

{"id":76236,"date":"2022-03-29T19:19:20","date_gmt":"2022-03-29T19:19:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=76236"},"modified":"2024-09-05T06:46:24","modified_gmt":"2024-09-05T06:46:24","slug":"psychological-tricks-to-get-over-infatuation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/psychological-tricks-to-get-over-infatuation\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Overcome Infatuation: 15 Psychological Tricks"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-104215\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/292778009.jpg\" alt=\"Young couple having wine in kitchen \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Infatuation can feel like a whirlwind, sweeping you off your feet and consuming your thoughts with an almost obsessive focus.<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But these intense, often temporary attractions can leave you questioning the reality of your feelings.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why am I infatuated with someone who barely knows me? Is this <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/signs-of-true-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">genuine love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, or just a fleeting obsession? These are the questions that race through your mind, leaving you in a state of emotional turmoil.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Infatuation is a powerful force, but it&rsquo;s also one that can cloud your judgment and lead to unbalanced relationships.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><div class=\"research_highlight\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4987042\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> shows that infatuation typically peaks early in a relationship, often fueled by novelty and idealization rather than true emotional connection.<\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But don&rsquo;t worry&mdash;this article is here to help you understand the causes and signs of infatuation and provide you with 15 psychological tricks on how to overcome infatuation and regain clarity.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re feeling overwhelmed by these intense emotions, keep reading to discover how to deal with infatuation effectively and reclaim your balance.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-infatuation\"><\/span><b>What is infatuation?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.scholars.northwestern.edu\/en\/publications\/infatuation\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><b>Infatuation<\/b><\/a><b> can be defined as passionate love or overwhelming feelings of love for another person.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> In the initial stages of a relationship, people may experience some degree of infatuated love.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They are so enamored with their new partner that they think about them constantly and experience intense emotions toward that person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>One thing to keep in mind about being infatuated with someone is that it comes with both positive and negative emotions.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Someone looking for advice on how to stop infatuation is probably all too familiar with the dark side of infatuation.<\/span><b>The lows of infatuation can include anxiety and nervousness.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You can have significant anxiety as you wonder whether they feel the same way about you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may be nervous in their presence because you desperately want them to like you. You might find yourself anxiously awaiting a return text from them or some other indication that they are just as interested in you as you are in them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, <\/span><b>the highs of infatuation include feelings of intense euphoria.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> The strong attraction and obsession you feel for the object of your infatuation can leave you delighted, as your brain is flooded with the feel-good chemical<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.frontiersin.org\/articles\/10.3389\/fpsyg.2020.00634\/full\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">dopamine<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in response to them.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-common-causes-of-infatuation\"><\/span><b>5 common causes of infatuation<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, what causes infatuation? As noted above, in the early stages of romance, our brains are flooded with the brain&rsquo;s chemical dopamine, which creates feelings of intense pleasure.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The flooding of dopamine leads to feelings of euphoria that make us crazy for the object of our infatuation. In this sense, the cause of infatuation is a chemical or physiological reaction in the body.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But Infatuation isn&rsquo;t just about a rush of chemicals in the brain; it often stems from deeper emotional and psychological reasons. Here&rsquo;s why you might find yourself infatuated with someone:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>You see a person as perfect before you even get to know them. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might project qualities onto someone that you wish they had, creating a fantasy version of them in your mind.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>You&rsquo;re lonely. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you&rsquo;re feeling isolated, the attention or affection of someone new can quickly become magnified, making you believe you&rsquo;ve found something special when, in reality, you&rsquo;re just craving connection.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>You are addicted to romance and the thought of falling in love. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re someone who constantly seeks out the thrill of new romances, you may find yourself infatuated because you&rsquo;re chasing that emotional high, not necessarily the person themselves.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>You are exceptionally sexually attracted to someone. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Physical attraction can be so intense that it clouds your judgment, making it easy to mistake lust for love.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>You enjoy the excitement and passion in the early stages of a relationship. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re someone who thrives on this early-stage energy, you might find yourself infatuated simply because you&rsquo;re addicted to that initial rush, rather than a deep, meaningful connection<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-clear-signs-of-infatuation\"><\/span><b>5 clear signs of infatuation<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you think you might have developed an intense infatuation for someone, consider the signs below:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-76239\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/New-Project-2022-03-30T004331.892.jpg\" alt=\"Couple staring at each other\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. You think of them nonstop<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being infatuated with someone means that they&rsquo;re always on your mind. You may find that thoughts of them creep into your head, even when you&rsquo;re doing something else, such as working or spending time with friends, and you can&rsquo;t help but think about them.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. You&rsquo;re overly jealous<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether you&rsquo;re actually in a relationship with the person you&rsquo;re infatuated with or simply crushing on them, you&rsquo;ll notice that you start to become extremely jealous.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If they so much as look at another member of the opposite sex, you&rsquo;ll feel enraged with jealousy. Or, if they don&rsquo;t text you back immediately, you&rsquo;ll worry that they&rsquo;re not into you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. You have mood swings<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Infatuation comes with highs and lows, so you may find that your mood shifts rapidly when you&rsquo;re feeling infatuated with someone.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When they seem to be showing you positive attention, you&rsquo;ll feel elated. On the other hand, when they ignore you or otherwise don&rsquo;t reciprocate your feelings, you&rsquo;ll feel anxious and depressed.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/how-to-deal-with-mood-swings-in-a-relationship\/\" title=\"13 Practical Ways to Deal With Mood Swings in Relationships\">13 Practical Ways to Deal With Mood Swings in Relationships<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>4. You view them as perfect<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you&rsquo;re infatuated with someone, you wear rose-colored glasses. You&rsquo;ll fail to see their flaws and instead view them as a perfect person, and you&rsquo;ll obsess over how wonderful they are.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If they show imperfections or red flags, you&rsquo;ll ignore them because you&rsquo;re so convinced they can do no wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. You&rsquo;re not functioning well<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A strong infatuation can get in the way of living life to the fullest in other areas. You may make so many sacrifices for the object of your infatuation that others things start to fall by the wayside.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may find that you&rsquo;re too distracted to do your best at work or school, and you may be neglecting your friendships. You may even be worn out from the highs and lows of infatuation and your constant obsessive thoughts of the other person.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Do-we-all-fall-victim-to-infatuation\"><\/span><b>Do we all fall victim to infatuation?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Why do I get infatuated so easily?&rdquo; people ask.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><b>In some respects, infatuation is a normal part of<\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/starting-a-new-relationship\/\"> <b>starting a new relationship<\/b><\/a><b>.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When two people are in love and get to know each other, excitement is high, hormones are raging, and life seems good. You may have a passionate desire for your new partner and want to be close to them at all times.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand,<\/span><b> an infatuation that interferes with happiness in other areas is not necessarily normal.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> If you become obsessed and deeply infatuated with every new partner or crush, you may struggle with a romance addiction.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You like the excitement of the chase, and you view infatuation as true love when in reality, <\/span><b>healthy, lasting love is characterized by a strong bond and feelings of happiness, calmness, and security.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-is-infatuation-hard-to-get-over\"><\/span><b>Why is infatuation hard to get over?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><b>Infatuation is hard to get over because it often feels like an emotional rollercoaster that you can&rsquo;t control.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> The intensity of the feelings can be overwhelming, making you believe it&rsquo;s love when it&rsquo;s really just a temporary obsession.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, the constant daydreaming and idealization of the person can keep you hooked, even when reality doesn&rsquo;t match your fantasies. <\/span><b>Additionally, the brain&rsquo;s chemical rush during infatuation symptoms can create a sense of dependency, similar to addiction, making it tough to let go.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-104214\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/5-Tips-To-Increase-Your-Productivity-Graph.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"804\" height=\"603\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Can-infatuation-turn-into-love\"><\/span><b>Can infatuation turn into love?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><b>Infatuation signs can sometimes be the start of something deeper, but whether infatuation turns into love depends on how both people manage those early emotions.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you recognize the signs and take the time to truly understand each other, you can build a meaningful connection. However, it&rsquo;s essential to know how to avoid infatuation clouding your judgment.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By focusing on genuine emotional connection and not just the initial rush, infatuation can potentially blossom into lasting love.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-long-does-it-take-to-overcome-infatuation\"><\/span><b>How long does it take to overcome infatuation?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re not much pleased by your state of infatuation, you might be wondering how long it will take to move past these feelings.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Suppose you&rsquo;re in the early stages of a relationship and experiencing the passion and intensity of falling in love. In that case, <\/span><b>you will likely naturally settle into a<\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/9-tips-to-building-a-stable-relationship\/\"> <b>stable relationship<\/b><\/a><b> after an extended period of time together.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, <\/span><b>if you have an infatuation surrounding a crush and can&rsquo;t seem to get over it, it will vary the length of time it takes to move on.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re willing to make the effort to learn how to stop being infatuated with someone, you may be able to move on relatively quickly.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>The good news is that infatuation doesn&rsquo;t last forever. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Eventually, reality sets in, and you either realize that the infatuation isn&rsquo;t healthy, or you settle down if you&rsquo;re in a committed relationship. You feel comfortable as a deep bond forms between you and your significant other.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"15-psychological-tricks-to-get-over-the-infatuation\"><\/span><b>15 psychological tricks to get over the infatuation<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are in a healthy relationship, infatuation will naturally pass as you and your significant other become more comfortable with each other and the newness of the relationship fades away.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, infatuation isn&rsquo;t always healthy. If your relationship is toxic, or if you&rsquo;re longing for someone who doesn&rsquo;t feel the same about you, infatuation can take over your life. Unhealthy infatuation can lead you to spend most of your time obsessing over the other person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If things have reached an unhealthy point, the 15 tips below can help you learn how to get over infatuation:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Actually talk to them<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you&rsquo;re infatuated with someone, you&rsquo;ll view them as a perfect, majestical person, even if you don&rsquo;t know much about them. In learning how to overcome infatuation, <\/span><b>coming to view them as human beings who have both strengths and flaws will give you a more balanced perspective.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once you actually talk to your crush, you&rsquo;ll learn that they weren&rsquo;t as perfect as you thought.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Avoid things you associate with them<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><b>If you want to make an effort at getting over infatuation truly, you need to stop reminding yourself of your crush.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Please don&rsquo;t go to their favorite hangout or scroll through their social media profile. Any sight or reminder of them will quickly lead you back to obsessing about them.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Focus on something else<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Infatuation can take over your entire life, but you can make a conscious effort to focus on something else. <\/span><b>Set a new goal and work toward achieving it when trying to learn how to overcome infatuation.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you&rsquo;re focused on your aspirations, you&rsquo;ll have less time to obsess about your crush. When you meet your goals and start making forward progress in life, you may be so happy with life that you won&rsquo;t even think of your crush any longer.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Reach out to friends<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><b>When you have decided to end an infatuation, you will benefit from the support of friends.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tell them that you&rsquo;re trying to move on from your crush, so they will understand what you&rsquo;re going through and be there to support you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Distract yourself with a hobby<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being infatuated can consume a lot of your time, so learning how to overcome infatuation requires filling your time with something else.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Now is the time to keep yourself busy with your hobbies or commit to taking that cooking class or joining that gym.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Practice self-care<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The dark side of infatuation can take its toll on you. You may feel anxious, depressed, or downright rejected. <\/span><b>Be kind to yourself, and take time for self-care when trying to learn how to overcome infatuation.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Set aside time for things you enjoy, and make an effort to care for yourself with healthy foods, regular exercise, and plenty of rest.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-pillars-of-self-care\/\" title=\"The 5 Pillars of Self-Care\">The 5 Pillars of Self-Care<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>7. Create a bedtime routine<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It may seem silly, but your obsessive thoughts over your crush can interfere with your sleep when you develop an infatuation.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may lie awake at night thinking of them and wondering how they feel about you, leaving you exhausted in the morning. <\/span><b>Instead of falling victim to this, create a calming nighttime routine.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take a hot bath, and then unwind with some stretching or relaxing medication to calm the body for sleep. These are some things you can do to learn how to get over infatuation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To learn more about the anatomy of a good bedtime routine, take help from this video:<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/gDNDlPejKr4?si=oPFGFQKc3r1IyorU\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Be honest with them<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not knowing whether or not your crush feels the same way about you can make your<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/full\/10.1177\/23743735211060812\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">feelings of infatuation<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> stronger. <\/span><b>Instead of remaining in a state of uncertainty, share your feelings with them.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ultimately, the worst thing that can happen is they will reject you. Once the uncertainty passes and you realize that they aren&rsquo;t into you the way you&rsquo;re into them, the infatuation may pass rather quickly.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED QUIZ : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/honesty-quiz-for-couples\" title=\"Honesty Quiz for Couples: Is Your Relationship Honest?\">Honesty Quiz for Couples: Is Your Relationship Honest?<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>9. Look at the negative aspects of infatuation&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The highs of infatuation can lead to euphoria, but the longing and obsession you feel toward your crush can lead to anxiety and sleeplessness.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your crush rejects you, you may be left with feelings of despair, and you might even find that you have physical symptoms like chest pains.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Take the time to list the negative side of your infatuation, and you&rsquo;ll likely be more ready to move on.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Get real about their flaws&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><b>This will require you to take a step back and be honest with yourself, but accepting the reality that your crush has flaws can help you move past infatuation.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re caught up in your belief that the object of your infatuation is perfect, remind yourself that everyone has flaws.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may have to ask for your friends&rsquo; perspectives to help you recognize flaws in your crush, but becoming aware of them can play an important role in dealing with infatuation.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>11. Stop the cycle<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">During a stage of infatuation, your thoughts will seem as if they are out of control. If you want to learn how to overcome infatuation, you have to figure out a way to stop the cycle of obsessive thoughts.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>As soon as you notice yourself thinking of your crush, please find a way to stop the thought process before going down a rabbit trail of obsessing over them.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might recite a mantra to yourself, such as, &ldquo;You have better things to think about!&rdquo; Or, as soon as your thoughts turn to your crush, do something to distract yourself, like texting a friend, going for a walk, or turning on your favorite TV show.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>12. Read some books<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><b>Picking up a good book about the ins and outs of infatuation can be helpful. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not only will you learn just how the process of infatuation works, but reading will also serve as a form of distraction to take your mind off of your crush.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. Consider an alternative perspective<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The obsession and euphoria that come along with infatuation can lead you to believe that this person is your<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/characteristics-of-a-good-partner\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">perfect partner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and that you&rsquo;re involved in a fairytale love story. If this is the narrative you&rsquo;ve convinced yourself is true, now is the time to rewrite the story.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Consider the fact that this is just a phase, and it&rsquo;s not some indication of a once-in-a-lifetime romance.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<h3><b>14. Accept rejection&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes rejection happens, but we can get through it. If your crush rarely talks to you or ignores your attempts to connect, the chances are that they aren&rsquo;t interested.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Instead of holding out hope that they will fall for you, accept their silence as rejection so you can begin moving on.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/dealing-with-rejection\/\" title=\"9 Effective Ways of Dealing With Rejection\">9 Effective Ways of Dealing With Rejection<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>15. Seek therapy&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><b>If you have ongoing issues with infatuation and you can&rsquo;t find ways to deal with them on your own, it might be time to seek out professional intervention.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A therapist can help you process your emotions and find different ways of thinking, so you are not experiencing obsessive thoughts and irrational beliefs, such as the belief that your crush is your soulmate.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A therapist can also help you uncover any psychological issues that may contribute to your ongoing infatuations.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-76237\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/New-Project-2022-03-30T004417.296.jpg\" alt=\"Woman reading book\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/relationship-counseling\/\" title=\"What Is Relationship Therapy &#8211; Types, Benefits &#038; How It Works\">What Is Relationship Therapy &#8211; Types, Benefits &#038; How It Works<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Moving-beyond-infatuation\"><\/span><b>Moving beyond infatuation<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Infatuation is thrilling, but it&rsquo;s just the beginning of a much deeper journey. As the initial spark fades, the real work of building a lasting connection begins.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s about looking beyond the surface, embracing each other&rsquo;s flaws, and nurturing a relationship grounded in trust, respect, and genuine care. Don&rsquo;t let the intensity of infatuation blind you to what truly matters&mdash;emotional depth and mutual understanding.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take a moment to reflect: Are you ready to move past the rush and invest in something real? The choice to cultivate a meaningful relationship is in your hands.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Infatuation can feel like a whirlwind, sweeping you off your feet and consuming your thoughts with an almost obsessive focus.&nbsp; But these intense, often temporary attractions can leave you questioning the reality of your feelings.&nbsp; Why am I infatuated with someone who barely knows me? Is this genuine love, or just a fleeting obsession? These are the questions that race through your mind, leaving you in a state of emotional turmoil. Infatuation is a powerful force, but it&rsquo;s also one that can cloud your judgment and lead to unbalanced relationships.&nbsp; But don&rsquo;t worry&mdash;this article is here to help you understand <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1262,"featured_media":76241,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2502],"tags":[2606],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/76236"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1262"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=76236"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/76236\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":104216,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/76236\/revisions\/104216"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/76241"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=76236"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=76236"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=76236"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}