{"id":74875,"date":"2022-02-10T17:30:33","date_gmt":"2022-02-10T17:30:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=74875"},"modified":"2026-04-03T09:36:47","modified_gmt":"2026-04-03T09:36:47","slug":"emotional-neglect-in-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/emotional-neglect-in-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"What is Emotional Neglect in Marriage? Signs &#038; How to Deal"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-71955\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/types-of-conflict-in-relationships.jpg\" alt=\"Fighting Couple at Home\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage is often seen as a partnership filled with love, support, and understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But what happens when those essential <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/emotional-connection-in-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional connections<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> start to fade?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional neglect in a marriage can be subtle, creeping in slowly until it becomes a painful reality that leaves one or both partners feeling unseen and unheard.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not about what&rsquo;s said but rather what isn&rsquo;t&mdash;the missed opportunities to connect, the lack of empathy, and the quiet moments that pass without acknowledgment.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These moments can leave deep scars, making it feel like you&rsquo;re drifting apart even while sharing the same space&hellip;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How do you recognize and address this silent strain before it erodes the bond you once cherished?<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-emotional-neglect-in-a-marriage\"><\/span><b>What is emotional neglect in a marriage?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/mrC7nfoP8DQ?si=AtrqUyvalerabYyZ\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before getting into the detailed definition of emotional neglect in marriage, it is essential first to understand what &lsquo;neglect in marriage&rsquo; means. <\/span><b>Neglect, as a form of abuse, is simply the act of failing to care for someone properly<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While this comes with its fair share of mental and emotional trauma on the part of the recipient, neglect can be passive (when it comes from a place of ignorance or unintentional dissociation from a person) or active (when it is calculated, deliberate, and intentional).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Neglect in marriage occurs when one (or both) parties fail to be there for themselves and their family. It usually leads to an <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/signs-of-an-emotionally-disconnected-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional separation<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or estrangement and can lead to broken homes within record time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>By extension, emotional neglect in marriage occurs when one partner continuously fails to notice, attend to, and respond to their <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/emotional-needs-you-should-not-expect\/\"><b>partner&rsquo;s emotional needs<\/b><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. As a result, the other partner may spend most of their time feeling lost, alone, and (may even feel) worthless in the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"research_highlight\"><p>Research indicates that emotional<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC3876290\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">abuse is more prevalent<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> among younger individuals, with younger men experiencing higher levels that decrease with age. Younger women reported more isolation, while the experience of women of property damage increased with age. Overall, older females reported less emotional abuse compared to older males.<\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the significant downsides of this form of emotional abuse (and other forms of emotional abuse, by extension) is that they can be accompanied by other forms of abuse (like <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/343416714_The_Impact_of_Physical_Abuse_upon_the_Lives_of_Women\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">physical abuse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">), after which the relationship may keep going south.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Life Coach <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/jaclyn-hunt\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Jaclyn Hunt<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> says:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being neglected emotionally can have a profound impact on your well-being. Because it isn&rsquo;t as tangible as physical neglect or abuse, it is often overlooked and questioned.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Can-a-marriage-survive-without-an-emotional-connection\"><\/span><b>Can a marriage survive without an emotional connection?<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hunt further adds that:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes emotional neglect is unintentional because the individual doing the neglecting is unaware of the emotional needs of the partner.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is important to connect with a professional who understands the depth of emotional neglect and how to get both partners on the same page about their emotional needs and requirements to make the marriage succeed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>While a marriage can technically continue without a strong emotional connection, it is unlikely to be a fulfilling, healthy, or sustainable partnership in the long run<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Emotional connection is a fundamental element of a thriving marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s the glue that can bind couples together, promoting intimacy, trust, and a sense of companionship. Without this emotional bond, a marriage can become distant, cold, and filled with feelings of loneliness and dissatisfaction, increasing the likelihood of divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Over time, the absence of emotional connection can lead to increased conflict, decreased communication, and even the eventual breakdown of the marriage<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Therefore, while a marriage might persist without an emotional connection, it is unlikely to be happy or successful.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s essential for couples to actively work on building and maintaining their emotional connection for a fulfilling and enduring partnership.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-are-some-examples-of-emotional-neglect-in-marriage\"><\/span><b>What are some examples of emotional neglect in marriage?&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-85943\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/Shutterstock_1124236436-2.jpg\" alt=\"Unhappy couple ignoring each other\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In relationships, emotional neglect can often go unnoticed, yet its impact can be profound. Recognizing you&rsquo;re experiencing emotional neglect is crucial for promoting healthier, more <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/how-to-connect-emotionally-with-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">connected partnerships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Below are some tangible examples of emotional neglect within a relationship:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Constant disinterest:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Your partner consistently shows little or no interest in your life, experiences, or feelings. They don&rsquo;t ask about your day, concerns, or joys.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Emotional distance during crisis:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> When you&rsquo;re going through a difficult time, your partner withdraws emotionally instead of providing support and understanding. They may act indifferent or dismissive.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Limited physical affection:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Your partner rarely engages in physical affection, such as hugs, kisses, or cuddling. Physical intimacy has become infrequent or nonexistent.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Ignoring special occasions:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Your partner forgets essential dates like birthdays or anniversaries, or they don&rsquo;t make an effort to celebrate them together.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Silent treatment:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> During conflicts or arguments, your partner frequently gives you the silent treatment or stonewalls you, refusing to engage in productive communication.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Minimizing your feelings:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Your partner often downplays or dismisses your emotions, telling you your feelings are invalid or that you&rsquo;re overreacting.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Neglecting quality time:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Your partner prioritizes other activities over spending quality time with you, leaving you feeling alone and unimportant.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Lack of compliments or appreciation:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Your partner rarely compliments you or expresses gratitude for your contributions to the relationship or household.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Avoiding meaningful conversations:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Your partner avoids discussing important topics or issues in the relationship, preventing the growth of emotional intimacy.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Frequent criticism:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You regularly receive criticism or blame from your partner without constructive feedback or support.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These are a few specific examples of behaviors and situations that can indicate emotional neglect in a marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re experiencing emotional neglect, it&rsquo;s essential to address these issues with your partner and seek support or counseling to work through them and rebuild the emotional connection in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/types-of-abuse-in-a-relationship\/\" title=\"8 Different Types of Abuse in a Relationship\">8 Different Types of Abuse in a Relationship<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"27-signs-of-emotional-neglect-in-marriage\"><\/span><b>27 signs of emotional neglect in marriage&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In a healthy marriage, emotional connection and support are vital components that contribute to the well-being and longevity of the relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, emotional neglect seeps into a marriage and can gradually erode the bond between partners, leading to feelings of loneliness, dissatisfaction, and frustration.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Recognizing the signs of emotional neglect is crucial for addressing this issue and encouraging a more fulfilling partnership. Here are 27 common signs of emotional neglect in marriage:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Your feelings and thoughts are neither heard nor respected<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You find yourself gradually fading into the background of your marriage, with your innermost feelings and opinions seemingly held in disregard by your spouse. It may be a sign that you are grappling with the profound effects of emotional neglect within your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Emotional neglect often stems from a lack of active listening and empathy in the relationship. Over time, one partner may become disengaged, leading to the other feeling disregarded and invisible.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. You feel a persistent sense of isolation<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the potential symptoms of emotional neglect in a marriage is the persistent <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/bmcpublichealth.biomedcentral.com\/articles\/10.1186\/s12889-023-15967-3\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">feeling of solitude<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Do you ever experience an extreme sense of aloneness even when your partner is physically present? This sensation can serve as a reminder that something crucial may be amiss.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Emotional neglect creates a gap in connection, leaving one partner feeling emotionally unsupported. Even when physically together, the absence of emotional engagement can encourage deep loneliness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/are-you-feeling-alone-in-a-relationship\/\" title=\"17 Signs of Loneliness in a Relationship and How to Deal\">17 Signs of Loneliness in a Relationship and How to Deal<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. You increasingly seek support from external sources<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While marriage typically entails the assurance of unwavering love and support from your partner, if you find yourself increasingly seeking solace and counsel from unfamiliar faces rather than <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/steps-to-becoming-a-supportive-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">turning to your spouse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, it could be a sign that emotional neglect has cast its shadow over your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> When emotional needs aren&rsquo;t met within the marriage, seeking validation and comfort from others becomes a natural, though concerning, response to fill the emotional void.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-89241\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/666304387-1.jpg\" alt=\"young couple angry with each other\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Your spouse appears more inclined to support others than you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Observe how your spouse manages the delicate balance between supporting you and extending assistance to others. If their tendency leans noticeably toward prioritizing the needs of others over yours, it may well signify a form of emotional neglect that deserves closer scrutiny.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> This can occur when a spouse becomes more emotionally invested in others, perhaps due to a breakdown in communication or unresolved issues within the marriage, leading to emotional neglect.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Your spouse prioritizes friends and family over you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While your spouse may wholeheartedly devote themselves to the well-being of friends and family, it can become a troubling sign when this same <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/tips-to-maintain-commitment-in-your-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">level of commitment<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is not extended to you. This disparity may serve as an indicator of emotional negligence within the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> When emotional connections weaken within the marriage, a spouse might subconsciously divert their attention and care to others, creating an imbalance in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Lack of physical intimacy<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While seemingly unrelated, a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/how-a-lack-of-physical-intimacy-can-hurt-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">lack of physical intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can be a reflection of emotional disconnection.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"research_highlight\"><p><\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What does this imply? This underscores the notion that the absence of physical intimacy may be a sign of deeper emotional and physical neglect within the confines of a marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Physical intimacy often mirrors the emotional state of a relationship. When emotional neglect sets in, physical connection may diminish as well, reflecting the overall disconnection.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Absence of empathy during challenging times<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">During difficult moments, partners should be able to lean on each other for empathy and meaningful support. The absence of this crucial emotional connection within your marriage could serve as a signal that something vital is amiss.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Emotional neglect can cause a spouse to emotionally distance themselves, leading to a lack of empathy and support during tough times, which can further strain the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Frequent interruptions and their deeper implications<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although it may appear trivial, consistent interruptions within your conversations carry significant weight. Interruptions may signify a lack of genuine attention, a belief that their words outweigh yours, or even a subtle message that you&rsquo;re viewed as a nuisance.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If this pattern persists in your relationship, it may indicate a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/repairing-emotional-intimacy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">deficiency in emotional intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Consistent interruptions can indicate a lack of respect or interest in what the other person has to say, signaling emotional disengagement and neglect.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Dysfunctional communication<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Effective communication serves as the bedrock of a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/keys-to-long-lasting-relationship-success\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">successful relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. When communication begins to falter within your marriage, it may be a direct consequence of your spouse&rsquo;s diminishing emotional availability. This can lead to misunderstandings, distance, and a gradual erosion of the connection you once cherished.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Poor communication is often both a cause and symptom of emotional neglect, leading to misunderstandings, frustration, and emotional distance in the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. You are last to know the details about your spouse&rsquo;s life<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Discovering that you&rsquo;re consistently one of the last individuals to receive vital updates about your spouse&rsquo;s life, whether they involve significant changes such as career shifts or financial decisions, can raise concerns of emotional neglect within the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> When a spouse emotionally withdraws, they may also withhold important information, either intentionally or unconsciously, deepening the sense of neglect.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-89240\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/1936950202-1.jpg\" alt=\"cheating young couple setting on sofa\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>11. You&rsquo;re entirely left in the dark<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In more extreme cases, you may not even be privy to these life-altering changes until it&rsquo;s too late or until you hear about them from others. This lack of transparency can be a stark indicator of emotional neglect, especially involving significant financial matters.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, they may take a loan, and you wouldn&rsquo;t hear a word of it from them until the debt collectors come for your assets.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Complete emotional withdrawal can lead to significant decisions or life changes being kept secret, further isolating the neglected partner and damaging trust.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>12. You simply feel unappreciated&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A classic sign of emotional neglect within marriage is the pervasive feeling of being unappreciated. When you begin to sense that your tireless efforts are met with indifference from your spouse, it&rsquo;s an unmistakable red flag.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does it feel like you are putting in so much effort, and your spouse just turns a blind eye to them all? That could be a sign right there.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Emotional neglect often involves a lack of recognition and appreciation for one partner&rsquo;s efforts, leading to feelings of being taken for granted.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/feeling-unappreciated-in-a-relationship\/\" title=\"13 Ways to Combat Feeling Unappreciated in a Relationship\">13 Ways to Combat Feeling Unappreciated in a Relationship<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>14. Or, you may be arguing much more than normal<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Conversely, if you find yourselves locked in frequent, intense conflicts over even minor issues that could have previously been resolved through calm dialogue, it may be an indication of deep-seated emotional neglect.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Increased arguments can be a response to the frustration and unmet needs stemming from emotional neglect, where underlying issues remain unresolved.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>15. Your spouse does all they can to stay away from you<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your spouse&rsquo;s actions may manifest as working longer hours, taking solo trips, or even the simple act of sleeping in separate beds, a departure from your previous norm. Such changes can signal a growing emotional rift within the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Avoidance behaviors, such as spending more time away from home, can be a sign of emotional withdrawal and a desire to escape the discomfort within the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>16. You are becoming more independent than usual<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may discover a growing sense of emotional self-sufficiency, born out of the frustration that seeking support or understanding from your spouse often leaves you feeling more emotionally depleted. This <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-being-too-independent-can-destroy-your-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">independence is a response<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to emotional neglect within the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> When emotional support is lacking, one partner may adapt by becoming more self-reliant, distancing themselves further from the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/critical-spouse-signs\/\" title=\"17 Telltale Signs of a Critical Spouse and Ways to Deal\">17 Telltale Signs of a Critical Spouse and Ways to Deal<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>17. Secrets become your companions<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While you once embraced complete honesty with your spouse, the accumulation of secrets can indicate a significant shift. Feeling neglected may lead you to withhold information or experiences from your spouse, opting to keep them to yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Emotional neglect can lead to a breakdown in trust and openness, causing partners to withhold information as a form of self-protection.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>18. Excessive criticism becomes the norm<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another telltale sign of emotional neglect is an uptick in your spouse&rsquo;s critical behavior. Nothing you do seems to satisfy them, and they may appear to be on an endless mission to highlight your perceived faults.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A constant barrage of criticism can erode your self-esteem and create a toxic atmosphere in your relationship, making it challenging to maintain a sense of emotional connection and intimacy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> A critical attitude can arise from frustration and dissatisfaction in the marriage, often fueled by unmet emotional needs and growing resentment.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/critical-spouse-signs\/\" title=\"17 Telltale Signs of a Critical Spouse and Ways to Deal\">17 Telltale Signs of a Critical Spouse and Ways to Deal<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>19. The silent treatment sets in<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional neglect can take both passive and active forms. The silent treatment, in particular, can be a clear indication of emotional neglect within the marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your spouse&rsquo;s withdrawal from communication can be deafening. This painful silence can lead to feelings of isolation as you yearn for connection but find yourself met with an impenetrable emotional wall.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> The silent treatment is a passive form of emotional neglect used to create distance and avoid dealing with underlying issues in the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/silent-treatment-in-marriage\/\" title=\"How to Deal With Silent Treatment in Marriage\">How to Deal With Silent Treatment in Marriage<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>20. Your partner begins to slack in taking care of themself&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional neglect doesn&rsquo;t solely affect the neglected party; it also takes its toll on the neglecting spouse. Over time, the underlying <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">tension in the marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> may manifest as a decline in your spouse&rsquo;s self-care habits. This can include increased stress, diminished emotional well-being, and even physical health issues.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Emotional neglect can lead to a decline in self-care, as stress and emotional strain take a toll on one&rsquo;s overall well-being.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-89239\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/1361068406-2-1.jpg\" alt=\"unhappy young girl unhappy with their partner\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>21. You begin to withdraw&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> within the relationship wanes, your instinctive response may be to withdraw. This withdrawal extends not only from your spouse but also from the relationship itself and everything that serves as a painful reminder of the emotional neglect.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Withdrawal is a common response to emotional neglect, where one partner retreats emotionally to protect themselves from further hurt.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]\">If you feel yourself pulling away and wonder whether it&rsquo;s still possible to find your way back, the <a class=\"underline underline underline-offset-2 decoration-1 decoration-current\/40 hover:decoration-current focus:decoration-current\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/marriage-courses\/save-my-marriage-course\">save my marriage course<\/a> can help you reconnect, even when the distance feels overwhelming.<\/p>\n<h3><b>22. The fading of affection<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With dwindling emotional intimacy, affection may dwindle in tandem. You may find it increasingly challenging to muster feelings of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/affection-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">affection for your spouse<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, particularly after enduring prolonged emotional neglect.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> As emotional connection diminishes, affectionate behaviors often follow, reflecting the growing distance between partners.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>23. Awkward conversations reveal the gap<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you do attempt to engage in conversation, it often results in awkward pauses, an abundance of &ldquo;uhms,&rdquo; and uncomfortable silences. These moments reflect the growing chasm between you and your spouse over time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Awkwardness in conversations can signify the erosion of comfort and intimacy in the marriage, often a result of prolonged emotional neglect.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>24. You are suddenly walking on eggshells around each other&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The little things you used to be carefree about (like walking around the house in your underwear or stealing a cookie from your spouse&rsquo;s plate during dinner) become unappealing.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then again, your spouse always seems to be cranky these days, so you aren&rsquo;t exactly sure what would set them off. You would rather<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/walking-on-eggshells-in-a-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">hold your breath<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> around them than be at the receiving end of their anger.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Emotional neglect can create an environment of tension and uncertainty, where both partners feel insecure and cautious in their interactions.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>25. You are beginning to consider divorce or seeking professional help&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Reaching this stage typically marks the culmination of emotional neglect within a marriage. Beyond this is what is usually considered the breaking point, the point at which one person would make the decision to call it quits or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/what-is-a-mental-health-counselor\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">seek professional help<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> When emotional neglect reaches a critical point, the idea of ending the marriage or seeking help becomes a potential solution to escape the pain.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>26. Loss of shared interests and activities<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As emotional neglect seeps into your marriage, you might notice a gradual erosion of shared interests and activities that once bound you together. This divergence can be a symptom of emotional disconnection.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> As emotional neglect grows, couples may drift apart, losing interest in activities they once enjoyed together, further deepening the disconnect.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>27. Escapism and distractions become the norm<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When one or both partners turn to excessive escapism or distractions like overworking, excessive use of technology, or substance abuse to avoid confronting emotional neglect within the marriage, it&rsquo;s a clear sign that the relationship needs attention.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have gotten to this point, you may want to take the next section of this article more seriously.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Why this happens:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Turning to distractions is a common way to cope with the pain of emotional neglect, avoiding the uncomfortable reality of the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-does-emotional-neglect-affect-marriage\"><\/span><b>How does emotional neglect affect marriage?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hunt states that<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional needs are just as important as any other need. By clearly defining your emotional needs, you will understand who you are and how to best connect with a potential partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional neglect can have profound and detrimental effects on a marriage. It occurs when one or both partners fail to provide emotional support, attention, and validation to each other. This can lead to feelings of isolation, resentment, and dissatisfaction within the relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you ask questions like &ldquo;Is emotional neglect in a marriage abuse?&rdquo; or &ldquo;Is neglect a form of abuse in marriage?&rdquo; you should know that emotional neglect in marriage can be a form of emotional abuse.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>It can erode the neglected spouse&rsquo;s emotional well-being and harm the connection between partners<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. When one partner feels neglected emotionally and sexually, it can break intimacy, communication, and trust, ultimately straining the marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Addressing emotional neglect is crucial for a healthy and thriving marriage, as it requires open communication, empathy, and a willingness to make positive changes to meet each other&rsquo;s emotional needs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/feeling-neglected-in-a-relationship\/\" title=\"5 Signs of Feeling Neglected in a Relationship\">5 Signs of Feeling Neglected in a Relationship<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-ways-to-heal-from-emotional-neglect-in-marriage\"><\/span><b>5 ways to heal from emotional neglect in marriage<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Healing from emotional neglect in a marriage can be a challenging process, but it is possible with patience, communication, and sometimes professional help.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are 5 pointers to help you sort through your mind and define the most constructive direction you should move in once you have confirmed that you are dealing with emotional neglect in marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Take a while to process your feelings<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first step is recognizing that emotional neglect is happening in your marriage. Both partners need to acknowledge the problem and be willing to work on it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is okay to feel hurt and angry with your partner. If you don&rsquo;t process these feelings, you may end up making the wrong decisions.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Try to communicate<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Effective communication is crucial. This may be a bit difficult considering the communication lapses you may have noticed in your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, it is essential that you open up to your partner about how their actions have been affecting you negatively.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/effective-relationship-communication-skills\/\" title=\"10 Effective Communication Skills in Relationships\">10 Effective Communication Skills in Relationships<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. If they are open to communication, suggest best practices<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is not enough to tell your spouse what you think they are doing wrong. Tell them what they must do to make things right. This is where spelled-out action plans come into play.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then again, encourage them to tell you what you must do to make the marriage great again. This way, they don&rsquo;t feel like you are trying to make them fit a construct they don&rsquo;t want to fit into.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/open-communication-in-marriage\/\" title=\"12 Key Tips to Promote Open Communication in a Relationship\">12 Key Tips to Promote Open Communication in a Relationship<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Consider therapy&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Under these conditions, therapy may work wonders. Alongside your spouse, you may want to map out time to consult with a professional to help you sort through your feelings and make sense of what&rsquo;s happening in your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]\">If you&rsquo;re not ready for in-person therapy yet, or want something you can start right now, the <a class=\"underline underline underline-offset-2 decoration-1 decoration-current\/40 hover:decoration-current focus:decoration-current\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/marriage-courses\/save-my-marriage-course\">save my marriage online course<\/a> offers guided steps to help you and your partner begin healing together.<\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch Susan L. Adler, an award-winning experienced psychotherapist, sharing the top secrets of couples counselors:<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/TUMmLkFKpEI?si=QEMW8NyrKfDLyGr2\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Patience and persistence<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Healing from emotional neglect takes time, and progress may be slow. Be patient with yourself and your partner as you work through the issues. It&rsquo;s essential to stay committed to the process.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understand that setbacks may occur, but using these as opportunities for growth and learning can strengthen your resolve to rebuild emotional connection and create a more fulfilling marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Can-emotional-neglect-be-grounds-for-divorce\"><\/span><b>Can emotional neglect be grounds for divorce?&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional neglect can be a valid reason for <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4012696\/#:~:text=International%20studies%20have%20found%20highly,Al%20Gharaibeh%20%26%20Bromfield%2C%202012%3B\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">pursuing a divorce<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. It can lead to significant emotional distress and unhappiness and can be detrimental to one&rsquo;s overall well-being.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In many cases, it can also impact the quality of the relationship and the emotional health of any children involved.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Although divorces in America are <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.hg.org\/divorce-grounds.html\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><b>generally classified<\/b><\/a><b> under no-fault and fault-based divorce scenarios, the final decision to call it quits and focus on repairing your life or holding onto the reins of this marriage to an emotionally unavailable partner is entirely up to you<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, before making a final decision, take some time to consider every factor in play, like the well-being of your children, the extent of trauma\/abuse you have endured, and any other factor you feel is essential.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Don%E2%80%99t-ignore-neglect-and-work-on-your-marriage\"><\/span><b>Don&rsquo;t ignore neglect and work on your marriage<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotional neglect in marriage, if left unattended, can lead to breakdown and divorce. Consider the signs we discussed here if you feel you are currently going through this in your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have concerns like &ldquo;My husband neglects me emotionally and sexually&rdquo; or &ldquo;My wife neglects me emotionally and sexually,&rdquo; counseling and professional guidance from qualified therapists and self-care strategies may help you let go of the pain and move on with your life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To get started with therapy, click here to<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">find expert therapists near you<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Marriage is often seen as a partnership filled with love, support, and understanding. But what happens when those essential emotional connections start to fade?&nbsp; Emotional neglect in a marriage can be subtle, creeping in slowly until it becomes a painful reality that leaves one or both partners feeling unseen and unheard.&nbsp; It&rsquo;s not about what&rsquo;s said but rather what isn&rsquo;t&mdash;the missed opportunities to connect, the lack of empathy, and the quiet moments that pass without acknowledgment.&nbsp; These moments can leave deep scars, making it feel like you&rsquo;re drifting apart even while sharing the same space&hellip;&nbsp; How do you recognize and <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":630,"featured_media":71955,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[24],"tags":[2532],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/74875"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/630"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=74875"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/74875\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":119351,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/74875\/revisions\/119351"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/71955"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=74875"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=74875"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=74875"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}