{"id":76633,"date":"2022-04-14T10:15:48","date_gmt":"2022-04-14T10:15:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=76633"},"modified":"2024-07-01T11:40:26","modified_gmt":"2024-07-01T11:40:26","slug":"relationship-lessons","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/relationship-lessons\/","title":{"rendered":"18 Relationship Lessons From Happy and Loving Couples"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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If you’re fortunate, the time will come when you find the optimum loving relationship. To recognize it and then truly be able to settle in and enjoy it, you’ll need to have some history under your belt. <\/span><\/p>\n

Meeting the suitable mate<\/span><\/a> will make it apparent that the heartbreak of lost partnerships you might have thought were <\/span>the<\/span><\/i> ones were meant to be experienced to prepare you for the moment that you actually met the true match.<\/span><\/p>\n

While these losses were painful and sorrowful at the time, valuable relationship lessons accompanied each second of discomfort.  <\/span><\/p>\n

If we had the forethought to question what we’re supposed to gain from experience instead of asking why it had to end, we could progress with that knowledge sooner instead of looking for that wisdom later on down the road.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>What lessons come from relationships<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

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If you’re lucky, you’ll take relationship lessons with you when you walk away from a partnership.<\/span><\/p>\n

You might not work as a long-term couple, but the time you spent together had a purpose, and it’s up to you to pull what you learned from the experience, even if you seem to have to really dig deep to find it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Learn some love lessons with this <\/span>book<\/span><\/a> titled <\/span>“I Wish I Knew This Earlier.”<\/span><\/a> Some of the most sincere messages from a mate include<\/span><\/p>\n

1. <\/b>Forgiveness and letting go<\/b><\/h3>\n

Some partnerships are brought to you to teach the path to forgiveness and how to let go healthfully.<\/span><\/p>\n

Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> 4 Types of Forgiveness in a Relationship: When and How to Apply<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
2. Infatuation is brief<\/b><\/h3>\n
When young, notably, many couples believe the <\/span>honeymoon phase<\/span><\/a> is authentic love, often leading to rude awakenings when infatuation fades and reality sets in.<\/span><\/p>\n
Dionne Eleanor<\/a>, Relationship & Empowerment mentor, says<\/span><\/p>\n
Infatuation may ignite the spark, but it’s sustained respect, trust, and shared growth that fuel the enduring flame of long-term love.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
3. Change your thought process<\/b><\/h3>\n
While you can encourage and motivate a mate to make improvements and grow as an individual, you won’t transform who they are; instead, you need to change your thought process or move on to someone more to your liking.<\/span><\/p>\n
4. Identify individuality<\/b><\/h3>\n
No two people should spend every waking moment together. Independence is critical with time spent enjoying personal interests, hobbies, and individual friends before coming back together as a couple.<\/span><\/p>\n
Dionne Eleanor adds,<\/span><\/p>\n
It is our individuality that creates magnetism, polarity and attraction <\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
5. Control is toxic<\/b><\/h3>\n
No one belongs to another person. Attempting to control someone creates toxicity. <\/span>There should be boundaries<\/span><\/a> and intentions set at the beginning of a relationship. If these are crossed, decisions about the future need to be discussed.<\/span><\/p>\n
<\/span>What makes a couple happy in a relationship<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
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Most “research” will list the same components that comprise happy relationships. These include<\/span><\/p>\n
  1.  The key and a priority is communication<\/span><\/li>\n
  2.  Genuine love (like) and respect for each other<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. Appreciation and gratitude<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n
  4.  A deep sense of commitment and trust<\/span><\/li>\n
  5.  Acceptance of who the other person is<\/span><\/li>\n
  6.  Valuing what each is capable of, seeing the best in the other<\/span><\/li>\n
  7.  Intimacy, sexual, and affection that is nonsexual<\/span><\/li>\n
  8.  A desire to know what’s happening in the other’s life.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>
    These things contribute to a thriving, strong, healthy connection and will deepen a bond that will progress a partnership into the long term.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Still, aside from what we already know, the things contributing to a loving, happy relationship are the little things that not everybody might have.<\/span><\/p>\n
    The predictability that some might call boring can be exceptionally comforting. For instance, when you wake up every morning, and there’s a piping hot cup of coffee on the night table or a mate pops in the door at the same time every afternoon but never loses the vitality at the thought of seeing you – so you can’t wait to see them. <\/span><\/p>\n
    There’s also the ability to be in separate rooms completely silent but suddenly hear an I love you bringing a feeling of immense joy as you go about individual activities even after numerous years together. The words “I love you” never go stale despite what some might believe. <\/span><\/p>\n
    It’s all in how you say them or <\/span>who<\/span><\/i> says them. You can complete each other’s sentences or know what the other is thinking with just a look. These are some things research can’t tell you; you have to experience them to understand.<\/span><\/p>\n
    Are you in a happy and healthy relationship? Watch this video to know more.<\/span><\/p>\n