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\"Couple<\/p>\n

There is almost nothing better than being in a strong and <\/span>healthy relationship<\/span><\/a>. For one, you have someone you love and wish to be with. And likely, it feels safe and secure to be with them. <\/span>It may just feel so good and divine that you pray for it to never end. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, if things begin to go south, you may ask yourself, “what am I doing wrong in my relationship?” <\/span><\/p>\n

Here’s the first thing you must understand today. There are <\/span>things to never do in a relationship<\/span><\/a>, especially if you sincerely love your partner and want the relationship to last. <\/span><\/p>\n

Since figuring out <\/span>how to fix a relationship<\/span><\/a> that you may have messed up can be stressful, you should find out how to keep your relationship as good as it was at the very beginning or try to make things even better. <\/span><\/p>\n

In this article, you may see what you are doing wrong in your relationship. The aim of this is to show you the things you shouldn’t do in a relationship if you want to enjoy it. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>What can go wrong in a relationship? <\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Let’s start with the numbers. <\/span><\/p>\n

Every single day, many relationships get awry. <\/span>Reports<\/span><\/a> show that every single day, about 1300 new stepfamilies are formed in America. This implies that daily, old relationships break, and new relationships\/marriages are formed. <\/span><\/p>\n

Furthermore, the statistics in the report reveal that <\/span>one out of every two marriages is likely to end in divorce and 75 percent of the people from these split relationships will eventually remarry<\/b>.  <\/span><\/p>\n

If there’s one thing these numbers can do, it is to force everyone to introspect and ask, “what am I doing wrong in my relationship?” This is because finding a good answer to this question is the first step to readjusting your approach to your relationship and making the most out of it. <\/span><\/p>\n

So many bad things can happen in a relationship.<\/b> The options are vast from lack of communication, trust, and even infidelity. To help you make sense of all of these, this article will show you some key things you are probably doing wrong in your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>How do you know what you did wrong in a relationship<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Analyzing your behavior and being open to making changes is a good way of ensuring that your relationship is thriving and healthy. <\/span><\/p>\n

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There are many ways to know what you did wrong in a relationship. To know if you are in the wrong relationship, check whether you are willing to do the things mentioned here:<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Put yourself in your partner’s shoes <\/b><\/h3>\n

An easy way to find out what’s wrong with your relationship can be to put yourself in your partner’s shoes.<\/span><\/p>\n

According to Licensed Professional Counselor Christiana Njoku<\/a>, <\/span><\/p>\n

Having an empathetic partner is a great plus; if you can’t take the same energy you’re giving out to your partner, then it’s not worth it.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Are there things you would be angry about if they were done to you? <\/span>Then be sure that you aren’t doing those things to your partner. And if, by chance, you find yourself doing them, do not hesitate to reach out to your lover and let them know that you are sorry. <\/span><\/p>\n

Related Reading: <\/i><\/b>How Seeing Things From Your Partner’s Perspective Can Boost Your Love<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
2. Talk to them <\/b><\/h3>\n
“What am I doing wrong in my relationship?” <\/span><\/p>\n
The easiest way to find an answer to this is to communicate. Speak to your partner in an atmosphere that is devoid of judgment, hate, and anger. You may be surprised at what your partner may tell you when they are sure you wouldn’t get defensive or furious when they come clean.  <\/span><\/p>\n
<\/span>15 things you are doing wrong in your relationship <\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
You can improve your relationship by analyzing your behavior and slowly correcting things that may be harming the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n
If you have been asking the “am I the problem in my relationship” question, please pay close attention to some things you are about to learn. These are the things you may be doing wrong in your relationship:<\/span><\/p>\n
1. Ineffective communication <\/b><\/h3>\n
When 886 couples who had split up were asked, for a <\/span>study<\/span><\/a>, to state the primary reason for their decision to go their separate ways, 53 percent cited lack of communication as the main reason for their breakup.  <\/span><\/p>\n
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If you are in a relationship where you find it difficult to have deep conversations about everything with your partner, or you start conversing and end up fighting every time, it might a signal that <\/span>you are in the wrong relationship<\/span><\/a>.  <\/span>And it would be best if you worked on your communication fast. <\/span><\/p>\n
Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> 10 Effective Communication Skills in Relationships for Healthy Marriages<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
2. Keeping secrets <\/b><\/h3>\n
Keeping secrets from your partner is another thing you are probably doing wrong in your relationship. There is almost nothing as disheartening as finding out that your partner kept a significant secret from you. <\/span><\/p>\n
Realize that your partner would feel betrayed if they discover that you’ve been hiding things from them. <\/span><\/p>\n
If there are things you have been keeping from your partner, you may want to consider spilling the beans to them so they don’t find out from another source.<\/span><\/p>\n
3. Distancing yourself from their family<\/b><\/h3>\n
Most relationships go through that “we are not yet ready to meet our families” stage. However, when you meet your partner’s family and all you can do is criticize and keep your distance from them, that could be a deal-breaker. <\/span><\/p>\n
While their family can be different from yours, please ensure that you aren’t only focused on the negatives. See the positive and make an effort to connect with your partner’s family.   <\/span><\/p>\n
4. Breaking trust by lying<\/b><\/h3>\n
Research has proven, time and again, that <\/span>trust is non-negotiable<\/span><\/a> for most healthy relationships. If you want to enjoy your relationship, there must be mutual trust. <\/span><\/p>\n
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When your partner finds out that you have lied to them, their trust in you may dwindle. It may affect the relationship if it is not addressed immediately. Lying kills relationships as fast as anything you can think of. <\/span><\/p>\n
Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> How Lies in a Relationship Can Tear Apart Even the Closest of Couples<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
5. Being inattentive  <\/b><\/h3>\n
If you are sitting at dinner with your partner but your eyes never leave your phone, no matter what they say, you might be in the wrong. <\/span><\/p>\n
Your partner may have spent the whole day planning out their appearance, setting their hair, shopping for new clothes, or even picking out a new perfume. <\/span>They walk into the door and meet you occupied with something else. <\/span><\/p>\n
If you don’t even give them a second look or compliment the effort they put in to look as good as they do, this is another thing you may be doing wrong in your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n
Your partner must feel like they have your attention to make the relationship work. This way, they can do their best, knowing that you are important to them and that you would notice all they are doing.   <\/span><\/p>\n
Related Reading: <\/i><\/b>What Happens When There Is Lack of Attention in Relationship?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
6. Holding onto partner’s past mistakes<\/b><\/h3>\n
You may be holding onto mistakes made by your partner in the past. And worse, you could be waiting for the slightest opportunity to bring these up again.<\/span><\/p>\n
We all have our flaws and make mistakes along the way. However, holding on to your pain and guilt-tripping your partner every chance is not how to make a relationship better when it is bad.  <\/span><\/p>\n
If you want to enjoy your relationship, please remind yourself that your partner is human too and that they can make mistakes too. Forgiveness is a significant part of every successful and healthy relationship you admire today. <\/span><\/p>\n
Check out this video to learn ways to forgive your partner when you can’t forget:<\/b><\/p>\n