{"id":77942,"date":"2022-05-24T05:08:32","date_gmt":"2022-05-24T05:08:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=77942"},"modified":"2023-05-24T17:32:35","modified_gmt":"2023-05-24T17:32:35","slug":"signs-partner-cheated-in-the-past","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/signs-partner-cheated-in-the-past\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Know if Your Partner Has Cheated in the Past?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\"Couple<\/p>\n

Worrying about whether your partner has betrayed your trust is painful, but how to know if your partner has cheated in the past?  <\/span><\/p>\n

If the following signs show up now – or showed up during a period of the relationship where you suspect they may have been cheating – it could indicate cheating or another <\/span>secret within the relationship<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>10 common signs of cheating<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Cheating often causes a break in the bond that exists between two people who have agreed to be committed to each other. Therefore, you should be sure before you jump to any conclusions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Learning how to know if your partner has cheated in the past can be challenging. Here are some signs that can help you know for sure:<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Secretive use of technology<\/b><\/h3>\n

Secrecy is one of the most common <\/span>signs of cheating<\/span><\/a>. Partners deserve <\/span>privacy<\/span><\/a>, but if they pay excessive attention to their phone, are suddenly stepping out for calls when they didn’t before, or seem to protect their phone with their life out of nowhere, it could be a sign. <\/span><\/p>\n

\"Young<\/p>\n

Many people are private, but in this case, you might notice nerves or anxiety about leaving their phone unattended. This is also one of the signs your partner has cheated in past relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n

Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> Indicators of Online Infidelity to Look out For<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
2. Spending less time at home or an altered schedule<\/b><\/h3>\n
Taking on extra work or engaging in new hobbies are great things. However, if they’re rock climbing for four hours and refuse to let you touch them upon return, or if nights out with their friends have increased significantly, something might be up. <\/span><\/p>\n
3. Annoyed or hostile without reason<\/b><\/h3>\n
Does your partner seem annoyed, frustrated, and less affectionate overall? If so, this could be a sign, especially if it’s paired with other signs of cheating. If nothing else, the <\/span>hostility<\/span><\/a> indicates that there’s something in the relationship that needs to be addressed. <\/span><\/p>\n
4. Accusing you of cheating <\/b><\/h3>\n
Some, but not all, people who cheat do this. This is typically to deflect from their actions; after all, if they’re accusing you for no reason, the attention is on you. That way, they’re less likely to have to talk about or explain their behavior. <\/span><\/p>\n
Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> What to Do When You’re Being Accused of Cheating When Your Not<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
5. Changes in intimacy<\/b><\/h3>\n
Are you having a lot less sex? Maybe even none? This could be an indicator, mainly if it’s out of the ordinary for you as a couple and other signs of cheating are present. <\/span><\/p>\n
Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> Top 5 Most Common Reasons Why Couples Stop Having Sex<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
6. Something feels off when they get ready<\/b><\/h3>\n
Think about how they got ready to go out with friends when no cheating was suspected and the relationship felt secure compared to the time you suspect or suspected cheating. <\/span><\/p>\n
Are they acting differently? Are they paying attention to their appearance in a way they wouldn’t usually? <\/span><\/p>\n
\"Woman<\/p>\n
Everyone wants to look nice when they go out, but it isn’t about that; it’s about the overall vibe. If they seem overconsumed and unaffectionate when they prepare to go out or say goodbye, something might happen. <\/span><\/p>\n
7. Hiding their laundry<\/b><\/h3>\n
If the cheating is physical, your partner may go to extra lengths to hide their laundry. <\/span><\/p>\n
Think about it; laundry habits aren’t typically something a person thinks too much about. <\/span><\/p>\n
If they try to hide their clothes before they’re washed and are behaving differently by, say, not letting you do their laundry when you usually would or getting nervous, something could be up. <\/span><\/p>\n
8. Financially, something doesn’t add up<\/b><\/h3>\n
If you notice charges that don’t make sense – or if money seems\/seemed tighter on their side without another viable reason, like changes at work – during the period of time where you suspect they were cheating, it could be a sign. <\/span><\/p>\n
If you are trying to learn how to know if your partner has cheated in the past, their finances could be your answer.<\/span><\/p>\n
Don’t snoop on your partner, but listen to your gut if you notice something. Examples might be a high number of restaurants, bars, or hotel charges that don’t make sense compared to what they said they were doing. <\/span><\/p>\n
9. Less emotionally available<\/b><\/h3>\n
There’s a problem if it suddenly feels as though you’re talking to a wall rather than to a partner. This is one of the signs your partner cheated in the past.<\/span><\/p>\n
Have they stopped sharing details about their life? Have you stopped talking about your days together? Are they texting or calling less and less, all while seeming distant? <\/span><\/p>\n
These problems could be indicative of many things, such as going through a tough time in life or a battle with mental health. However, if paired with other markers of cheating, it can be a sign. <\/span><\/p>\n
Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> 3 Reasons for Lack of Emotional Intimacy in Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
Check out this video by Relationship Expert Susan Winter, where she explains the difference between someone who is emotionally unavailable and someone who is temporarily holding back their feelings:<\/span><\/p>\n