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A “dance,” almost a tango of pushing and pulling, comes to mind when considering the love addiction cycle with the avoidant. <\/span><\/p>\n While neither wants the closeness that a <\/span>genuine partnership<\/span><\/a> or bond brings, their connection is tragically romantic when considering the propensity for true intimacy if each were able to overcome their individual struggles.<\/span><\/p>\n The idea of continuously searching for someone who will become a twin flame to ride off into the sunset, is enticing, but there is a fear of being left or abandoned. <\/span><\/p>\n That could be the reason for the attraction to a partner that’s already emotionally unavailable<\/a>, that the love addict has to continuously chase the love avoidant.<\/b><\/p>\n The relationship addiction for our “subject” is a longing that is never satisfied, an unrequited love. <\/span>There is a particular manipulation and sense of power for the avoidan<\/b>t by withholding<\/strong> attention, love, and often sex. <\/span><\/p>\n The love addiction\/love avoidant couplehood is prevalent. <\/span>Nothing is impossible, but that doesn’t make it healthy or okay for the individuals to be in this sort of equation.<\/span><\/p>\n These personalities seem to seek each other out. <\/b>The individuals in the partnership seem to thrive on the pattern they have going for them, where they maneuver their way towards closeness and then rip the rug out from underneath each other. <\/span><\/p>\n An avoidant individual appears harsh and unfeeling, but the opposite is actually the case. It’s suggested that an avoidant is, in fact, frightened of intimacy and, therefore, will avoid it because they’re unable to bear the intimacy even if they secretly desire it.<\/span><\/p>\n The addict will find themselves the <\/span>victim of passive-aggression<\/span><\/a> at the hands of the avoidant, the silent treatment, cold shoulder, criticisms, or anything that keeps a wall between them.<\/span><\/p>\n But the avoidants find themselves the victim of the addict where the partner is clingy, to say the least, and an avoidant is incapable of expressing boundaries, with the only fathomable response being to shut down. <\/span><\/p>\n It’s toxicity at its finest, but looking at it from an entirely different perspective, if these two were to find their way into recovery to work through what were likely childhood traumas, they might be the perfect couple. <\/span><\/p>\n Opposites do attract and often make some of the best partnerships.<\/span><\/p>\n The love addiction cycle, simply put, is ultimately driven by fear. <\/span>The addict has a deep fear of abandonment. The avoidant has a <\/b>fear of intimacy<\/b><\/a>.<\/b> These clash yet feed each other.<\/span><\/p>\n To avail the abandonment fear, the partner finds the avoidant’s fear of intimacy a challenge albeit appealing because it responds to the relationship addict’s desire always to feel the “high” associated with chasing that new love, searching for the perfect match. T<\/span><\/p>\n he avoidant feeds the addict’s “addiction.”<\/span><\/p>\n Check out the connection between attachment issues and love addiction:<\/span><\/p>\nRelated Reading:<\/i><\/b> 12 Signs an Avoidant Loves You<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
<\/span>Can a love addict and love avoidant have a relationship?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nRelated Reading:<\/i><\/b> How to Get an Avoidant to Chase You- 10 Ways<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
<\/span>What causes the love addiction cycle?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n