

{"id":7503,"date":"2016-04-07T09:31:00","date_gmt":"2016-04-07T09:31:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=7503"},"modified":"2026-02-05T09:25:29","modified_gmt":"2026-02-05T09:25:29","slug":"6-signs-that-your-partner-may-be-cheating-on-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/6-signs-that-your-partner-may-be-cheating-on-you\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Signs That Your Partner May Be Cheating On You"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"wp-image-7504 size-full alignnone\" title=\"Infidelity signs\" src=\"http:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/04\/36.jpg\" alt=\"Infidelity signs\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are the signs that your spouse may be cheating? Sometimes you know, and sometimes you don&rsquo;t. When <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/what-constitutes-infidelity-in-a-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">infidelity<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> happens in a marriage or other committed <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, one of the worst parts can be all the lies.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Someone you have loved for so long suddenly is keeping secrets, and it hurts. The big question, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/ideas.ted.com\/10-facts-about-infidelity-helen-fisher\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">why is your spouse cheating?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">First, realize that there are many ways to cheat, and <\/span><b>there are many signs of a cheating partner in a relationship.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> There can be both emotional infidelity and physical infidelity signs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There doesn&rsquo;t seem to be a huge difference between <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/infidelity-talk-characteristics-of-a-cheating-woman\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">infidelity signs in a woman<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or infidelity signs in a man; though each person is different. Trust your gut.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some cheating partners do end up telling their significant other, but many don&rsquo;t. So how do you find out if your spouse is cheating or not?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you suspect something is going on with your significant other, here are 6 signs your partner may be cheating on you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Your-partner-acts-shady\"><\/span>1. Your partner acts shady<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/-0ZjByejjjg?si=2fIchsXTCJeJOun4\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<div class=\"subscribeYT_highlight\"><div class=\"subscribe_channel\">\r\n            <div class=\"subscribe_text\">Join millions <span class=\"sub_text1\">building healthier, happier<\/span> <span class=\"sub_text2\"> relationships.<\/span><\/div>\r\n            <a class=\"subscribe-btn-in-content\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@Marriagedotcom?sub_confirmation=1\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/youtube_icon_small.png\" class=\"icon-left\" alt=\"YouTube\">\r\n            <span>Subscribe<\/span>\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/bell_icon_new.svg\" class=\"icon-right\" alt=\"Extra Icon\">\r\n            <\/a>\r\n        <\/div><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is a pretty general statement because what is shady to one person may not be shady to the next. You know your partner best. Is he or she suddenly acting&hellip; weird? Secretive? Angry? Giddy?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Changes in mood and behavior<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are good indications that something is going on. Now you need to find out what. If your partner is becoming more emotionally invested in another person, then he or she may become closed off and share less with you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your partner is becoming <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">physically intimate<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with another person, he or she may want to spend less intimate time with you. A key sign of a cheating spouse is that your partner may be acting out of the ordinary.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While changes in their behavior could be related to many things, including simply feeling <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC3148820\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">stress<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ed, it could be something more as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading:&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/ways-to-tell-someone-is-lying-about-cheating\/\">6 Ways to Tell if Someone is Lying About Cheating<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Your-partner-begins-to-hide-their-electronic-devices\"><\/span>2. Your partner begins to hide their electronic devices<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/signs-he-is-cheating\/\">sign your spouse is cheating<\/a> on you is when they keep their electronic devices hidden or locked away.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When cheating happens, the guilty party may want to cover their tracks&mdash;especially if they are communicating frequently with another person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>This can happen with <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/emotional-infidelity-texting\/\"><b>emotional infidelity<\/b><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> when your spouse is falling for someone else and communicating a lot, or it could happen with physical infidelity because they may set up meeting times.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That is why when infidelity happens, electronic devices suddenly become more scarce at home. Where is his or her cell phone? Why is it password protected?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The same goes for the laptop, desktop, tablet, or other devices that may have access to personal information.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It may be a good idea to download the text and phone records of the last cell cycle to see if there is one odd number that pops up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But even then, they may be communicating strictly via Facebook or an app that isn&rsquo;t connected with a phone number. If you ask your partner about seeing their phone and they are completely defensive, that may be a&nbsp; red flag.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even if you do have access to their Facebook or email accounts, it&rsquo;s pretty easy to set up fake accounts that you may not even realize are there.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-31478 size-full\" title=\"signs of a cheating partner in a relationship\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/These-5-Tips-Could-Help-if-You-Are-Staying-with-a-Cheater.jpg\" alt=\"signs of a cheating partner in a relationship\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Your-partner-uses-cash-or-a-secret-card\"><\/span>3. Your partner uses cash or a secret card<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Suddenly his or her financial transactions aren&rsquo;t public records. For some reason, he or she doesn&rsquo;t want you to know where things have been purchased or exactly what has been purchased.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you two used to be more open with <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.forbes.com\/sites\/financialfinesse\/2011\/11\/10\/5-financial-mistakes-that-ruin-your-marriage-2\/#35ad863afa50\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">finances<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and suddenly your partner is using cash or a separate card (that you don&rsquo;t have access to), then there may be a reason.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Your spouse may be trying to hide something.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Perhaps there are secret lunches or dinners with someone else who they are falling for emotionally? Or maybe a secret hotel room for a physical affair? Maybe even gifts?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you do find receipts and ask about them, your partner&rsquo;s demeanor may be very telling. Usually, spouses may say, &ldquo;Oh that was for a client.&rdquo; Which may be true, or it may not be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This kind of behavior may be a sign of a cheating spouse or a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/finance\/red-flags-of-financial-infidelity\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">red flag<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> if it&rsquo;s out of the ordinary and he or she is secretive about it.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Your-loved-one-makes-excuses-to-go-out-alone-or-%E2%80%9Cwith-friends%E2%80%9D\"><\/span>4. Your loved one makes excuses to go out alone or &ldquo;with friends&rdquo;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maybe he or she is suddenly always &ldquo;late coming home from work&rdquo; or Wednesday nights at the gym are a little longer than usual. Perhaps there is a new weekly poker night with friends.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These could be legitimate, but overall it just feels off. You should ask, why are you seeing less and less of your partner? It could be legitimate, but if your partner gets snippy even when you just ask about what they are doing, that&rsquo;s a red flag.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not that you need to know exactly where they are at all times, but it&rsquo;s just that you get the feeling they aren&rsquo;t being 100% honest with you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Your partner may be trying to get alone time with another person<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> they are more emotionally or physically invested in.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also watch:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/RmiKAoAmYSg\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Your-partner-is-less-emotionally-and-physically-available\"><\/span>5. Your partner is less emotionally and physically available<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A relationship takes a lot of effort, and so if your significant other is offering his or her emotional or physical love to someone else, there may not be much left for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&rsquo;s why when someone cheats, they may typically be less emotionally and physically available to their spouse or partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Emotional-extremes-start-happening\"><\/span>6. Emotional extremes start happening<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your significant other is suddenly acting super nice all the time even when certain things used to annoy them, or if they are angrier with you over trivial things, that is another red flag.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional extremes are usually the result of overwhelming guilt. Your partner may be doing something they know is wrong, and they either feel bad about it or are masking it with anger.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you suspect your partner may be cheating on you, <\/span><b>the best thing you can do is talk about it.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Bring up the above signs you have been seeing in a very calm way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is definitely not a subject anyone wants to bring up, but it&rsquo;s better to know sooner than later. You deserve to know the truth, and you deserve to be treated with respect.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What are the signs that your spouse may be cheating? Sometimes you know, and sometimes you don&rsquo;t. When infidelity happens in a marriage or other committed relationship, one of the worst parts can be all the lies. Someone you have loved for so long suddenly is keeping secrets, and it hurts. The big question, why is your spouse cheating? First, realize that there are many ways to cheat, and there are many signs of a cheating partner in a relationship. There can be both emotional infidelity and physical infidelity signs. 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