{"id":74631,"date":"2022-02-07T05:38:52","date_gmt":"2022-02-07T05:38:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=74631"},"modified":"2025-11-24T07:16:44","modified_gmt":"2025-11-24T07:16:44","slug":"getting-closure-with-narcissist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/getting-closure-with-narcissist\/","title":{"rendered":"13 Ways to Get Closure With a Narcissist and Move On"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-74635 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/New-Project-2022-02-07T105948.952.jpg\" alt=\"Girl taking selfie\" width=\"805\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are you trying to leave a narcissist? Brace yourself, as getting closure with a narcissist might be one of the most difficult things you&rsquo;ve ever done. Not because they love you and can&rsquo;t live without you but because they need you to be their source of narcissistic supply.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>A narcissist won&rsquo;t let you leave as long as you meet their needs.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> However, when the narcissist discards you, it&rsquo;s usually when they find a new source to fuel their ego. Then, the narcissist might ghost you one day without giving you an explanation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/grady-shumway\">Grady Shumway<\/a>, LMHC, says<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Leaving a narcissist requires setting firm boundaries and prioritizing your emotional well-being. Understand that seeking closure from them is often futile, as their manipulation thrives on keeping you entangled.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&rsquo;s why ending things successfully with a narcissist is almost impossible. So, let&rsquo;s check if getting closure from a narcissist is possible and ways to do so even without their help.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-a-narcissistic-personality-and-its-signs\"><\/span><b>What is a narcissistic personality and its signs?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><b>A person with an inflated idea of self-importance, an unquenchable desire to be the center of attention, and who lacks empathy for others<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is someone with a narcissistic personality. It&rsquo;s a personality disorder that makes them think the world revolves around them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><div class=\"research_highlight\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC3119754\/#:~:text=Results%20bring%20us%20to%20three,make%20positive%20first%20impressions%20that\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> across various contexts (new acquaintances, over time, and among coworkers) suggests narcissists are somewhat aware of their reputation, understanding others may see them less favorably than they see themselves, recognizing their initial positive impressions decline over time, and acknowledging traits like arrogance in their self-descriptions.<\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While narcissistic personality disorder may stem from unknown reasons, it&rsquo;s possible to know the signs and characteristics of a person with a narcissistic personality so that you can identify them. <\/span><b>The telltale sign you&rsquo;re dealing with a narcissist is they make everything about themselves.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They keep talking about how important they are, how lucky you should feel being with them, and how they are never wrong. They can&rsquo;t love anybody other than themselves and fear commitment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They&rsquo;d do anything to seduce you and make you fall for them in the initial days and may slowly start acting cold and distant once they lose interest in you. They may gaslight you and play the victim whenever things don&rsquo;t go their way.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/tips-for-breaking-up-with-a-narcissist\/\" title=\"Breaking Up With a Narcissist: Tips &#038; What to Expect\">Breaking Up With a Narcissist: Tips &#038; What to Expect<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Is-it-possible-to-get-closure-with-a-narcissist\"><\/span><b>Is it possible to get closure with a narcissist?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/mK_hVql7G7Q?si=gRPe1RhCeMe7T4gZ\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<div class=\"subscribeYT_highlight\"><div class=\"subscribe_channel\">\r\n            <div class=\"subscribe_text\">Join millions <span class=\"sub_text1\">building healthier, happier<\/span> <span class=\"sub_text2\"> relationships.<\/span><\/div>\r\n            <a class=\"subscribe-btn-in-content\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@Marriagedotcom?sub_confirmation=1\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/youtube_icon_small.png\" class=\"icon-left\" alt=\"YouTube\">\r\n            <span>Subscribe<\/span>\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/bell_icon_new.svg\" class=\"icon-right\" alt=\"Extra Icon\">\r\n            <\/a>\r\n        <\/div><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The answer is NO. Now, you may ask why narcissists don&rsquo;t give closure. It&rsquo;s because <\/span><b>while you&rsquo;re losing the person you loved and cared about, the narcissist is only losing their source of narcissistic supply<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a narcissist leaves you, they don&rsquo;t feel any regrets as they don&rsquo;t admit that they can be wrong. That&rsquo;s why getting closure with a narcissist is nearly impossible since they may never accept the responsibility for their role in the breakup.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>They always have a different narrative of the relationship than you, where they twist the facts and play the victim<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. So, are you wondering, &ldquo;Do narcissists need closure?&rdquo; Well, you won&rsquo;t see a narcissist looking for closure as they weren&rsquo;t emotionally connected to you the way you were to them.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even if they agree to have a conversation with you and answer your question about why they treated you that way or left you, chances are their reasons will be trivial and vague.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They may not make sense to you and make you wonder if the narcissist ever had any feelings for you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-get-closure-with-a-narcissist-13-ways\"><\/span><b>How to get closure with a narcissist: 13 ways<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-74634\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/New-Project-2022-02-07T110032.797.jpg\" alt=\"Angry couple having fight\" width=\"805\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are trying to figure out ways of overcoming a narcissistic person and his impact on you, you need to take some necessary steps. These steps can help you combat the doubt, insecurity, and pain that accompany waiting for closure.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The road toward closure can be challenging and confusing, so here are 13 ways to get closure with a narcissist and move on with your life:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Accept that they won&rsquo;t give you closure<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It might not be what you want to hear right now, but it is the truth. <\/span><b>Even if you reach out to the narcissist and try to have one last conversation<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> so that you can make sense of what happened, <\/span><b>chances are they won&rsquo;t provide it to you<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The sooner you accept that, the sooner you can work on finding closure on your own.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Grady Shumway further adds<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Finding closure on your own is an empowering step toward healing. Focus on processing your emotions and reclaiming your sense of self rather than waiting for validation from the narcissist.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3><b>2. Create closure within yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As the narcissist won&rsquo;t give you closure, you need to create it within yourself to move on. Otherwise, you may keep expecting the narcissist to come back (which they often do if they have no other source of attention). You might even take them back again.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Ask yourself what you really need from them and find ways to get them yourself.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You can write a closure letter to a narcissist to lay your feelings out, and it can help you release negative energy from your mind to get closure.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/how-does-a-narcissist-react-to-being-blocked\/\" title=\"How Does a Narcissist React to Being Blocked: 12 Ways of Conduct\">How Does a Narcissist React to Being Blocked: 12 Ways of Conduct<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>3. Cut off all contact&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before finally breaking up with a narcissist, you might have gone through a few times when they&rsquo;ve asked for one last chance, promised to change, and get help. <\/span><b>Narcissists can be master manipulators, and you might have taken them back as their apology seemed sincere<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><div class=\"research_highlight\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC7427600\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Studies<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> indicate that narcissists, being more overconfident, are less likely to learn from their failures compared to non-narcissists. This trend was observed in entrepreneurs, where narcissists showed less learning from failure. Contributing factors include lower propensity for cognitive reflection, increased defensiveness, and their tendency to consider negative feedback as less revealing.<\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&rsquo;s why meeting a narcissist to get closure is a bad idea because they may use that as a chance to get you back. Block their phone number and stop texting, calling, or interacting with them on social media is one way to learn how to get over a narcissist.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Stop all sorts of communication with them to get closure with a narcissist<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. However, having no contact with a narcissist may be tricky as they might show up at your house or work unannounced once you block them everywhere.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remove yourself from the situation and walk away instead of engaging with them in any way.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Get rid of everything that reminds you of them<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can&rsquo;t get closure with a narcissist if everything around you keeps reminding you of them. You need to detach yourself from them. That may mean deleting all the texts, throwing away the gifts, deleting the photos and videos you took together, or moving to a new place if possible.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Moving past a narcissist isn&rsquo;t easy, but you need to do everything in your power to help yourself stop obsessing over them<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Don&rsquo;t stalk them, not on social media, not in real life.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Take time to grieve<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A relationship with a narcissist isn&rsquo;t all bad. They use love bombing during your relationship&rsquo;s initial days, which is one of the most used narcissist manipulation techniques. Their thoughtful gestures and attention might make you feel like the most important person in the world.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><div class=\"research_highlight\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/346746604_Breakup_Grief_-_The_Difference_between_Initiator_and_Non-Initiator_Depending_on_Coping_Strategies_and_Attachment\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> shows that levels of grief after a breakup differ based on who initiates the breakup, individual personality, and level of involvement.<\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, ending things with them may feel like the death of a loved one. <\/span><b>You need to mourn the loss to move on and find closure truly.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Let yourself experience all the emotions. Don&rsquo;t try to skip any of the five stages (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) of grief.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Stop ruminating&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s natural for our minds to contemplate things we can&rsquo;t fully fathom. If a narcissist suddenly ghosts you, you may keep replaying the past over and over again in your head to understand what went wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To get closure with a narcissist, you need to shift your thoughts every time you start obsessing over the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Distract yourself whenever you find yourself ruminating again<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. You may call a friend or family, watch your favorite TV show, or hit the gym to take your mind off the breakup.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Shift your focus to yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being in a relationship with a narcissist means giving all your attention to them. They might have made you feel guilty for having friends or hobbies as they needed your undivided attention. You may also experience anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem if you&rsquo;ve been gaslighted frequently.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><div class=\"research_highlight\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/12412153\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> has revealed too much focus on others can lead to mental exhaustion and burnout in the long run. Instead, focusing on yourself can enhance energy levels and satisfaction.<\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To get closure with a narcissist, now you need to focus only on yourself and prioritize your well-being. Focus only on healing, building <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/steps-to-practice-self-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">self-love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and growing self-esteem.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Take responsibility for your part<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-74633\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/New-Project-2022-02-07T110107.798.jpg\" alt=\"Couple having fight\" width=\"805\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While your narcissistic ex is responsible for playing games and manipulating you to fall in love with them, you can&rsquo;t deny your responsibility for getting into a relationship with them. Attraction to a narcissist can stem from unresolved childhood trauma.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To get closure with a narcissist, <\/span><b>you need to stop being angry and blame them for everything<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. That&rsquo;ll only keep you stuck. Make sure to take steps to heal from childhood trauma unless you want to fall for another narcissist in the future.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Let your friends and family help<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your narcissistic ex might have isolated you from your friends and family as they want you all to themselves. How else would they have complete control over you and make you codependent? They don&rsquo;t want you to spend time with anybody other than them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><div class=\"research_highlight\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.frontiersin.org\/journals\/psychology\/articles\/10.3389\/fpsyg.2020.570839\/full\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> shows that friends enrich the lives of individuals and can play a significant role in managing stress and mental health crises of all kinds.<\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If that happened to you and you&rsquo;ve lost touch with your support system because of the narcissist, now is the time to reconnect.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>You&rsquo;ll need to have close people around to vent, get advice, and get your life back again<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Please don&rsquo;t feel embarrassed to reach out to them and ask for help.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Learn about NPD<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Getting closure with a narcissist is necessary to make sense of what has happened so that you can avoid repeating the same mistakes and relationship patterns the next time. Educate yourself on NPD (Narcissistic personality disorder) by reading books and articles.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Learning about NPD will help you understand why your ex has acted the way they did<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. You&rsquo;ll be able to spot the signs next time you meet someone with NPD and steer clear of another narcissistic <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/how-to-fix-an-abusive-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">abusive relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>11. Seek professional help<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may feel lost, confused, and guilty after the rather abrupt ending and no closure from a narcissist. <\/span><b>A professional therapist can help you find closure by validating your experience<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> while guiding you on how to spot a narcissist and stay away from them in the future.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The expert can also help you deal with the damage that being in a relationship with a narcissist may have given you and address your reasons for being in an unhealthy relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/how-to-know-a-narcissist-is-finished-with-you\/\" title=\"30 Telling Signs a Narcissist Is Done With You\">30 Telling Signs a Narcissist Is Done With You<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h3><b>12. Be patient with yourself&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Finding closure when it wasn&rsquo;t given to you can be emotionally draining. It&rsquo;s not a binary process and will take time. <\/span><b>Make sure not to beat yourself up for not getting closure right away<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Permit yourself to let your feelings flow and take it one day at a time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this video by Doctor Ramani, an expert on narcissist relationships, as she explains the difference between closure and justice:<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/nhBnSpZMNNU?si=waDmkERUblK7UlyU\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. Rediscover and empower yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the aftermath of a relationship with a narcissist, it&rsquo;s common to feel like you&rsquo;ve lost a part of yourself. Your interests, hobbies, and personal values may have been overshadowed by the narcissist&rsquo;s dominating presence and needs. <\/span><b>It&rsquo;s vital to rediscover and empower your sense of self to achieve closure<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Begin by revisiting old interests or discovering new hobbies that excite you. Reflect on your core values and how you can live by them moving forward. This process isn&rsquo;t just about healing from the past; it&rsquo;s about building a future that&rsquo;s authentically yours.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"FAQs\"><\/span><b>FAQs<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationships with narcissists can be complex and may leave many unanswered questions. To help shed light on some of these challenging dynamics, we&rsquo;ve compiled answers to frequently asked questions:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Why do narcissists never give you closure?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissists often refrain from providing closure as it keeps their influence alive, maintaining a form of control and leaving their options open. Their <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/lacking-empathy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">lack of empathy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and self-centered nature contribute to their disregard for the emotional needs and healing of others, prioritizing their own feelings and agendas over closure.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>What is the best revenge on a narcissist?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The most effective revenge on a narcissist is thriving without them. Focusing on your own growth, happiness, and success demonstrates resilience and independence, diminishing their perceived power over you. Living well and cultivating personal fulfillment essentially diminishes their significance and influence in your life.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How do you emotionally detach from a narcissist?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-emotionally-detach-from-someone\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotionally detaching<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> from a narcissist involves setting firm boundaries, focusing on self-care, and redirecting your energy toward your own life and well-being.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s crucial to recognize and affirm your value independent of their validation, seeking support from friends, family, or professionals to strengthen your resolve and aid in your emotional detachment.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Can a narcissist be heartbroken?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissists can experience what resembles heartbreak, particularly when their ego or sense of superiority is threatened. However, their response often centers more on the blow to their self-esteem or the loss of control rather than genuine emotional pain for the other person&rsquo;s absence, reflecting their self-focused perspective.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Key-takeaway\"><\/span><b>Key takeaway<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not easy to get closure with a narcissist, but it&rsquo;s possible to create it yourself with the help of a therapist and your close ones. You need to find closure to break free from the narcissist cycle. Whatever you do, don&rsquo;t go back to the narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep working on healing and being a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/bring-your-best-self-to-your-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">better version of yourself<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. You may feel lighter and find a sense of relief sooner than you expected.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Are you trying to leave a narcissist? Brace yourself, as getting closure with a narcissist might be one of the most difficult things you&rsquo;ve ever done. Not because they love you and can&rsquo;t live without you but because they need you to be their source of narcissistic supply. A narcissist won&rsquo;t let you leave as long as you meet their needs. However, when the narcissist discards you, it&rsquo;s usually when they find a new source to fuel their ego. Then, the narcissist might ghost you one day without giving you an explanation. Grady Shumway, LMHC, says Leaving a narcissist requires <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1419,"featured_media":74635,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2507],"tags":[2726],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/74631"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1419"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=74631"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/74631\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":114072,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/74631\/revisions\/114072"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/74635"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=74631"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=74631"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=74631"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}