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"But-should-you-be-ready-for-dating%E2%80%A6\"><\/span><b>But should you be ready for dating&hellip;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then, by all means, go for it! There are quite a few options out there in our brave new technological world. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dating Apps<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Tinder. There&rsquo;s a Tinder for every taste nowadays, from Grinder to an app for newly single moms. It&rsquo;s true!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to look for potential relationships in your area, try meetups next door or even Facebook groups so that you can search for people with similar interests.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Want to date in person? Try Speed Dating. You might have heard about it. Well, it&rsquo;s still a thing. And there are even mobile apps that help you book a place and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amiccio.com\/Blog\/how-to-meet-people-in-nyc.html\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">meet new people in New York<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> City!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be sure, most of all, to go out there with <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/realistic-expectations\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">realistic expectations<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Good luck in your search for new love and a new life!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What&rsquo;s even harder than the breaking up part, arguably, is getting back out there. Getting over the loneliness and shock and finding solace in new friends, new worlds, and hopefully a new, even more powerful love. Don&rsquo;t despair. This article is going to help you get back out there and how to meet new people after a break up! Quick tips for maintaining a peaceful break up Before you understand how to meet new people after a break up, it&rsquo;s important that you move on from the past in a healthy way and know how to be friends after a <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1356,"featured_media":80518,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2498],"tags":[2582],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/80515"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1356"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=80515"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/80515\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":118798,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/80515\/revisions\/118798"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/80518"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=80515"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=80515"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=80515"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}