{"id":76706,"date":"2022-04-19T07:45:45","date_gmt":"2022-04-19T07:45:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=76706"},"modified":"2025-07-01T07:50:56","modified_gmt":"2025-07-01T07:50:56","slug":"signs-an-avoidant-loves-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/signs-an-avoidant-loves-you\/","title":{"rendered":"17 Strong Signs an Avoidant Loves You"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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You two are dating and having quite a good time, but your significant other often seems too mysterious. They come closer and make you their center of attention at one moment. At the other moment, they shove themselves inside a cocoon and do not connect with you.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, chances are your significant other is avoidant in love. Yes, such people do exist. While they may have genuine feelings for you, it can be not very clear sometimes. You need to look out for the signs an avoidant loves you.<\/span><\/p>\n

As the significant other, you also need some emotional assurance. Their erratic behavior can cause you some emotional turmoil too. They may seem<\/span> emotionally distant<\/span><\/a> and unstable, but their love can be genuine.<\/span><\/p>\n

In general, love avoidant people often become closer to love addicts. It is simply like the opposite attracts. While one person craves love, another is hesitant!<\/span><\/p>\n

If you two are in talks of taking the next big step, it is time to think deeply. You need to check out if our partner is avoidant. Right now, read on! <\/span><\/p>\n

You may find some important signs if an avoidant loves you.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Who is a love avoidant?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

As per psychology, love avoidants are people or individuals who<\/b> fear intimacy<\/b><\/a> and affectionate gestures, despite being in love.<\/b> People who display love avoidant behavior often come across as emotionally distant, cold, and<\/span> introverted people<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

In short, you can call them anxious lovers. They avoid intimacy and emotional closeness for fear of rejection and loss.  <\/span><\/p>\n

But that does not mean they are not capable of loving other people.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>How does an avoidant fall in love?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Even though the love avoidant personality traits are hard to decipher, they can become beautiful partners with some adjustments.<\/b> These people also have feelings. Hence, they are also capable of love.<\/span><\/p>\n

For such people, particularly men or women,<\/span> falling in love<\/span><\/a> is like a roller coaster ride. You have to understand that they are emotional beings. Hence, <\/span>they tend to shy away from falling in love<\/b>. But, when they fall, they fall hard!<\/span><\/p>\n

After all, <\/span>avoidant people tally each aspect of your personality before falling in love.<\/b> They will think about everything in detail. Quite a thinker, huh! <\/span><\/p>\n

They will check if you are ready to commit and can understand you. On top of that, people with love avoidant behavior also do a total risk assessment. They want to make sure that you will not leave them.<\/span><\/p>\n