{"id":74674,"date":"2022-02-07T10:27:06","date_gmt":"2022-02-07T10:27:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=74674"},"modified":"2024-02-20T15:39:17","modified_gmt":"2024-02-20T15:39:17","slug":"signs-you-are-a-dominating-wife","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/signs-you-are-a-dominating-wife\/","title":{"rendered":"25 Signs You Are a Dominant Wife"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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A dominant wife may need to take control of every situation. Her goal is to keep things in order and make sure everything is handled in the best possible way. <\/span><\/p>\n

She doesn’t believe she’s being unreasonable but standing for what’s right and making sure her spouse or partner follows suit. Sometimes she doesn’t realize her manipulation or attempts to have things her way.<\/span><\/p>\n

Still, the tools used to control the spouse’s behavior are manipulative to the point they dominate a mate’s behavior.  Furthermore, there is a part of the spouse that almost believes this domination is warranted. This kind of dominance in <\/span>marriage is unhealthy<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>What it means to be a dominating wife<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

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A domineering wife has little <\/span>respect for the spouse<\/span><\/a>. She will approach her partner with aggression and criticize them mercilessly, whether it be on social media, at work events, or in front of family and friends. <\/span><\/p>\n

Showing that kind of blatant disregard is almost like saying your husband falls somewhere beneath you. It’s a toxic situation.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>How to know if you are a dominating wife<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

When you interrupt your husband who might be involved in something else, whether it be a conversation with someone, watching a program they were looking forward to, or working on something that needs taking care of because you want their time and attention right then for something else that’s domineering.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can tell you’re dominating when you choose to yell and throw a fit over minor things instead of attempting to handle them reasonably. Some additional signs are discussed further below.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>25 signs you are a dominating wife<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

Controlling wife<\/span><\/a> behaviors is related to a power imbalance in the marriage. The dominant wife causes intimidation for her spouse as well as insecurity and guilt. <\/span><\/p>\n

A spouse can experience these emotions through physical, psychological, sexual, financial control—some signs of a dominating wife. Read more below:<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Isolates spouse from others<\/b><\/h3>\n

The dominant wife will begin gradually and subtly but complaining about time spent with friends and family is a first step in a wife-<\/span>dominated marriage. <\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

The idea is that you no longer have a support system to turn to when things are rough at home, making it harder for them to stand up against you.<\/span><\/p>\n

According to Dr. Jennifer Jacobsen<\/a>, PhD in Psychology,<\/span><\/p>\n

Separating a significant other from friends and family members is a red flag for an abusive relationship.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

2. Criticizes and complains, no matter how small<\/b><\/h3>\n

These issues can start over minor issues but begin to include everything from the way your spouse dresses, how they handle chores, to their manner of eating. <\/span><\/p>\n

After a while, it’s impossible to find yourself valued in the partnership or loved without condition when you’re being criticized over all your daily habits.<\/span><\/p>\n

Related Reading:<\/b> 7 Ways on How You Should Complain in a Relationship?<\/span><\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n
3. Threatens<\/b><\/h3>\n
Threats made by a dominant wife don’t have to be physical against you. They can be insinuated threats against themselves, the idea that they’ll leave, that privileges will be stopped, or other <\/span>manipulative tactics<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n
In some cases, a wife dominating a husband will go so far as to use the kids against him.<\/span><\/p>\n
4. Loves conditionally<\/b><\/h3>\n
You get to hear conditions.<\/p>\n
“If you go on a diet and lose that extra weight, I’ll find you that much more attractive.” “<\/span>If you get the promotion at work, we’ll get along so much better.” <\/span><\/p>\n
5. Keeps tally<\/b><\/h3>\n
Each time you do a favor for the other person, it’s supposed to be something appreciated, and it’s known that ultimately they’ll do something for you when you need it. <\/span><\/p>\n
Unfortunately, a dominant wife doesn’t leave it to chance. She keeps a tally of how often she does something for her spouse and lets them know quite often.<\/span><\/p>\n
6. Manipulates<\/b><\/h3>\n
Characteristics of a dominant wife include shrewd manipulations capable of making their partner feel guilt about day-to-day happenings. <\/span><\/p>\n
Spouses don’t like the idea of<\/span> feeling guilty<\/span><\/a> and will do what they need to, including letting go of their personal opinion and relenting to the <\/span>control<\/span><\/a> of the dominant wife.<\/span><\/p>\n
7. Is extravagant<\/b><\/h3>\n
In the beginning, when you start dating, you might be lavished with expensive gifts, driving a luxury car, staying at her nice place, and having her take you to extravagant meals, and outings. <\/span><\/p>\n
It makes it more difficult for you to walk away from the <\/span>controlling person<\/span><\/a> if warning signs begin to pop up.<\/span><\/p>\n
Dr Jacobsen states, <\/span><\/p>\n
This is another red flag for abusive behavior. An abusive person will shower you with attention and gifts in the beginning, so when they show their true colors, you’ll feel confused and remain in the relationship.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
8. Spies on the spouse<\/b><\/h3>\n
Whether snooping behind your backing or demanding to be privy to private information, they feel they deserve full disclosure despite that being a violation of personal boundaries. <\/span><\/p>\n
They might go into your email, check your phone, or track your internet history consistently. There should be a level of trust, but there isn’t. This steps over the line.<\/span><\/p>\n
Related Reading:<\/b> Spying On Your Mate: Is The Risk Worth It<\/span><\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n
9. Is possessive<\/b><\/h3>\n
Jealousy in the start is often viewed as cute and endearing, a sign of how much someone has become attached. When it grows intense, it becomes possessive and can be scary. <\/span><\/p>\n
A mate who looks at every interaction you encounter as flirting, finds suspicion with or feels threatened by many people you meet, or blames you for leading people on could be an anxious, insecure, and paranoid person, not to mention controlling.<\/span><\/p>\n
Related Reading: <\/b>15 Ways on How to Stop Being Possessive<\/span><\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n
 10. Does not give personal space<\/b><\/h3>\n
All couples need time apart to enjoy personal interests, alone time, <\/span>personal space<\/span><\/a>. Dominant wife rules don’t allow this time; they don’t respect alone time for their spouse, and instead make them feel guilty for even requesting such a thing. <\/span><\/p>\n
Just because a dominant wife might not need the time on her own, it’s good for some people to recharge and rejuvenate. It’s wise to discuss the topic with someone less controlling to talk with.<\/span><\/p>\n
11. Has trust issues<\/b><\/h3>\n
The idea of having to earn trust after being with someone for a significant period seems like a personal issue more than an issue with the spouse. <\/span><\/p>\n
With a dominant wife, the spouse will be questioned if he is a little late coming home from work or if he stops at the store on the way home. He shouldn’t have to speak about his whereabouts every second of every day.<\/span><\/p>\n
Related Reading:<\/b> 15 Ways on How to Build Trust in a Relationship<\/span><\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n
12. Makes the spouse feel guilty<\/b><\/h3>\n
A<\/span> wife controls marriage<\/span><\/a> and can manipulate each situation if she’s dominant, so you believe you’re guilty before you even know what happened. Typically, you’ll come into an angry demeanor regarding something they decided while you were away. <\/span><\/p>\n
The assumption is it was criminal. It’s their way to keep you in line, so you don’t do it again.<\/span><\/p>\n
13. Makes the spouse tired of arguments<\/b><\/h3>\n
While some dominant wife marriages like to fly in under the radar, others embrace arguments and openly and boisterously join in conflict with their partners often. <\/span><\/p>\n
It’s especially true when a mate is especially passive. The dominant wife has a greater likelihood of coming out on top in each disagreement in many cases because the controlling partner is exhausted from all the arguments. <\/span><\/p>\n
Watch this video for more perspective on <\/span>dealing with a controlling partner<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n