

{"id":77295,"date":"2022-05-10T10:32:20","date_gmt":"2022-05-10T10:32:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=77295"},"modified":"2025-01-09T05:13:33","modified_gmt":"2025-01-09T05:13:33","slug":"when-he-hurts-a-woman","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/when-he-hurts-a-woman\/","title":{"rendered":"How a Man Feels When He Hurts a Woman: 17 Things to Consider"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-77299\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/New-Project-2022-05-10T154731.979.jpg\" alt=\"Couple having conflict in bedroom \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s hard to decipher how a man feels when he hurts a woman. If you feel this way and want answers, look no further than this article.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Men are often considered for not being<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/effective-relationship-communication-skills\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">effective communicators<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> of their emotions, especially when they hurt their women. It&rsquo;s not that they don&rsquo;t care; they might just have trouble relaying their deepest feelings.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some women are so perplexed that they ask, &ldquo;Do men hurt the one they love?&rdquo; Or &ldquo;Does he care that he hurts me?&rdquo; Others have been so frustrated that they ask, &ldquo;If he loves me, why does he hurt me?&rdquo; Or &ldquo;He keeps hurting me emotionally; why is that?&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are in this situation and want to know how a man feels when he hurts a woman or what happens when a man hurts a good woman, read this article to the end.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-does-it-mean-when-a-man-hurts-a-woman\"><\/span><b>What does it mean when a man hurts a woman?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/w_iBNnSnVMw?si=-j5Rk5jFKdGbWloQ\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What does it mean when a man hurts a woman, or what does it mean when a man hurts a woman he loves?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The answer is it means a lot. To start with, many emotions go on when a man hurts you. Anger, frustration, disappointment, and resentment are a few of what a man feels when his woman is broken.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The specific feeling a man has will depend on what caused the disagreement or fight in the first place. For instance, he may say something that pisses you off or accuses you of doing something you didn&rsquo;t do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Similarly, a man can behave in a way you dislike or repeat a behavior you&rsquo;ve cautioned him about. He may even make you<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.abc.net.au\/everyday\/why-we-get-defensive-and-how-to-try-a-different-approach\/11295736\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">defensive<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. When these things happen, know that it may or may not be intentional.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He won&rsquo;t be upfront about his feelings, but he has a lot going on in his mind. When a man hurts you, he says or does things that upset you. If he doesn&rsquo;t realize what he does, it&rsquo;s vital to know how to make a guy feel guilty for hurting you.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-he-regret-hurting-you\/\" title=\"15 Signs He Knows He Hurt You and Regrets It Deeply\">15 Signs He Knows He Hurt You and Regrets It Deeply<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Do-guys-feel-bad-for-hurting-you\"><\/span><b>Do guys feel bad for hurting you?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do guys regret hurting a good girl? Do guys feel bad when they hurt you? Does he care that he hurts me? Of course, they do.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"flex-1 overflow-hidden\">\n<div class=\"react-scroll-to-bottom--css-tguhv-79elbk h-full\">\n<div class=\"react-scroll-to-bottom--css-tguhv-1n7m0yu\">\n<div class=\"flex flex-col pb-9 text-sm\">\n<div class=\"w-full text-token-text-primary\" data-testid=\"conversation-turn-39\">\n<div class=\"px-4 py-2 justify-center text-base md:gap-6 m-auto\">\n<div class=\"flex flex-1 text-base mx-auto gap-3 md:px-5 lg:px-1 xl:px-5 md:max-w-3xl lg:max-w-[40rem] xl:max-w-[48rem] group final-completion\">\n<div class=\"relative flex w-full flex-col lg:w-[calc(100%-115px)] agent-turn\">\n<div class=\"flex-col gap-1 md:gap-3\">\n<div class=\"flex flex-grow flex-col max-w-full\">\n<div class=\"min-h-[20px] text-message flex flex-col items-start gap-3 whitespace-pre-wrap break-words [.text-message+&amp;]:mt-5 overflow-x-auto\" data-message-author-role=\"assistant\" data-message-id=\"1badd41e-1337-4326-803a-abccaa671066\">\n<div class=\"markdown prose w-full break-words dark:prose-invert light\">\n<p>Psychologist <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/mert-eker\">Mert &#350;eker<\/a> notes,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Men typically experience profound sadness and guilt after hurting their girlfriends, troubled by the pain they&rsquo;ve caused and their partner&rsquo;s disappointment. This situation can lead to self-doubt about trust and commitment in the relationship, prompting a period of self-reflection and efforts to amend their mistakes and demonstrate their affection.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No one likes to be at loggerheads with the ones they love. Understand that a man feels guilty when he hurts you. You may feel he&rsquo;s remorseless, but there will be signs he knows he hurt you or signs he is sorry for hurting you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some of the signs he is sorry for hurting you include calling you at odd times of the day or sending you gifts at work. Also, he may offer support to you in certain chores in the house.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Other signs he knows he hurt you are:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. He checks on you often<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does he care that he hurts me? Yes, he does.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even though you are not on good terms, a man will constantly check on you to know how you fare. He will be worried about you and want to see how you are.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. He will find ways to reach you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He keeps hurting me emotionally. Does he care that he hurts me? Yes, that&rsquo;s why he will find all possible means to talk to you or reach you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a man hurts a woman he loves and feels guilty, he will look for ways to talk to her. It doesn&rsquo;t matter if you have blocked him on all social media platforms or traveled to another country.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. He will be quieter<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check his countenance to know how a man feels when he hurts a woman and feels guilty. When a man hurts a woman he loves, he will be exceptionally silent among his friends and act gently.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. He shows up<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the signs he is sorry for hurting you is constantly showing up at your doorstep. He knows you are angry but won&rsquo;t trade seeing your face for anything else.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Psychologist &#350;eker says, <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A lot of men are not as skilled as women in expressing their emotions. With such an emotional disadvantage, a man who has hurt his girlfriend will suddenly appear and wait for his regret to be understood in order to make her forgive him.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-77296\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/New-Project-2022-05-10T154944.787.jpg\" alt=\"Couple at home\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. He will change<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the top signs he knows he hurts you is a change of behavior. If the cause of the fight had been his hesitation to change his behavior, he would gladly do it, knowing it hurts you.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-happens-when-you-hurt-a-strong-woman\"><\/span><b>What happens when you hurt a strong woman?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;He keeps hurting me emotionally. Do guys regret hurting a good girl?&rdquo; Yes.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a man hurts a good woman or strong lady, he will feel regret sooner or later. You may not see it initially, but he will constantly show signs he is sorry for hurting you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Strong women usually have a firm hold on their men. They possess exceptional qualities that make them appear indispensable. They express their feelings freely, and they support their partner in every way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A strong woman is confident, positive, supportive, caring, and loves genuinely. She contributes significantly to her man&rsquo;s life and makes him feel alive every time. Losing or hurting such a woman will surely make a man regret his actions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Therefore, when a man hurts a good woman or a strong woman, he might lose a part of himself. He can feel guilty and attempt to retrace his steps.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/make-him-realize-he-made-a-mistake\/\" title=\"How to Make Him Realize He Made a Mistake: 9 Subtle Ways\">How to Make Him Realize He Made a Mistake: 9 Subtle Ways<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-to-do-when-a-man-hurts-your-feelings\"><\/span><b>What to do when a man hurts your feelings?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I need to know how to make him understand how much he hurts me.&rdquo; &ldquo;He keeps hurting me emotionally; what can I do?&rdquo; &ldquo;Does he care that he hurt me?&rdquo;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These are questions many women are faced within their relationships. Learn what to do when a man hurts you in the following strategies:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Feel the pain<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a man hurts you, don&rsquo;t pretend that it doesn&rsquo;t hurt. Let yourself feel the pain. Cry out if you can, or yell. Then, identify why it hurts that much and your role in the event.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Psychologist &#350;eker adds that, <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Reflecting on our emotions will regulate us and relieve us psychologically. At this point, if a man has hurt you, you should definitely express your feelings and show your feelings. This also creates an opportunity for your partner to empathize.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3><b>2. Make him realize he hurts you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To start with, you need to know how to make a guy feel guilty for hurting you. If a man doesn&rsquo;t realize he hurts you, it will be challenging to make him change.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Let it go<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can&rsquo;t predict how he will react after making him know he hurts you. Nonetheless, it would help to let his offense go for your peace of mind. That includes forgiving him for whatever he did.<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/forgiveness\/the-importance-of-forgiveness-in-a-marriage\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Forgiveness is important<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for your healing, so trust the process.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Love again<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now that you&rsquo;ve let go of whatever anger in you, it&rsquo;s time to open yourself to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/blog\/learning-to-love-again-after-an-affair\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">love again<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Depending on the outcome, after letting your partner know you hurt him, you may be opening up to him or another person.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s crucial to trust yourself and never hold back. Love is beautiful, and no one should be barred from experiencing it.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/strategies-for-finding-love-again-in-life\/\" title=\"7 Simple Strategies for Finding Love Again in Life\">7 Simple Strategies for Finding Love Again in Life<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learn how to overcome the fear of love by Clinical Counselor Trillion Small in this video:<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/39Zcwc4lr08?si=Hz9mYCM6cDs1qxbe\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"17-things-a-man-does-or-feels-when-he-hurts-a-woman\"><\/span><b>17 things a man does or feels when he hurts a woman<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Among all the things it&rsquo;s important to recognize how a man feels when he hurts you or make you cry.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. He takes responsibility<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a man hurts a good woman, he admits his fault and takes full responsibility. He won&rsquo;t be defensive or talk his way out but accept any blame.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. He feels sorry<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another way a man feels when he hurts a woman is by being apologetic. He will feel genuinely saddened by his actions and make it obvious.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For instance, he may change after your complaint or start helping you out in the house. Eventually, he will ask for your forgiveness.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. He feels the pain<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do guys feel bad when they hurt you? Yes. Indeed you hurt the most, but a man feels the pain as much as you do. Remember, your love interest is a human and can process things clearly even if he doesn&rsquo;t say much.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He understands how badly he hurts you and will restrain himself emotionally by staying away. Nevertheless, know that he is nursing the pain of hurting you.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-he-cares-more-than-he-says\/\" title=\"30 Telltale Signs He Cares More Than He Says\">30 Telltale Signs He Cares More Than He Says<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>4. He feels guilty<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Aside from pain, a man feels guilty when he hurts the woman he loves. It isn&rsquo;t like how a woman feels guilty, but a man shows signs he is sorry for hurting you by crawling back into his shell.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As a result, he will seclude himself, stay alone, or keep quiet. He may not say it, but his face will continually say, &ldquo;I am sorry for what I did.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"flex-1 overflow-hidden\">\n<div class=\"react-scroll-to-bottom--css-tguhv-79elbk h-full\">\n<div class=\"react-scroll-to-bottom--css-tguhv-1n7m0yu\">\n<div class=\"flex flex-col pb-9 text-sm\">\n<div class=\"w-full text-token-text-primary\" data-testid=\"conversation-turn-41\">\n<div class=\"px-4 py-2 justify-center text-base md:gap-6 m-auto\">\n<div class=\"flex flex-1 text-base mx-auto gap-3 md:px-5 lg:px-1 xl:px-5 md:max-w-3xl lg:max-w-[40rem] xl:max-w-[48rem] group final-completion\">\n<div class=\"relative flex w-full flex-col lg:w-[calc(100%-115px)] agent-turn\">\n<div class=\"flex-col gap-1 md:gap-3\">\n<div class=\"flex flex-grow flex-col max-w-full\">\n<div class=\"min-h-[20px] text-message flex flex-col items-start gap-3 whitespace-pre-wrap break-words [.text-message+&amp;]:mt-5 overflow-x-auto\" data-message-author-role=\"assistant\" data-message-id=\"5cbdcd0d-1924-4e9b-8fcb-d1f547cd7dea\">\n<div class=\"markdown prose w-full break-words dark:prose-invert light\">\n<p>Mert &#350;eker explains,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>A man who harms his girlfriend typically feels significant guilt and regret, distressed by the pain and sadness his actions have caused. This emotional turmoil can motivate him to reassess his behavior, acknowledge his faults, and take action to rectify his mistakes and restore trust in the relationship. Effective communication and sincere apologies are crucial in mending the relationship.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h3><b>5. He feels anger<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How a man feels when he hurts comes out through anger. You don&rsquo;t see it, but it annoys him to put you in such a position. Even if he doesn&rsquo;t feel angry for hurting you, he feels displeasure for getting angry.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/how-to-stop-an-argument\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">heat of an argument<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, everyone is hurt, no matter who is right or wrong. A man will be mad at himself for not being able to protect you.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ten-dos-and-donts-for-dealing-with-an-angry-partner\/\" title=\"How to Deal With an Angry Partner: 10 Healthy Strategies\">How to Deal With an Angry Partner: 10 Healthy Strategies<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>6. He is ashamed<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Shame is one of the things men try to hide during an argument with the woman they love. As a result, he may stay silent or away for a while.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Realizing he hurts the woman who places him in high regard is too much to fathom. Therefore, he will hide from you or stay silent.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. He shows his hero instinct<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A man may mask his emotions but will still show signs he is sorry for hurting you. One way he does that is by unleashing their hero instinct.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The <\/span><b>hero instinct<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is a term coined by James Bauer in his book titled<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodreads.com\/en\/book\/show\/58041832\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> His Secret Obsession<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. It means an innate ability of men to protect, care for, and look out for their loved ones. Since he hurts you, he will use that opportunity to do some things for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-77298\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/New-Project-2022-05-10T154841.784.jpg\" alt=\"Couple having conflict \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, he will buy you gifts more or increase the ways he cares for you. No matter what he does, you will realize he cares more than before when a man hurts a good woman.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. He feels confused<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The no-talking rule usually follows after an argument between partners. That means you won&rsquo;t know what&rsquo;s happening to your partner and how they feel. Unfortunately, men don&rsquo;t like to feel this way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But if he loves me, why does he hurt me? That&rsquo;s because he can&rsquo;t control it. Sometimes, we hurt each other every day without even knowing it. Therefore, a man will say he didn&rsquo;t know what he was doing when he hurt you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. He feels he&rsquo;s right<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do guys regret hurting a good girl? Unfortunately, not all the time. When a man hurts a woman he loves, he may feel he&rsquo;s right to do so. He is genuinely broken but feels he hasn&rsquo;t done anything wrong.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. He tries to justify his actions<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why do guys purposely hurt you? Well, they want to justify their actions.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Just like they feel they are correct, a man might give some excuses for causing you pain the way he did. It sounds like he&rsquo;s hurting you more, but he feels if you know the reasons for his actions, you will understand.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Therefore, he may say, &ldquo;I didn&rsquo;t mean to hurt you; I was only trying to make you understand.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>11. He&rsquo;s scared<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do guys feel bad when they hurt you? They don&rsquo;t just feel flawed but frightened. Remember, men consider themselves to be the protector of their loved ones. Once there is a fight, that leaves them without a purpose.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s typical for the woman to deny the man of the alpha responsibilities while she processes her feelings. As a result, men will no longer see the need to show their hero instinct &ndash; a duty they are naturally wired to carry out.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"flex-1 overflow-hidden\">\n<div class=\"react-scroll-to-bottom--css-tguhv-79elbk h-full\">\n<div class=\"react-scroll-to-bottom--css-tguhv-1n7m0yu\">\n<div class=\"flex flex-col pb-9 text-sm\">\n<div class=\"w-full text-token-text-primary\" data-testid=\"conversation-turn-43\">\n<div class=\"px-4 py-2 justify-center text-base md:gap-6 m-auto\">\n<div class=\"flex flex-1 text-base mx-auto gap-3 md:px-5 lg:px-1 xl:px-5 md:max-w-3xl lg:max-w-[40rem] xl:max-w-[48rem] group final-completion\">\n<div class=\"relative flex w-full flex-col lg:w-[calc(100%-115px)] agent-turn\">\n<div class=\"flex-col gap-1 md:gap-3\">\n<div class=\"flex flex-grow flex-col max-w-full\">\n<div class=\"min-h-[20px] text-message flex flex-col items-start gap-3 whitespace-pre-wrap break-words [.text-message+&amp;]:mt-5 overflow-x-auto\" data-message-author-role=\"assistant\" data-message-id=\"2e757297-dae2-42ba-81b1-5d49755e6c6e\">\n<div class=\"markdown prose w-full break-words dark:prose-invert light\">\n<p>&#350;eker states,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>A man who has hurt his girlfriend often experiences fear, driven by the uncertainty and insecurity his actions have introduced into the relationship. This anxiety is compounded by concerns over the relationship&rsquo;s future and fear of the girlfriend&rsquo;s response. Such fear typically motivates efforts to address relationship issues and steer its course towards a positive direction.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h3><b>12. He feels like a failure<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Men are naturally wired to be responsible. They fail by hurting the woman they love, which weakens them.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hurting you will make him want to apologize or rethink his behavior. That makes him feel like a failure, considering he&rsquo;s been conditioned to act strong from childhood.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-77297\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/New-Project-2022-05-10T154916.464.jpg\" alt=\"Unhappy couple looking in sky \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. He doesn&rsquo;t feel the need to apologize<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As strange as it sounds, a man might not feel the need to be sorry after hurting a woman. Yes! That&rsquo;s how heavy he feels the burden of his action. How? Simple.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a man admits he&rsquo;s wrong, he accepts that he needs support, acceptance, and forgiveness. That makes him look weak, and no man likes to look weak, even in his lowest moments. Therefore, he will stay away or silent when he hurts you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>14. He feels resentment<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a man hurts a woman he loves, he feels the self-loath of making her feel that way. Men like to be in charge and responsible. However, since their woman feels hurt, they feel they didn&rsquo;t handle the situation well.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>15. He wants to make things better quickly<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to know how a man feels when he hurts a woman, closely observe what he does afterward. Such a man will take steps to amend his ways as quickly as possible.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He may not ask for forgiveness or express his feelings. However, he wants things to return to the way they were before the fight. That means he cares about you and wants to avoid hurting you again.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>16. Accountability<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Accountability is the act of taking full responsibility for one&rsquo;s actions, behaviors, or words that have caused harm or hurt to another person, in this case, his partner. It involves acknowledging the wrongdoing without making excuses, deflecting blame, or minimizing the impact of the hurtful actions.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He acknowledges that his actions or words directly contributed to your pain or distress.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>17. Regaining trust<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Regaining trust is a complex and gradual process that follows after a breach of trust or when someone has been hurt.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a man aims to regain the trust of a woman he has hurt, he recognizes that his actions have damaged trust in the relationship and that trust is essential for a healthy connection.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Commonly-asked-questions\"><\/span><b>Commonly asked questions<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When someone hurts you, it&rsquo;s natural to wonder how to handle the situation. Here are some straightforward answers to common questions about dealing with emotional pain caused by a man&rsquo;s actions.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How does a man act when he knows he hurt you?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a man realizes he&rsquo;s hurt you, he may show remorse, apologize, or act defensively. It varies, but his actions often reflect his awareness of the impact on your feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How to make him feel guilty for hurting you?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead of trying to make him feel guilty, focus on communicating your feelings and seeking resolution. Guilt should arise from understanding the consequences of one&rsquo;s actions, not from manipulation.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How should you react when a guy hurts your feelings?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Express your feelings calmly and assertively, emphasizing communication and understanding. It&rsquo;s important to address the issue constructively rather than reacting with anger or vengeance.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Can I tell a guy he hurt my feelings?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Absolutely, open communication is key. Share your feelings honestly and respectfully, allowing him to understand the impact of his actions on you.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>What to say to a guy who hurt you?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Express your feelings and needs clearly, using &ldquo;I&rdquo; statements. For example, say, &ldquo;I felt hurt when&hellip;&rdquo; This approach encourages understanding and resolution rather than blame.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Working-towards-rebuilding-the-relationship\"><\/span><b>Working towards rebuilding the relationship<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a man hurts a woman he loves, he feels emotions such as anger, guilt, frustration, self-loathing, fear, etc. Although he may not express his feelings confidently, a man will show signs he is sorry for hurting you or signs he knows he hurt you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whatever happens, knowing how a man feels when he hurts a woman can help you make informed decisions that will help your relationship. Importantly, you may seek the help of a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/how-to-find-the-best-therapist\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship expert<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to help you.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It&rsquo;s hard to decipher how a man feels when he hurts a woman. If you feel this way and want answers, look no further than this article. Men are often considered for not being effective communicators of their emotions, especially when they hurt their women. It&rsquo;s not that they don&rsquo;t care; they might just have trouble relaying their deepest feelings.&nbsp; Some women are so perplexed that they ask, &ldquo;Do men hurt the one they love?&rdquo; Or &ldquo;Does he care that he hurts me?&rdquo; Others have been so frustrated that they ask, &ldquo;If he loves me, why does he hurt me?&rdquo; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":77299,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11],"tags":[2509],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/77295"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=77295"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/77295\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":106776,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/77295\/revisions\/106776"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/77299"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=77295"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=77295"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=77295"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}