

{"id":75377,"date":"2022-02-24T12:39:00","date_gmt":"2022-02-24T12:39:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=75377"},"modified":"2026-01-06T10:25:46","modified_gmt":"2026-01-06T10:25:46","slug":"addictive-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/addictive-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"25 Signs That You\u2019re Trapped in Addictive Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-75381\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/New-Project-2022-02-24T175746.507.jpg\" alt=\"Couple in love\" width=\"805\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We&rsquo;ve heard many people describe their love as addicting. Or say that they are addicted to their partner or spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People even use this word in songs, showing how deep one&rsquo;s love is. However, it&rsquo;s wrong to associate the word addiction with the<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/the-true-meaning-of-love-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> feeling of love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Addiction is described as a great interest in something in particular. Often, it makes it hard for this person to think clearly and only focuses on their addiction.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unfortunately, addictive relationships exist.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not the &lsquo;addiction&rsquo; that we often hear in songs about being deeply in love. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-overcome-relationship-addiction\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationship addiction<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is something else, and it&rsquo;s far more common than you think it is.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-do-you-define-an-addictive-relationship\"><\/span><b>How do you define an addictive relationship?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can you be addicted to a person?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The answer here is yes. An addictive relationship is when you fall in love so deeply that you begin to lose yourself in the process.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Addictive relationships can happen to only one partner or both. But most of the time, when this happens, the person who exhibits addiction stops taking care of their personal needs and will only focus on their partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional addiction to a person is no different from being addicted to drugs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is an addictive relationship? What makes it different from a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/top-characteristics-of-a-healthy-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> healthy relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A person who is in addictive relationships feels incomplete, unhappy, desperate, and even insecure. This is the exact opposite if you are in a healthy relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being in a relationship with an addict for love will give everything, to the point of being obsessive. They aim to be with the person they love.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They want to make their partners happy feel loved, and they want to show how much they love their partners that it becomes unhealthy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As these people drain themselves of their <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/steps-to-practice-self-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">self-love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and self-worth, they begin to feel emptier.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-the-psychology-behind-addictive-relationships\"><\/span><b>What is the psychology behind addictive relationships?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Addictive behaviors in relationships start with pure intentions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You fall in love, and you want this person to feel the love you have to offer. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-true-meaning-of-being-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being in a relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and being happy in love is the ultimate goal.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course, every relationship also has trials.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A healthy relationship will talk, understand, and work together. Unfortunately, this isn&rsquo;t the case with addictive relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They feel extreme emotions and fail to communicate. When this happens, the person experiencing addiction will obsessively think about their partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They become &lsquo;high&rsquo; with happiness when they are okay yet succumb to sadness and depression when there&rsquo;s a problem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Over time, they would focus all their energy, time, and happiness on their relationship and partner. It becomes an addictive relationships cycle that will eventually destroy their self-respect, self-love, and even self-compassion.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What happens when you allow yourself to get lost in the love that you thought would make you a better person?<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-are-the-different-characteristics-of-an-addictive-relationship\"><\/span><b>What are the different characteristics of an addictive relationship?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you mix addiction and relationships, your love may turn into a toxic one.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some of the characteristics of addictive relationships:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li><b> Addictive love is all-consuming and obsessive.<\/b><\/li>\n<li><b> This type of love is inhibited.<\/b><\/li>\n<li><b> Being addicted to love is being <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-of-emotional-dependence-in-relationship\/\"><b>dependent on your partner<\/b><\/a><b>.<\/b><\/li>\n<li><b> Addictive love demands.<\/b><\/li>\n<li><b> A love bounded by addiction lacks real intimacy and connection.<\/b><\/li>\n<li><b> Addictive love is also manipulative.<\/b><\/li>\n<li><b> Love addiction often has insecurities.<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you feel that you are in addictive relationships or someone you know does, it helps to know the signs.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"25-Signs-that-you%E2%80%99re-trapped-in-an-addictive-relationship\"><\/span><b>25 Signs that you&rsquo;re trapped in an addictive relationship<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you can relate to the signs below, you might be in an addictive relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Here are 25 signs of addictive relationships:<\/b><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. You always have issues<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s normal to have issues in a relationship, but with addictive relationships, the problems become too frequent and too damaging.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/solutions-for-8-common-relationship-issues\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Problems in a relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can strengthen the couple when they solve them together. It requires patience, understanding, love, maturity, and communication.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, when the couple is just focusing on the recurring issues, and it doesn&rsquo;t lead them anywhere, then it becomes toxic. The relationship can be described as complicated, more than harmonious.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Your love is inconsistent<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Addictive personalities and relationships have similarities to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.hopkinsmedicine.org\/institute_basic_biomedical_sciences\/about_us\/basic_research_human_health\/Drug%20Abuse\/drugabuse.html\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">substance abuse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">; in the sense that you get addicted to the &lsquo;happy&rsquo; or high moments. Then, you have issues again, and then you fall hard.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s called an addictive relationships cycle, where someone gets addicted to the love and pain that the relationship brings.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A person addicted to love feels like when they are feeling pain, it&rsquo;s worth the battle to feel the &lsquo;happy&rsquo; or high moments again. So they hold on, even if it hurts.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-75380\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/New-Project-2022-02-24T175813.431.jpg\" alt=\"Beautiful couple\" width=\"805\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. You always think about your love and partner non-stop<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you&rsquo;re in love, you always think of your special someone, right.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It brings you happiness, inspiration, and that <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-you-are-falling-in-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">feeling of butterflies in your stomach.&nbsp;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&rsquo;s one of the best feelings, but when you are stuck in addictive relationships, your mind becomes obsessed with the thought of your lover.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can delay work, a meal, and even your sleep to monitor your loved one, think about your future, what your issues are, and what this person is doing every moment.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. You always feel insecure and nervous<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What if your boyfriend is doing overtime or is away for an out-of-town project, and you are filled with thoughts of him accompanied by anxiety?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is one of the signs of relationship addiction.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might feel that he can meet someone new or have a good time and is no longer thinking of you. These thoughts are not healthy and are destructive.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These thoughts can get worst and will take up literally your whole day.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The sad part is when you&rsquo;re consumed, it can already affect how you think and talk to your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/what-is-relationship-anxiety-and-how-can-you-deal-with-it\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is Relationship Anxiety and How can you Deal with it?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<p><b>Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes, a clinical psychotherapist, discusses the reality of having relationship insecurities:<\/b><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/quI3hKDDXnI\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Your relationship only brings out the worst in you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dating someone with an addictive personality can have tantrums or outbursts that can be out of line.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Too much insecurity, obsessive thoughts, and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.apa.org\/monitor\/feb05\/jealousy#:~:text=The%20researchers%20found%3A,reported%20greater%20vulnerability%20to%20jealousy.\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">jealousy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can trigger a person under addictive relationships to burst into anger or fit.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You know you&rsquo;re not like this before, but now, you&rsquo;ve been uncontrollable, and you&rsquo;re not proud of what you&rsquo;ve become. Unfortunately, this is a cycle, and you&rsquo;ll find yourself repeating these behaviors over and over again.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6.<\/b> <b>You are always tired and sick<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationship addiction symptoms can take a toll on your physical and mental health. This is why people experiencing this type of love addiction often become sickly.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. You are in a relationship, yet you feel alone<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ironic, isn&rsquo;t it? You&rsquo;re in a relationship, but you feel alone.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s when you realize that you don&rsquo;t have a lot in common, and your relationship is filled with the same issue. It&rsquo;s when you obsessively think about your partner, yet you seem to feel like you&rsquo;re falling apart.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You start to feel unhappy and alone.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/are-you-feeling-alone-in-a-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">15 Signs of Loneliness in a Relationship and How to Deal With It<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>8. You always break up and makeup<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">An addictive relationship is a cycle.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You&rsquo;re super in love today, and tomorrow you might hate each other to the point that you choose to let go. Then, after a few hours, days, or even weeks, you find yourself in each other&rsquo;s arms again.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sadly, most of these relationships would go in circles. Fighting over the same issue and feeling in love the next. This prevents you from growing.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/healing-relationships-after-breaking-up-and-making-up\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Healing Relationships After Breaking Up And Making Up<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>9. You turn to sex to fix your relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If a person is emotionally weak and is too dependent on their lover, this can lead to sexually addictive relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They might start to think that sex can fix the relationship and begin sexualizing trust, nurturing, and even love.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Relationship:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/steps-to-repair-your-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4 Effective Steps to Repair Your Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>10. Don&rsquo;t confuse this with making love or healthy sex&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-being-too-independent-can-destroy-your-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being too dependent to your partner<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you ever felt that you can&rsquo;t function without your partner?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">From doing simple tasks making decisions to your emotions, you feel like you need your partner to validate you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you become too dependent on your partner, they may feel suffocated, and you would also feel unhappy and lost.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>11. Trying to justify your partner&rsquo;s mistakes and flaws<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some people in addictive relationships may also be victims of abuse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A person addicted to the thought that love means understanding will have a false belief that no matter <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/how-to-fix-an-abusive-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">how abusive their partner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is, there&rsquo;s a chance to be better.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They would justify their partner&rsquo;s wrongdoing and even start to believe the lies themselves.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>12. Trying to change yourself to be perfect for your partner<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Addictive personality traits in relationships include changing yourself to be the &lsquo;perfect&rsquo; partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may even start asking your partner, what he likes, hates, or just about anything to please him.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having the ultimate goal of being the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/characteristics-of-a-good-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">perfect partner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and changing yourself in the process to show your love is not healthy.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. You always feel that you&rsquo;re not enough<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s exhausting that no matter how hard you try, you feel that you are not enough for the person you love.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You feel that you have so much love that your heart will burst. You want to try your best to be perfect, yet you know that you&rsquo;re not enough. This can cause <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/what-is-relationship-anxiety-and-how-can-you-deal-with-it\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">stress and anxiety<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, adding to the addictive relationships cycles.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-75379\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/New-Project-2022-02-24T175841.559.jpg\" alt=\"Women Jealous of couple\" width=\"805\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>14. You&rsquo;re often jealous and insecure<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Addictive behaviors in relationships include extreme, often uncontrolled jealousy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It stems from insecurity and excessive thinking.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you give in to these intrusive thoughts, it becomes a habit and becomes addicting. One day, you&rsquo;ll find yourself stalking every friend your partner has, every text or call.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What happens when something triggers you? You pick up a fight, or you nag, leading to another issue.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-stop-being-jealous-in-your-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">15 Tips on How to Stop Being Jealous in Your Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>15. Turning to substances to cope or numb the emptiness<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If someone is in addictive relationships, this person is also susceptible to substance abuse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When in pain, this person can turn to alcohol, drugs, or other illegal substances to &lsquo;numb&rsquo; the pain and emptiness.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>16. Turning to binge eating or even gambling<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some people who are addicted to love may turn to binge eating and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/bmcpublichealth.biomedcentral.com\/articles\/10.1186\/s12889-019-7391-z\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">gambling<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When they are in a lonely and addictive relationship, they are susceptible to finding ways that can help them feel happy, even just for a while.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is their temporary solution to a deeper problem.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>17. You can&rsquo;t imagine your life without your partner<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People who love you will notice what&rsquo;s happening. They might start asking you to seek professional help or just let go.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, the mere thought of being parted with your loved one, even if the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/warning-signs-of-a-toxic-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship is toxic<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, is unbearable for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You cannot imagine living your life without this person, even if they love you&rsquo;re holding on to is already unhealthy.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>18. Making your partner your whole life<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can you be addicted to a person and make this person your whole world?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A person addicted to love means giving everything they have until they have nothing left behind.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&rsquo;s how it feels for someone in an addictive relationship. You are willing to give everything you have, making your partner their whole world.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your whole love, life, and attention will go to one person, but what&rsquo;s left for you?<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>19. You always doubt your partner<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have given everything to your partner. And because you no longer have anything for yourself, you begin to feel insecure and afraid.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You&rsquo;re afraid that this person will leave you, so you always feel doubtful and scared.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This will lead to issues, and the addictive relationship cycle starts again.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/8-signs-you-are-insecure-in-your-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">8 Signs Indicating Insecurity in Relationships<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>20. You start distancing yourself from your family and friends<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s hard when the people you love don&rsquo;t support or understand where you are coming from.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">According to <\/span><a class=\"editor-rtfLink\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/christiana-njoku\" target=\"_blank\"><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Christiana Njoku<\/span><\/a><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">, LPC<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">As much as you can, never get to the point of staying away from family and friends because you are addicted to an unhealthy love.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may even feel like the world is trying to keep you apart.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&rsquo;s one of the most common things that people who are addicted to love to feel. In the end, they choose to distance themselves from their own family and friends.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-75378\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/New-Project-2022-02-24T175956.508.jpg\" alt=\"American couple ignoring each other in bedroom\" width=\"805\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>21. You start losing your self-worth and self-respect<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You start giving everything to your partner, and unknowingly, you&rsquo;re leaving nothing behind.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You drain your self-respect, self-compassion, and self-love.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>22. You&rsquo;re out of control and can show obsessiveness<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional stress and too many emotions can take a toll, and this can cause you to have a nervous breakdown.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The more your partner distances, the more you become obsessed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The more you feel that your<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-your-relationship-is-falling-apart-and-how-to-save-it\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> relationship is falling apart<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, the more eager you are to cling on and fight for it.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>23. You try to post that you have a perfect relationship online<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is very common. Addictive behaviors in relationships include obsessing over online approval.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may find yourself posting sweet photos, sweet messages, and so much more. You want everyone to see how happy and perfect you are together.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>24. You start to beg for your partner&rsquo;s love<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you found yourself on the edge of your sanity with your continuous <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/love-hate-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">love-hate relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">? Has your partner tried to leave you, and you found yourself begging for this person to stay?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Losing yourself in love is a sad reality that some people deal with. Even if they no longer have pride, self-love, and self-respect, they would try to hold on.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>25. You look in the mirror, and you can no longer recognize yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Look yourself in the mirror.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you even recognize the once happy, independent, and bright person you used to be? Have you felt that you&rsquo;re drowning in this addiction and want to save yourself?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you feel this way, you&rsquo;re in an addictive relationship, and you&rsquo;ve recognized that.<\/span><b>&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Ways-to-overcome-addictive-relationships\"><\/span><b>5 Ways to overcome addictive relationships<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once you have seen and realized that something is wrong, decide to do something about it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Address the issue and commit. Start overcoming addictive relationships by trying these 5 steps:<\/b><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Recognize that there is a problem<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Focus on your recovery first. To regain your self-love and self-respect, you need to start fixing that person in front of the mirror.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Take a break<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/taking-a-break-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take a break from the relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> if needed. This will be very hard, but think of it this way, how can you fix your relationship when you&rsquo;re broken inside?<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Focus on yourself first<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Start nurturing yourself and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/steps-to-practice-self-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">practice self-love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, self-respect, self-compassion, and everything that can bring back the old you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Christiana Njoku, LPC, highlights that:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>To overcome that addictive relationship, you need to make it a point of duty to invest in loving and taking care of yourself.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember that loving yourself is very important.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Talk<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try talking to people who love and understand you. Don&rsquo;t push the people who love you away. Embrace them and allow them to help you heal.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Consult a professional<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In any event that everything seems so hard and you feel lost, then please do <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/6-reasons-to-get-professional-marriage-counseling-advice\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">consult a professional<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. A licensed therapist is someone who can help you go through the process. They&rsquo;re not here to judge but to help.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>Conclusion<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Meeting someone and falling in love is beautiful, but as they say, too much of everything won&rsquo;t be good for us.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s normal to want a loving relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everyone wants a healthy relationship, but sometimes, we get lost.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the depth of extreme love and emotion, we drown in addictive relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By knowing the different signs of addicting love, you&rsquo;re given a chance to change the course of your love story.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not too late to try again and start re-building yourself. See how worthy you are of a love that is healthy and beautiful.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Just remember that in falling in love, we should not lose ourselves.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We&rsquo;ve heard many people describe their love as addicting. Or say that they are addicted to their partner or spouse. People even use this word in songs, showing how deep one&rsquo;s love is. However, it&rsquo;s wrong to associate the word addiction with the feeling of love. Addiction is described as a great interest in something in particular. Often, it makes it hard for this person to think clearly and only focuses on their addiction. Unfortunately, addictive relationships exist. It&rsquo;s not the &lsquo;addiction&rsquo; that we often hear in songs about being deeply in love. Relationship addiction is something else, and it&rsquo;s <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1419,"featured_media":75381,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2502],"tags":[2605],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/75377"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1419"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=75377"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/75377\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":116174,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/75377\/revisions\/116174"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/75381"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=75377"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=75377"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=75377"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}